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Original poster

Fuming my sil exposed us to covid

46 replies

tropicalthunder · 22/07/2021 23:23

Please tell me if I'm over reacting or not?

Name changed.

My sister in law came up to visit her mum this week as the children wanted to see grandma and cousins (my dc)

I have a 3 year old and 1 month old. As they was celebrating dnephew birthday I went to the house today and have (HAD) plans to go tomorrow so toddler could play.

Got informed today from BIL that the reason kids were not in school because two of the children got told to isolate as class mates had positive covid tests.

My husband thinks I'm just over reacting and most likely we will all be fine.
But I feel so icky.

I feel like they've done this sneakily because throughout lockdown I followed rules and protected myself (clinically vulnerable and was pregnant)

Who's being unreasonable ?

OP posts:
spotcheck · 22/07/2021 23:25

Class mates had a positive test?

Cousins not positive?

I couldn't get worked up about this, really

Original poster
tropicalthunder · 22/07/2021 23:26

@spotcheck

Class mates had a positive test?

Cousins not positive?

I couldn't get worked up about this, really

I don't know if they tested or not. I mean they seem fine in themselves
OP posts:
Awrite · 22/07/2021 23:29

So, they didn't actually invite you?

They don't have covid?

Yes, I'm with your dh here.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 22/07/2021 23:29

So the kids are contacts?

Well, they arent following the self isolation rules but you feeling like you have been "exposed to covid" is, frankly, ridiculous.

AddsVsGeorgs · 22/07/2021 23:30

They suppose to of been isolating

They are out of order! 100% your right

Original poster
tropicalthunder · 22/07/2021 23:33

@Awrite

So, they didn't actually invite you?

They don't have covid?

Yes, I'm with your dh here.

They did invite me, if I didn't go, I would have been moaned at , they have even imposed im hosting a party at mine on Sunday.
OP posts:
LizB62A · 22/07/2021 23:36

They should have told you so that you could have made the decision yourself about whether to see them or not
Selfish behaviour by them....

Awrite · 22/07/2021 23:39

@tropicalthunder - apologies, I didn't realise you had been invited. Yes, they should have told you so that you could decide how much of a risk it is and if it was worth taking.

Imcatmum · 22/07/2021 23:40

They should be isolating burst the very least they should have told you in advance so you could decide. You've a 1 month old!!!! YANBU.

Tippytaps · 22/07/2021 23:40

You have a 1 month old and they want you to host a party? That in itself is unreasonable, add to it that the other children are supposed to be self isolating? I too would be fuming in your position

Tippytaps · 22/07/2021 23:41

YANBU

Flamingo30 · 22/07/2021 23:42

Yanbu

2andahalfpints · 22/07/2021 23:42

They should have told you, my dd last week was told to isolate by school as she had been in contact. Our whole house has it now and I am really ill with it!

RaginaPhalange · 22/07/2021 23:43

Yanbu and I wouldn't be hosting a party with a 1 month old

DeflatedGinDrinker · 23/07/2021 00:55

Yanbu op shows how much they care about you and your childrens health.

DeflatedGinDrinker · 23/07/2021 00:57

My friends son was told to isolate due to the same but she thought fuck it and wanted to take him to football so did one of those 30 minute home tests and he was positive. Did a proper test and positive. He was completely fine no symptoms at all.

Saoirse82 · 23/07/2021 03:45

Yanbu. So selfish, and with a 1 month old! I'd honestly be so angry over this.

Looubylou · 23/07/2021 03:58

YANBU

Blueberry40 · 23/07/2021 04:07

Yanbu. Your family is. Sorry you’ve been put in that situation op.

Pingued · 23/07/2021 06:29

YANBU. They should have let you make the choice.

LawnFever · 23/07/2021 06:32

Yanbu, they should be isolating and isn’t anyone concerned about exposing grandma to covid too?

Pingued · 23/07/2021 06:35

I was assuming grandma was aware but had said to come anyway. If not that is also not on.

ThinWomansBrain · 23/07/2021 06:40

YANBU - and if they are staying with your parents in law, did they discuss it in advance of arranging to stay?

sleepylittlebunnies · 23/07/2021 06:43

I’ve had 2 of my DC off at different times isolating due to a school contact testing positive. They have not left our house. School send parents the information telling them this. They have been very selfish in breaking rules that could put Grandma and a 1 month old at risk. I’d not be happy at DH minimising the situation either. I also wouldn’t see them again on this visit, let alone host a party.

Banani · 23/07/2021 06:57

The children should be isolating. If the family choose to break that then that’s one thing, but they should forewarn anyone they’re coming into contact with so they can make their own decisions.