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AIBU?

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Fuming my sil exposed us to covid

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tropicalthunder · 22/07/2021 23:23

Please tell me if I'm over reacting or not?

Name changed.

My sister in law came up to visit her mum this week as the children wanted to see grandma and cousins (my dc)

I have a 3 year old and 1 month old. As they was celebrating dnephew birthday I went to the house today and have (HAD) plans to go tomorrow so toddler could play.

Got informed today from BIL that the reason kids were not in school because two of the children got told to isolate as class mates had positive covid tests.

My husband thinks I'm just over reacting and most likely we will all be fine.
But I feel so icky.

I feel like they've done this sneakily because throughout lockdown I followed rules and protected myself (clinically vulnerable and was pregnant)

Who's being unreasonable ?

OP posts:

Underpaidsnackbitch · 23/07/2021 06:58

YANBU!

StepladderToHeaven · 23/07/2021 07:00

YANBU - they should have been honest.

Chloemol · 23/07/2021 07:21

Yanbu. They have been exposed to covid. Delta is extremely transmissible. They have a,so exposed your parents to it. Self isolating means they stay at home

No wonder cases are still rising

I would not be hosting Sunday

HelloDulling · 23/07/2021 07:24

They should have told you, and also granny. And preferably waited until next week.

girlmom21 · 23/07/2021 07:27

They've stopped the school bubbles now though, haven't they? So they could close the school but if the kids weren't identified as close contacts they wouldn't need to isolate?

CovidCorvid · 23/07/2021 07:29

Yanbu. I know of someone who’s husband has covid snd she isn’t isolating, she’s gone to work as a carer in a nursing home as she says she doesn’t have it. 🤷‍♀️ Guess some people here couldn’t get worked up about that either because she’s only a contact and not actually positive herself.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 23/07/2021 07:33

I personally wouldn’t care, I’m 3 wks under 18s won’t need to isolate due to close contact.but you should have been told to decide for yourself

Iggly · 23/07/2021 07:34

@girlmom21

They've stopped the school bubbles now though, haven't they? So they could close the school but if the kids weren't identified as close contacts they wouldn't need to isolate?

No, schools were advised to carry on if they wished with bubbles until the end of term.

The OP is right to be upset to be honest. If you’ve recently stepped into a classroom then you’d know why!!

RoseAndRose · 23/07/2021 07:40

If you should be in isolation then you should be isolating.

If you break that, then as a very minimum you should keep away from people unless they know you are breaking isolation and agree to see you anyway.

She's BU, as it rest of family. I would cancel all future meet ups with her until isolation time is up. I hope her family has not passed it on to yours, especially as you're CV

Pugdoglife · 23/07/2021 07:48

@CovidCorvid

But isn't that the governments plan now for care workers, nurses, food supply workers etc. They just have to daily lateral flow test and keep going to work.

Mansplainee · 23/07/2021 07:48

YANBU. I don’t blame them for not isolating, but they should have told you so you could make the decision.

ragged · 23/07/2021 07:51

why aren't you vaccinated, OP? Are you vaccinated but don't think the vaccine does enough to protect you from people who don't have covid?

EasterIssland · 23/07/2021 07:55

Yanbu

Someone I know had to be self isolating cuz of contact but decided to have friends around. Few days later this person tested positive

And this is how we’ve ended up with so many cases in July

tttigress · 23/07/2021 07:58

Seems like half the population is "isolatint", don't worry about it.

Covidcorvid · 23/07/2021 08:00

@Pugdoglife. I don't think it includes care workers and anyway this was the other week before any such change. Plus she was testing twice a week not daily. And also went out to non work places.

kirinm · 23/07/2021 08:03

In 3 weeks time they won't have to isolate. I would've liked to be told but I'm also not that bothered.

Iggly · 23/07/2021 09:16

@kirinm

In 3 weeks time they won't have to isolate. I would've liked to be told but I'm also not that bothered.

But we aren’t in three weeks time….

Original poster

tropicalthunder · 12/08/2021 19:48

Thought I would update.

My 3 month old has spent last 2.5 weeks in hospital because of covid.
3 year old is lethargic and slowly recovering after not eating for a good two weeks properly.
I've had a sore throat and cough for weeks too.

Found out today SIL did test positive 4 days after she went home but because her lateral tests were negative on arrival to visiting, she must have caught covid from my household apparently! Despite obviously her children exposed at nursery!

Take care everyone!

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Original poster

tropicalthunder · 12/08/2021 19:48

I know in my original post it says 1 month but that was just for vagueness.

OP posts:

Mindymomo · 12/08/2021 19:56

I remember your post. That must have been really frightening for your young baby. Sounds like your SIL will never admit to being in the wrong. I personally couldn’t apologise enough if I felt I had passed this on.

worriedatthemoment · 12/08/2021 20:03

Hope your baby is ok ? Awful of your sil to do at very least she should of advised so it was your choice
Even with fhe new rules I think if Im a contact and i continue I will advise those i mix with and still sd as best can etc
Currently I'm home unwell with a just a cough ,lvt negative and pcr negative and im still nervous about returning to work incase the tests have missed it somehow as I care about other people

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