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I asked partner not to eat a snack

37 replies

Ilovesleeeeep · 22/07/2021 20:33

DD 2yrs is a picky eater and very often doesn't eat much at mealtimes, however tonight she was at the table eating well and tucking into her veg.
Partner comes in from work sees her eating as the table is right next to the door and goes straight to the kitchen and comes out with a big bag of crisps (dd's favourite food) I say to him please don't let her see those as she will want them and she's nearly finished eating her veg, he completely ignores me and sits down opens them and of course she jumps down from the table and goes to him for crisps.
I'll admit I was annoyed so I snapped could you not have just waited until she was done as it was obvious she was going to want them, he flew off the handle threw a few f's at me and stomped out of the house.

I know if we discuss this later he will say he's an adult he can eat when he likes and she is a child and should do as she's told and eat her dinner and not expect the crisps but she's 2 and doesn't listen to reason at the best of times!

Maybe I'm completely wrong though, was I being unreasonable to ask him to wait 5 mins until she finished? FWIW the first time I said something I asked nicely!

OP posts:
Stompythedinosaur · 22/07/2021 20:39

Him swearing at you is a bigger issue than the crisps.

Stompythedinosaur · 22/07/2021 20:40

But obviously most decent parents wouldn't have eaten Crisps in from of a toddler who you were trying to get to eat her dinner.

ParrotShoulder · 22/07/2021 20:40

YANBU. Kids don't do as they're told, they copy.

Whatsnewpussyhat · 22/07/2021 20:43

What a pathetic man child.
You asked him do do a perfectly reasonable thing and he didn't. He has no respect for you at all.

CharlotteRose90 · 22/07/2021 20:44

I think you have 2 kids in your house not just one. I’d be cutting out all snacks or locking them away till he knows how to parent properly .

Duchess379 · 22/07/2021 20:44

He's an a-hole & you have bigger problems than your little ones eating habits. 🧡

Chickychoccyegg · 22/07/2021 20:45

He was being an idiot, which he proved by then swearing at you when pulled up.

RIPworkingmums · 22/07/2021 20:45

Yeah he was being a dick

mynameiscalypso · 22/07/2021 20:45

Part and parcel of being a parent is secretly eating snacks in the kitchen / behind a door / in the bathroom so that your toddler doesn't try to steal them instead of eating their food. He's a twat.

dottymac · 22/07/2021 20:46

Mine does this too, even after almost 8 years. So thoughtless. I feel the rage for you 😠

nimbuscloud · 22/07/2021 20:47

He doesn’t sound very nice.
Will he apologise for swearing at you?

AnneLovesGilbert · 22/07/2021 20:48

What a dick. He has no right to speak to you like that and storming off is proper arsehole behaviour. He’s also completely in the wrong about the crisps. You made a sensible calm request and he intentionally undermined you because he’s selfish.

girlmom21 · 22/07/2021 20:49

He's a twat for:

  • not thinking sensibly
  • ignoring you
  • swearing at you
  • swearing in front of your child
  • storming out
ScrollingLeaves · 22/07/2021 20:49

He shouldn’t have even needed to be asked given Dd was eating. He could have sneaked them out and eaten them away from her at
least.

It sounds as though he came home ravenous and tired and had a very unpleasant reaction to you trying to stop him from eating the crisps which was based on that, but that was a nasty scene.

Fluffyunicornstuff · 22/07/2021 20:49

Sounds like you have two toddlers!

He is setting a bad example on multiple fronts….

Ozanj · 22/07/2021 20:51

He’s a prat

MotionActivatedDog · 22/07/2021 20:51

Do you do the grocery shopping Op? I wouldn’t be buying anymore snacks. But I’m a petty fucker.

gingerbiscuits · 22/07/2021 20:52

@mynameiscalypso

Part and parcel of being a parent is secretly eating snacks in the kitchen / behind a door / in the bathroom so that your toddler doesn't try to steal them instead of eating their food. He's a twat.
Absolutely! What a ridiculous man-child. Him swearing at you, in front of her, is more of a concern, though.
daytriptovulcan · 22/07/2021 20:55

Hes winding you up and sabotaging the little ones mealtime.
Ask yourself truthfully, how shit is he in the rest of the relationship?

spinningspaniels · 22/07/2021 20:55

He was probably tired, and hungry, but speaking to you like that in front of your DC is so far beyond acceptable. He'd be coming home to find a firmly locked door.

LynetteScavo · 22/07/2021 20:56

He maybe an adult, but he's also a parent, who should be putting his own child's nutrition before his own hunger.

My DH would never have done that. My teenage son on the other hand.....that tells you how mature this man is.

TwatyKaty · 22/07/2021 20:56

@girlmom21

He's a twat for:
  • not thinking sensibly
  • ignoring you
  • swearing at you
  • swearing in front of your child
  • storming out
All of this is 100% right.
CasaBonita · 22/07/2021 20:59

He sounds like an absolute bellend. I would have been furious too.

Highfive2021 · 22/07/2021 20:59

How many meals does he make and feed your little one? How important is it to him she eats well, or does he see that as your job?

MittensOnKittens03 · 22/07/2021 21:12

Don’t let him or his snacks come back
What a vile manchild