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AIBU - getting to point kids shouldn’t be screaming in garden

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Throughtheforest2 · 21/07/2021 20:23

Live in a close where our gardens are close together

Most families have little kids including some babies.

Given we’ve all got early bedtimes to get through and it’s hot so windows are open - bit inconsiderate to still have youngsters outside screaming and playing garden at this time?

Don’t get me wrong, we all have noisy kids… just seems a bit late for this. AIBU?

Mine don’t seem too bothered by noise but I can hear another neighbours baby crying!

I get conscious of neighbours when my kids are outside at 7 and won’t be out much longer than that, and certainly would try to stop them screaming

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Sirzy · 21/07/2021 20:25

It’s the start of the holidays and lovely weather so I wouldn’t class 830 as too late

Heckythump1 · 21/07/2021 20:31

I can hear some kids.... somewhere.... couldn't quite tell you which direction :P but I can't say as I mind... the bloody seagulls are more irritating!
My two are fast asleep, I guess i'd be more annoyed if they were being kept awake, but they aren't. It's nice hearing children playing out and having fun!

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Throughtheforest2 · 21/07/2021 20:33

That’s me told then! I thought I was pretty tolerant, obviously not Grin

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aivilo · 21/07/2021 20:34

*Mine don’t seem too bothered by noise but I can hear another neighbours baby crying!
*
If their windows are also open perhaps you are hearing a baby cry in their home? In which case you're being very unreasonable. Babies cry.

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Throughtheforest2 · 21/07/2021 20:35

@Heckythump1 ah, I actually miss the sound of seagulls! They were never this loud where I was though!

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Willwebebuyingnumber11 · 21/07/2021 20:35

I don’t mind it too much either. It was far too hot in our garden today for my DC so they played out a bit earlier now it’s cooler.

It is tough when your DC can’t sleep though.

Indigopearl · 21/07/2021 20:36

We have got fans on which drown out any noise.

EileenGC · 21/07/2021 20:37

Summers are for late bedtimes. I grew up in Spain with a 10-11pm bedtime, and that was in preschool. If your children aren't bothered by the noise, I don't get what the problem actually is. 8pm isn't that late.

BlatantlyNameChanged · 21/07/2021 20:38

It's the school holidays and the weather is nice, it's that time of year when children will be playing out later and part of the 'thrill' of summer evenings for my DC is being allowed in the garden or park for much later than usual - two of mine are currently outside playing Swingball and another is playing on the trampoline at her friend's house.

LakieLady · 21/07/2021 20:38

Some poor bugger in my road has a toddler who's been having a tantrum on and off (more on than off) since about 7pm.

The alternate screaming and sobbing is doing my head in. I feel for the poor parents.

Sparklfairy · 21/07/2021 20:38

Depends on the type of screaming tbh. At my DMs there are two kids at the back that shriek and shout and the noise rips through me.

Yet in my flat I have a screaming baby above me which doesn't bother me at all.

That said, when I was growing up my parents and all my friends parents were pretty strict about being respectful of neighbours and not being too loud for too long iykwim. Kids get excited, but some kids 'just having fun now' seems to involve prolonged unneccessary noise.

Cuppaand2biscuits · 21/07/2021 20:38

My children haven't been going out to play until about 7pm because they've been too hot up until that point. They'll probably be out until I about 9pm tonight because we have school tomorrow but if they didn't I'd leave them until 10.

Willowtree999 · 21/07/2021 20:38

8.30 wouldn't bother me but I have older DC. Wasn't too impressed the other night though when it was still going on at 10.30, they even knocked on the door to ask for their ball back!

Ducksurprise · 21/07/2021 20:39

It's one of those things, when your kids are small it drives you potty, then suddenly it's your kids and it's reasonably and then suddenly your kids have grown up and it drives you batty and then your kids have long gone and it brings you comfort.

FourTeaFallOut · 21/07/2021 20:40

It's the summer holidays and it's been super hot today. This is probably the most comfortable time for them to play all day. I don't think you need to worry about the baby crying either, that's what they do.

Unless they are out there having a party at midnight you'll just have to toughen up.

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Throughtheforest2 · 21/07/2021 20:40

@aivilo maybe it’s me being an over-worrier. Its more that if it were my kids screaming in garden at 8.30 and I heard a neighbours baby cry, I would feel bad that I might be contributing to it
And even if I wasn’t, I wouldn’t take the chance that I was

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MotionActivatedDog · 21/07/2021 20:42

It’s better if your kids get used to sleeping and falling asleep with noise going on outside. Last thing you want is a child who needs silence to sleep. Because you rarely get silence.

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Throughtheforest2 · 21/07/2021 20:43

@EileenGC not saying it is a problem. I was interested, as if it was me I wouldn’t have the kids out this late because I’d be worried about neighbours
I’m just learning that I shouldn’t worry and can keep my kids out later than I thought!!

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FourTeaFallOut · 21/07/2021 20:45

I’m just learning that I shouldn’t worry and can keep my kids out later than I thought!!

Absolutely.

aivilo · 21/07/2021 20:45

[quote Throughtheforest2]@aivilo maybe it’s me being an over-worrier. Its more that if it were my kids screaming in garden at 8.30 and I heard a neighbours baby cry, I would feel bad that I might be contributing to it
And even if I wasn’t, I wouldn’t take the chance that I was[/quote]

Ah sorry I misunderstood your meaning. I thought you were complaining about the noise of the baby crying. But you mean maybe the noisy kids are making the baby cry. I get you now.

ForeverSinging · 21/07/2021 20:47

I assumed op meant that the noisy garden children were probably disturbing the baby who was crying because we all need our windows open in this heat.

Yanbu. 8pm is my absolute limit for garden noise and if there were any babies nearby I would make that earlier.

GiantToadstool · 21/07/2021 20:48

My neighbours' kids literally scream. As in shriek when playing, scream every time they are pushed/dont win/whatever and parent never intervenes. So they carry on screaming.
Tiny houses so even in my lounge I can hear the screaming. I hate it. I wish I could move.

GiantToadstool · 21/07/2021 20:48

I have no problem with kids playing noises. But shreiking and actual screaming I've not heads like this. I guess the parents are immune to it.

Draineddraineddrained · 21/07/2021 20:50

We've beenn being driven mental for over a year by twat over the back converting his house into flats to let - noisy drilling, shouty sweary workmen, weekend working etc. Now the tenants are here and the garden flat (well I say garden it's just an ugly af bare brick paved area) has been taken by a young family who live their fucking LIVES outside, loud music, loud talking and the kid (2/3ish?) never goes to bed and makes an inhuman groaning/screaming sound literally ALL. DAY. LONG. He's still at it now. I can't get my baby to sleep with the windows open, so I close them and we both stifle in the heat. I just wish people would give just a tiny fuck about their neighbours.

YADNBU OP. Or if you are I will die on that hill with you 😂

SafeMove · 21/07/2021 20:51

I'd rather have screaming children than the neighbours drinking, screaming, playing music and smashing bottles Angry Only bought this house 7 weeks ago and the noise is maddening. Someone was having a shouting conversation at the bus stop at 5.45am, I think this weather is testing us all!

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