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AIBU?

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AIBU - getting to point kids shouldn’t be screaming in garden

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Throughtheforest2 · 21/07/2021 20:23

Live in a close where our gardens are close together

Most families have little kids including some babies.

Given we’ve all got early bedtimes to get through and it’s hot so windows are open - bit inconsiderate to still have youngsters outside screaming and playing garden at this time?

Don’t get me wrong, we all have noisy kids… just seems a bit late for this. AIBU?

Mine don’t seem too bothered by noise but I can hear another neighbours baby crying!

I get conscious of neighbours when my kids are outside at 7 and won’t be out much longer than that, and certainly would try to stop them screaming

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HalfShrunkMoreToGo · 21/07/2021 20:56

We broke up for the school holidays 9th July here, had kids out screaming and bouncing in neighbouring gardens till 11pm every night. Must admit getting a bit fed up of it now, I know it's the summer holidays but it's hot and I want the windows open and screaming kids playing outdoor past 9pm makes it hard to enjoy the evening.

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Throughtheforest2 · 21/07/2021 20:57

@Draineddraineddrained 😂😂😂
Hopefully it won’t come to that!
At least I know I’m not coming out with something totally ridiculous!

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Throughtheforest2 · 21/07/2021 21:02

@ForeverSinging yes! We’re on the same wavelength!

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Hankunamatata · 21/07/2021 21:04

Dont mind mine being outside but no screaming after 7.30 or I bring them in. Screeching does my head in so they get told to quieten. Kids can play without screeching and screaming

letmethinkaboutitfornow · 21/07/2021 21:05

I don’t like kids.
We have a family with 5 kids next door.
They are absolutely the most well behaved kids I have ever met.
But!
They don’t cope with the heat at all. Especially the little ones.

What can you do? They were indoor all day, they need to release their energy.
I think YABU.

Wanttocry · 21/07/2021 21:08

I was actually just wondering what the cut off time for when it’s becomes unacceptable is. We have a grassy area outside the front of our house and there are two 7/8 year old boys (and a dog) shouting and screaming. It’s starting to really get on my nerves.

Daphnise · 21/07/2021 21:09

The screams of children carry an amazing distance- no one near me has small children, thank goodness, but nonetheless I hear screaming, and it's child screams.

Parents who can't control their children must just tune out after years of it.

wordsareveryunnecessary · 21/07/2021 21:09

We've just had a 20 minute play at basketball and it's been too hot before sunset

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/07/2021 21:10

Cut off was usually 9pm for us in summer. After that, we told the children to keep the noise right down or come inside.

Badabingbadabum · 21/07/2021 21:13

Mine are in bed as they are over tired, hot and complete arses. But half eight/nine on a lovely evening in the school holidays? No, fine.

GiantToadstool · 21/07/2021 21:15

Are people really okay with kids screaming all evening?

Im okay with kids playing and even playing loudly . But screaming is a whole different thing imo. I'd not let mine stay outside screaming. Once in a while if they're excited/end of term but general evening of screaming ss the norm. No.

EileenGC · 21/07/2021 21:18

@GiantToadstool

Are people really okay with kids screaming all evening?

Occasional screaming as a result of them playing wouldn't bother me. Constant high-pitched screaming is obviously not okay, regardless of the time of day.

FourTeaFallOut · 21/07/2021 21:21

My kids didn't/ don't scream - it's just not how they played/play but I don't mind other kids shrieking among their play. I don't like it when they are trying to out-shriek each other though but mercifully even their own parents don't put up with that nonsense for long

Lemonmelonsun · 21/07/2021 21:21

It's the first days of the month holidays and so much cooler at the night time.
I would certainly ask my dc to keep the noise down if they were screaming, but I wouldn't mind

What I strongly object to is constant loud music, fire pits smoke, strong weed smells constantly etc.
It's annoying but dc screaming a little wouldn't bother me

GiantToadstool · 21/07/2021 21:22

Yep . My neighbours scream. The OP has put screaming in her title so I am genuinely surprised other people are okay with it!

Screaming is ear piercingly awful noise.

Oblomov21 · 21/07/2021 21:22

I hate kids screaming and screeching. I just don't think it's ok.

We go to our caravan in Dorset x 3 or 4 times per year. Occasionally, and I mean very occasionally, in 18 years, you get girls who scream and screech in the slide, in the okay area. I hate it.

This week, being very hot, we live in a close cup-de-sac with small gardens that back into a communal square of grass. The family opposite, new? The young girl talks loudly and screeches a lot. I've found it painful this weekend, when it's been done hot, because it's been so quiet for the last 20 years.

Nurseynoodles · 21/07/2021 21:23

As someone who has to get up at 4.45am for work I think that everyone should be more
mindful of the noise they make in the evenings. I don’t mean silence but generally mindful that some people might be asleep or trying to be. Especially in this heat when we need our windows open to sleep.

Presently trying to sleep I can hear kids screaming, my neighbours having a loud barbecue, someone parked in the street with engine revving and music playing and someone singing loudly (the most annoying of all). Yet I’ll be the one being bitched about on the local Facebook group for daring to start my car at 5.15am!

blairresignationjam · 21/07/2021 21:46

With a new baby, our solution was to get a white noise speaker. It cancels out any noise out-with the room that it is placed in. A herd of elephants could go by our house and I wouldn't hear it. It's brilliant I can't sleep without it now!

pollylocketpickedapocket · 21/07/2021 21:48

@Draineddraineddrained

We've beenn being driven mental for over a year by twat over the back converting his house into flats to let - noisy drilling, shouty sweary workmen, weekend working etc. Now the tenants are here and the garden flat (well I say garden it's just an ugly af bare brick paved area) has been taken by a young family who live their fucking LIVES outside, loud music, loud talking and the kid (2/3ish?) never goes to bed and makes an inhuman groaning/screaming sound literally ALL. DAY. LONG. He's still at it now. I can't get my baby to sleep with the windows open, so I close them and we both stifle in the heat. I just wish people would give just a tiny fuck about their neighbours.

YADNBU OP. Or if you are I will die on that hill with you 😂

Don’t you ever go out?

Youdiditanyway · 21/07/2021 21:51

The baby is possibly inside the home with their windows open hence why you can hear. Babies cry, that can’t really be helped or changed.

The children screaming outside wouldn’t bother me too much unless it went on until, say, 10pm but I’d mostly be wondering why they weren’t in bed school holidays or not.

lllllllllll · 21/07/2021 21:55

Some of the replies on these sorts of threads make me feel so thankful for my lovely quiet neighbours here in London.

Vodkabulary · 21/07/2021 21:57

Kid out later play and the noise that comes with that fine maybe the occasional screech or scream as part of a game . Screaming on and on not so ok.

After 8 I ask my kids to keep it down and respect the neighbours.

SoniaD · 21/07/2021 22:06

If it's still light outside then I let my kids play and have a good time. Quiet time is when it's dark. No way I'm shutting it down at 7/8pm - that's so early. Go buy a sleep sheep if it's too loud for the babies .. the whole world doesn't revolve around fussy babies.

majesticallyawkward · 21/07/2021 22:18

Loud noises drive me crazy, I also live in a very peaceful street so am fairly mindful of the noise my dc make. All of our neighbours are elderly so I don't let the kids out before 8/8:30am and they're in before 7. We are friendly enough that if it's an issue the neighbours will let us know, and we are generally aware if somethings going on and will keep it quiet/go out.

I think 8/8:30 is the absolute latest I'd allow screamy aged children to be making noise outside.

I'm also of the option you should your music to a reasonable level, summer or not no one wants to hear anyone else's questionable musical choices.

Draineddraineddrained · 21/07/2021 22:38

@pollylocketpickedapocket

For the last 18 months when we've been explicitly instructed and at some points legally required to not go out very much? No, not very much. We have both been told to work from home since Covid and have now been told we have no office to return to and must carry on doing so (WFH makes me profoundly depressed but apparently that's my problem as workplace is saving money). Have a 4yo and now a 5mo baby. So actually apart from the school run and the daily trip to the park our lives during the pandemic have not been a jamboree of activity and home is where we spend most of our time. I hardly think that's unusual.

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