To not send daughter to prom

Malcolmtheladymayoress · 2021-07-20T22:01:39+00:00

My DD's class had a positive Covid test yesterday and is in isolation. Their year 6 leavers prom is tomorrow. The original venue found out about the positive test and cancelled the booking and now it's being held in a parents garden. My DD isn't going to the same school as any of her year and their last week has been cut short. My gut says not to send her,but she is trying so hard to convince me. I know what to do, but AIBU to say she can't go?

BastilleBastille · 20/07/2021 23:04

COVID has already deprived our kids of so much. Don’t deprive your daughter of her prom. It’s an experience (and an important one at that) to girls her age. She won’t ever get this time back. Let her go.

Maggiesfarm · 20/07/2021 23:05

Let her go.

Lynca · 20/07/2021 23:06

Let her go.

RedHelenB · 20/07/2021 23:07

Agree, let her go.

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Malcolmtheladymayoress · 20/07/2021 23:08

My thinking is ridiculously influenced by the parking of the parents facilitating the party (who I don't actually know). They always park on the zigzags outside the school and occasionally on people's drives and don't care about parking tickets. It makes me wonder how much of a crap they are going to give about the kids safety. I do appreciate this is a bit unreasonable on my part.

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Notimeforaname · 20/07/2021 23:09

I'd let her go..

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 20/07/2021 23:10

Why is this ok but the mum who wanted to send her child to summer camp got piled on? One child who should be isolating vs a class full of children who should be isolating...I know which one I'd rather take my chances with!

Is there a set list of MN approved scenarios where people can ignore the rules?

Notimeforaname · 20/07/2021 23:11

Your daughter is old enough to look after herself for a few hours no? Or do you think she needs the parents to keep her safe ?

BackforGood · 20/07/2021 23:18

Yes, because that makes sense.

Miss the last week of school and all the nice things planned so then all decide to go to a party together

Of course she shouldn't go - as the daft family hosting shouldn't be offering it.

user27424799642256 · 20/07/2021 23:41

@Malcolmtheladymayoress

My thinking is ridiculously influenced by the parking of the parents facilitating the party (who I don't actually know). They always park on the zigzags outside the school and occasionally on people's drives and don't care about parking tickets. It makes me wonder how much of a crap they are going to give about the kids safety. I do appreciate this is a bit unreasonable on my part.

It is consistent behaviour on their part then. That's not just inconsiderate but unsafe. I don't think that's ok or trivial.

I don't think it's acceptable for them to host and I don't think it's acceptable for her to go.

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Malcolmtheladymayoress · 20/07/2021 23:44

Thanks for the advice. She's 14 and spends most of her times hating me anyway, so a few more focussed days of No prom won't make much difference.

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AddsVsGeorgs · 20/07/2021 23:47

They have all been together anyway

I would let her go

cheeseismydownfall · 20/07/2021 23:51

@sparepantsandtoothbrush

Why is this ok but the mum who wanted to send her child to summer camp got piled on? One child who should be isolating vs a class full of children who should be isolating...I know which one I'd rather take my chances with!

Is there a set list of MN approved scenarios where people can ignore the rules?

Presumably it is because these children were all in the same bubble and so have already mixed vs mixing with a completely different set of children?

Bingomangoes · 20/07/2021 23:53

Yr 6 leavers prom but she's 14? Or have I misunderstood?

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 20/07/2021 23:54

How is your year 6 14 years old and moving to a different school? Are you in England?

GingerBrod · 21/07/2021 00:00

I'm confused about the ages too.

If those parents are generally a bit reckless I wouldn't let her go.

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 21/07/2021 00:10

There's a reason why bubbles are asked to self isolate. She shouldn't go and those parents are being irresponsible

jackstini · 21/07/2021 00:27

Depends on a lot
Is the person who tested positive going? (hope not but you never know!)
Can they all take LFTs?
Is anyone near you vulnerable?
Would she self isolate after?

If she's been in school with them all anyway 1 day more probably won't make much difference

Our school stopped isolation bubbles yesterday - what is the school's stance?

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Malcolmtheladymayoress · 21/07/2021 08:33

It's her year 6 primary leavers prom (would have been called a disco in my day). She is 11.

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Malcolmtheladymayoress · 21/07/2021 08:34

The regulations changed on Monday, but the school have isolated her bubble. It was a head teachers discretion.

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Malcolmtheladymayoress · 21/07/2021 08:36

I was thinking about my other child who is 14 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Lulu1919 · 21/07/2021 08:40

So her whole class and her are isolating ?

So no there shouldn't be a party SIMPLE
If there is ...then no my child wouldn't be attending

Darbs76 · 21/07/2021 08:42

Surely they shouldn’t be having any party if they are isolating? Seriously I’ve got Covid (double jabbed) at the moment, caught from my son who is 16, he’s had a bad time of it. This virus is no joke. Isolating doesn’t involve mixing in someone’s garden

Youdiditanyway · 21/07/2021 08:42

I’d let her go.

Drivingmeupthewall · 21/07/2021 08:43

@Malcolmtheladymayoress

My thinking is ridiculously influenced by the parking of the parents facilitating the party (who I don't actually know). They always park on the zigzags outside the school and occasionally on people's drives and don't care about parking tickets. It makes me wonder how much of a crap they are going to give about the kids safety. I do appreciate this is a bit unreasonable on my part.

This is absurd. So Covid is just a blind then? FFS.