Neighbours are going to get worse for the next 6 weeks, aren't they.

[MostlyMaple]

Just that really.

It is still relatively early but it is a Sunday night. Neighbours have bought a trampoline with loads of kids screaming and screeching on it all day and it shows no sign of stopping. Loads of adults squeezed onto the garden, shouting and hollering and playing music loudly.

I've seen a lot of nightmare neighbour threads recently- it is going to get worse for us over the school holidays isn't it.

Fast growing, prickly shrubs are on my list for planting at the end of my garden. My neighbours either side are lovely, but we have a new lot at the back who have screechy children, a trampoline and 2 dogs that yap and bark constantly. They will have to at least move the trampoline away from the fence.

I think that people have become generally more selfish over time, but the pandemic seems to have accelerated the process. My neighbours on either side seem to be trying to re-create the Butlins holiday experience with paddling pools, trampolines, music, party games and very late holiday nights. I did ask one of them if they could maybe wind things up by 9pm or so as people are still at work and their response was that their kids have had the worst year of their lives and they deserve to feel like this summer is a constant holiday.

6 weeks or so to go...

@30degreesandmeltinghere

We got a trampoline in April. Barely used now. Though dd did sleep on it last night.. She saw 2 shooting stars!!.

That sounds an amazing idea. I did consider sleeping in my hammock but the mosquito bites from just sitting out of doors last weekend were something to behold. I'd be parasite fodder! (Did see the ISS pass overhead on Friday night, though!)

@Fleetw00d

I wish I could afford to live somewhere with no neighbours and no one around, preferably surrounded by fields and woodland with no public pathway so no walkers. I fucking hate having neighbours, I hate hearing them talk (or sing at the top of their lungs because they're in a choir), smoking, bbq, have fun, laugh, I hate it all. I want silence, I dislike most other people hugely and have been known, even at uni, to knock on doors and tell them to keep it down. And summer makes it so much worse. I know, I'm a ray of sunshine 😂

Same. I am such an intolerant bitch. I absolutely hate my neighbours - they're scum, but even 'reasonable' noise annoys me. I just want peace and quiet. I don't want to hear people's shrieking kids, barking dogs locked outside, bbq stench, it all just enrages me.

@Aalvarino

When did people get so intolerant?? I love hearing people enjoying themselves and socialising in their gardens. I frequently don't share their politics or overheard concerns or way of raising their kids or music taste but... Meh. Such is life. I'd also hate to be so regimented I felt I could never make noise in my own garden. Different strokes innit?

Honestly I wish I wasn't like this! I wish I could just ignore background noise but god it makes me so mad.

Meh it's summer and the weather is roasting if you don't want to hear neighbours move to the middle of no where.

I live relatively rurally - I noticed in the local news a farmer has been attacked by a guy whose house backed onto his field, because he was baling at 6am. I wonder if he moved to the country to avoid annoying loud neighbours...

You can do what you like in your own garden but your garden stops at the boundary of your property. Too many people only take notice of the first part of that sentence...

The young kids on our street are fine to be honest. Its the twenty year olds who have moved back in with their parents and are having late night garden parties that are the problem.

There's a difference between day to day noise and playing your music so loud that people in the next street have to shout to talk to someone sitting next to them.

And there is a HUGE difference between late night noise and daytime noise. Yes children noise can be annoying but most young kids aren't partying in the garden at midnight regularly.

@x2boys

Meh it's summer and the weather is roasting if you don't want to hear neighbours move to the middle of no where.

I love when people say this - "just up and move somewhere else" 😂

Because moving house is so quick and easy and affordable apparently!

But it's OK to tell people what they can and cannot do in their own gardens @MostlyMaple? every summer on here people whinge and moan about neighbours enjoying themselves in their own gardens,, back in the real world people just have to rub along together, and accept that unless they live in the middle of no where you might hear your neighbours.

I absolutely feel your pain OP. I have such bad anxiety about the 6 weeks I am dreading it, the selfish teen ndn loves to play his explicit hip hop at full volume it's impossible to be on zoom calls when he does it. His parents couldn't care less.

@x2boys I'm not telling anyone to do anything. I've not gone round to anyone's house with pitchforks and an angry mob. Simply venting on an anonymous forum.

@peony2001 sounds horrific I hope it isn't too bad for you over the coming weeks.

I'm sat in my garden listening to the neighbours. Music up loud, forcing them to shout to be heard. Their talking is louder in my garden than I would speak to anyone sat with me. Their garden is two double decker lengths away. There's just no need to be so loud.
I've got a friend coming over and we may have to go inside to hear ourselves or shout really loud at each other. [Angry]

Seems the only people expected to compromise are the ones who don’t want to listen to their neighbours’ music at full volume. Can the noisy ones really not enjoy their garden unless it sounds like a 90s nightclub? Is turning it down a few notches really such an unreasonable request?

You can do what you like in your own garden but your garden stops at the boundary of your property. Too many people only take notice of the first part of that sentence...

Exactly - so noise should be confined to that space.

Thankfully I've got considerate neighbours.

@Sunbird24

Seems the only people expected to compromise are the ones who don’t want to listen to their neighbours’ music at full volume. Can the noisy ones really not enjoy their garden unless it sounds like a 90s nightclub? Is turning it down a few notches really such an unreasonable request?

You're exactly right.

@Fleetw00d

I wish I could afford to live somewhere with no neighbours and no one around, preferably surrounded by fields and woodland with no public pathway so no walkers. I fucking hate having neighbours, I hate hearing them talk (or sing at the top of their lungs because they're in a choir), smoking, bbq, have fun, laugh, I hate it all. I want silence, I dislike most other people hugely and have been known, even at uni, to knock on doors and tell them to keep it down. And summer makes it so much worse. I know, I'm a ray of sunshine 😂

that describes how I feel as well, For the last 20 years until I had to move recently I lived in rural spots - loved the dark skies, the peace and quiet, low traffic noise and feeling content. Unfortunately I reached the age to be convinced by my family to move to a nice suburb of a country town so I could access service like GPs ,railways for going on holiday etc (did not quite work out like that though ). I hate the BBqs my neighbour has as he had not learned the art of minimal smoke, I hate the yappy dogs (my own dog is a lovely quiet one), I hate the loons tearing up and down the main roads with souped up cars. Did I mention that I hate all the building work etc going on when no-one has the courtesy to let the nighbours know I can't get away at the moment, doggie and I retire into the house with a fan or I use earphones to drown out the neighbour noises as much as I can. Sadly everywhere is noise - tractors and boy racers in the country too. I feel your pain - I have never got used to it and never will. I get up at 5.30 am at the moment to walk dog and savour what bit of quiet I can before the world intrudes again. I know I am a moaning minnie and should accept the awful noisy world

I feel so very lucky to live in one of 4 pairs of semi-detached houses that are all occupied by older couples whose kids have left home or single people without kids. Even the house opposite is occupied by a childfree couple and the two children next door to them seem to be very quiet.

There's a house round the corner with a child of about 5 who has the occasional screaming tantrum, but she's never out all day or into the evening. Even the houses behind that have kids don't appear to have trampolines or noisy kids.

The little fuckers at the far end of the road insist on skateboarding the entire length of the street and that gets on my tits. And it stresses me out, as a couple of times cars/vans have had to slam their brakes on to avoid hitting them. I find myself holding my breath as the skateboards get closer, in anticipation of squealing brake noises, possibly followed by the sound of vehicle impact and screaming.

Solidarity OP. Our arsehole neighbour has spent the last month having party after party and still no sense of self awareness when even one of her own guests told her she was pissing her neighbours off. I dread to think how insufferable she's going to be now she can have all her extremely large (as in numbers not weight) rude family over all the time. not that it ever stopped her breaking lockdowns throughout. I plan on getting through it by being out mostly and headphones. Yeh I know you shouldn't need them but being able to tune it all out mostly really helps.

@LakieLady I understand that. Our arsehole neighbour lets her FDCs out unsupervised all the time. The amount of times I used to have a mini heart attack at the near misses as they bombed across the road without looking. I'm afraid the only real solution to that is to just to get to the level of not caring. Their responsibility to look after them not ours to babysit.

When did people get so intolerant?? I love hearing people enjoying themselves and socialising in their gardens.

Around the time the CF had a sex pond party until 3am on a Tuesday when DD1 had an exam the next morning. Funnily enough the couple behind werent too tolerant of it when they had a ten hour shift at 7am either. It's okay for her she can sleep it off. All the 'intolerant' neighbours she's disturbed can't. We got shit to do.

@Lilibet2022

Solidarity OP. Our arsehole neighbour has spent the last month having party after party and still no sense of self awareness when even one of her own guests told her she was pissing her neighbours off. I dread to think how insufferable she's going to be now she can have all her extremely large (as in numbers not weight) rude family over all the time. not that it ever stopped her breaking lockdowns throughout. I plan on getting through it by being out mostly and headphones. Yeh I know you shouldn't need them but being able to tune it all out mostly really helps.

Oh my Christ this makes me so angry. If it carries on I'd get it reported. Idiots!

Sadly there will always be inconsiderate twats who are so thick they have no thought for anyone other than themselves. We have some on one side of us. Lockdown puppy left to bark outside at 2:15am. I soon put them straight. Your choice to have a bloody dog but I don’t expect to hear it at that time nor at 6am either. If it needs to pee and you can’t keep it quiet, put on your damn clothes and walk it. Your decisions should have no impact on me.