Out of control dog disturbing baby in garden - help?!

[soirritating]

I'll keep it as brief as possible. Basically I have a 3 month old baby and we are often out in the garden in the pram in the nice weather. Sometimes she falls asleep whilst out there (obviously I put her in the shade and stay with her just rocking her etc).

My issue is that next door have a small noisy dog which seems to have some sort of motion sensor on it. Literally every time there's any sort of movement, like me standing to rock her from sitting, the dog runs to the fence (I can see through the small slats) and starts yapping very loudly. And it's constant, continual yapping, until the neighbour eventually comes and retrieves it and what I would describe as half heartedly tells it off, eg. "stop it, come inside". Dog ignores her and continues. By this time my baby is wide awake and crying. This is every single time we are in the garden and make any sort of movement. Her "tellings off" are also few and far between - sometimes she just leaves the dog to yap at us through the fence.

As well as waking her sometimes when she's asleep it has also given her a shock and made her cry her on one occasion when we were out in the garden on her playmat - the best shaded area is right by my garden fence so that's where I was sitting with her lying on her mat. Next thing the dogs comes bounding over and is yapping inches from where we are. She startled and cried instantly. I was so upset on this occasion I just went back inside.

I know dogs bark. I get that. But i have owned a dog previously and if it was barking through the fence every single time a neighbour and her small baby were out there I'd be taking it inside. She doesn't seem to do that. So often we just end up back inside so baby isn't upset and can sleep, which I don't think is fair.

I don't expect silence in my garden by any means. But a dog constantly up at the fence, inches from where you know there's a small baby?? I just wouldn't let this continue. I'm starting to feel like I can't use my garden.

AIBU?

@EL8888

Total PFB or PSB. I’m sure your children’s noise gets on the neighbours and the neighbours dogs nerves. That’s just the way it goes living near people

No it isn't. Plenty of people have dogs that don't aggressively bark whenever they sense movement through a fence. It would piss me off and I don't have a small baby.

PSB?? Minefield of abbreviations on here 😬

I really feel for you OP and can't believe how horrible some people are on here.

I don't think talking to the neighbour will help tbh. If they're prepared to let it bark like that they're not likely to take well to being told it's annoying. They'll be of the "dogs bark. It's what they do" mindset.

I have the loveliest neighbour in the world but her dog is the bane of the whole neighbourhood. It's just never ending, even when they're all out in the garden with the dog!

If the dog is barking because it can see you, and you're not allowed to put a better fence up, you'll probably be best off creating a temporary barrier - gazebo is a good idea, as is (fast growing) bamboo. Your local garden centre will sell all sorts of screening that you could attach to the fence for now.

Barking dogs are just down to selfish owners IMO. I have a dog and I'd never, ever allow her to bark and bark for no reason.

I hope you get it sorted. Everyone should be allowed to sit quietly in their garden 💐

@soirritating

PSB?? Minefield of abbreviations on here 😬

Is it precious second born? PSB isn't a thing, is it? 😂 I mean second borns are precious, but you know what I mean.

Yet another nc/ftp with a froth inducing post.

As Alan Partridge would say, textbook

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@WhatIsThisPlease

I really feel for you OP and can't believe how horrible some people are on here.

I don't think talking to the neighbour will help tbh. If they're prepared to let it bark like that they're not likely to take well to being told it's annoying. They'll be of the "dogs bark. It's what they do" mindset.

I have the loveliest neighbour in the world but her dog is the bane of the whole neighbourhood. It's just never ending, even when they're all out in the garden with the dog!

If the dog is barking because it can see you, and you're not allowed to put a better fence up, you'll probably be best off creating a temporary barrier - gazebo is a good idea, as is (fast growing) bamboo. Your local garden centre will sell all sorts of screening that you could attach to the fence for now.

Barking dogs are just down to selfish owners IMO. I have a dog and I'd never, ever allow her to bark and bark for no reason.

I hope you get it sorted. Everyone should be allowed to sit quietly in their garden 💐

You sound like a lovely neighbour - I wish you were mine!

@GreyhoundG1rl

I haven't got a clue anymore quite frankly😂

This thread is nuts.

Yes, dogs barking on occasion is normal garden noise. A dog barking constantly every time you dare to move slightly, to the point where you cannot use the garden, is not.

Suspect there are a lot of bad dog owners on here.

Precious second born... OK.

She is precious though!! ❤️

@HypocriteHunter

Yet another nc/ftp with a froth inducing post.

As Alan Partridge would say, textbook

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Nc/ftp.

Anyone? 😂

Of course she is

This thread is nuts.

I concur 😂

Just to add, the dog we had had issues with barking at people when she was a pup. We spent hundreds on trainers to help address the issues and I was mortified every time she did it, I'd apologise profusely to the person. So I get that dogs can be difficult to train, I've been there.

YANBU. Yappy fucker dogs are the worst, apart from their selfish owners.

If the neighbour had posted that she leaves her dog in the garden for much of the day, that is always barks at noise or movement in adjoining gardens and a neighbour had complained that they can't use their garden without being constantly barked at, the overwhelming response would be 'train or supervise your dog'.

We can all be a bit contrarian on here but this is next level.

@Ratalie

If the neighbour had posted that she leaves her dog in the garden for much of the day, that is always barks at noise or movement in adjoining gardens and a neighbour had complained that they can't use their garden without being constantly barked at, the overwhelming response would be 'train or supervise your dog'.

We can all be a bit contrarian on here but this is next level.

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NC - name change

FTP - first time poster

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This thread should go in classics for the most bizarre responses to a perfectly reasonable question ever on MN. What is wrong with people, is it the heat?

Your neighbour is a selfish, useless dog owner. The issue is that if she cannot see a problem with what her dog is doing, then you are not going to get far. Our neighbours let their huge dogs bark for hours on end. This is because they are and always will be selfish, entitled arseholes.

Op, you have done nothing wrong yet have had to defend yourself as though you were in court being cross examined by a barrister.

Go and have a word with your neighbour. Good luck with that. Councils often ask what you have done to remedy the situation and having a word counts before you proceed further.

@ForeverSausages

Oh thank you! I thought FTP was "first time parent" and I was about to respond (again) with "for the love of god, SHES MY SECOND!!!" 😂

[quote soirritating]@ForeverSausages

Oh thank you! I thought FTP was "first time parent" and I was about to respond (again) with "for the love of god, SHES MY SECOND!!!" 😂 [/quote]
Hahaha. PBS was a first for me. Honestly, if you don't fancy chatting to the neighbour put a screen of some sort up against the fence and throw some cheese cubes over the fence 😉.

This thread should go in classics for the most bizarre responses to a perfectly reasonable question ever on MN. What is wrong with people, is it the heat?

I suspect so. 😬

When you say she's your SECOND, do you mean she's your Selfish Entitled Child Objecting to Neighbours' Dog?

If so, then YABVUAITYSTALHLAY.

@ForeverSausages

Aw we used to give our lovely dog cheese cubes 😥 that's just brought a memory back...

@Ratalie

When you say she's your SECOND, do you mean she's your Selfish Entitled Child Objecting to Neighbours' Dog?

If so, then YABVUAITYSTALHLAY.

😂😂

I don't think talking to the neighbour will help tbh. If they're prepared to let it bark like that they're not likely to take well to being told it's annoying. They'll be of the "dogs bark. It's what they do" mindset
I agree, which is why I also think it's silly to repeatedly sit right next to the fence in full knowledge that a dog is going to be barking the other side of it.

The OP would be better creating a suitable shaded area in their own garden and working with their own garden instead to get the necessary privacy, not sitting inches from where they know a barking dog is going to appear and then complain that the thing they knew would happen happened.