Are all teenage girls self-obsessed??

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I feel terrible writing this but if I have to discuss either of my teen DD's personalities, looks, boys they like, boys they don't like, what they're good/bad at, who they look like, what colour hair is best on them, which top is better etc etc etc etc I"ll go NUTS.

They're 13 and 16...to be fair the 16 year old isn't as bad as the younger one as she's capable of discussing other things but they both do it!

I'm sure they're not like this with their mates...just me! I listen patiently, give an opinion when asked...is it always like this with teen girls??

Dd is very superficial and self-obsessed in some ways - into fashion, getting her nails and eyelashes done, the Kardashians, Love Island etc. I have zero interest in clothes, make up or celebrity culture so do find it hard to look and sound interested in stuff like that.

But she's also vegan, feminist, pro vaccines, was very anti Trump, went to some of the BLM protests last summer so does care about wider issues.

We've had a lot of debates about gender ideology lately. She thinks I'm a transphobe and I think she's too willing to give up women's rights in the name if inclusivity. Our arguments get pretty heated at times but are still essential good-natured and at least we're talking! (she spends a LOT of time as shut away in her room).

For the record after some comments made on here my daughter isn't shallow, isn't plastic, and talks to me openly about all sorts. She has a bright future and she's also very kind. If I called another young person who was into something some of the names on this thread there would be outrage. We are all different be a little kind. My eldest likes clothes, her image and she's lovely with it

No they aren't all like that. My nearly 16yo dd wears nothing but black jeggings and t-shirts, can't be arsed to brush her hair, has nevervworn make-up and doesn't appear to be interested in boys except that her two best mates are boys! She mostly talks about music and Minecraft YouTubers!

Neither of mine are interested in any of the stuff the OP describes, but they can be completely self-obsessed.

OP it sounds like they love you and feel very safe with you. In my book that’s good parenting.

No, my teen and her friends are not like this. They are not the "popular" girls at school though (her words not mine).

No. Mine never was.
Neither were her friends.

No they aren't.

Haven't voted as not a clue which is which, but all teen girls are not like that.
Many don't talk to their parents at all - other than a one word grunt to answer a specific question, so maybe focus on the fact they like to chat to you ?

Never heard the term plastic!
My teen girl is a mix - she loves clothes, changes outfits several times a day, has a boyfriend. But doesn’t talk about any of this, she may show me a new top but doesn’t ask for advice (she knows best!). She’s been really focused on her mock exams and excited to talk about moving up a set in one of her subjects.
So I’d say they’re all different.