Social Media trolls

[User57327259]

I have hesitated to post about this because as a result of my experiences I do not need any more nastiness.
I have a troll or trolls on Social Media. It has been going on for years. There are signs that the troll(s) might know an awful lot about me so I think they might be people I know rather than random people. At times I get more worried about this other times I think they are just cowards.
I have reported this to the various social media companies but no change. I have told Police but they say is it not bad enough for them to deal with. I was also told that as most of the social media companies are not UK so they are beyond local police.
I read about how the abuse of England football players is going to be investigated and those responsible will be named to police in the UK.
I am disappointed that I can not have the troll(s) contacting me investigated similarly.
AIBU?

You've done the right but I also think you need to do the right thing going forward.
Block them, delete SM. Friendships aren't over the internet they will still be on hand to text and call.
Or atleast block and not post where you are.

Sounds to me like you’re loving the drama.

You could block them but you’re not.

You can lock down your social media profiles but you’re not.

You could not engage with them but you are.

The police will have told you to do all of that which is likely why they’re really not interested, because clearly you’re not interested in making it go away.

What are they actually doing /saying which is unlawful or makes them a 'troll' though??

Is there a thread about you on tattle or something?

At the very least, you need to take charge of the situation and block them.

Of course the police won’t do anything; they don’t know who it is.

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult
Of course the op shouldn't be subject to abuse, but she really hasn't done a single thing to stop it at all and seems to be encouraging it so it's hard to sympathise.

That is some assumption there. I have been blocking people in case they have connection to the person(s). I have done huge things away from social media to take steps to stop this whole thing. I dont think anyone would want to be as worried as I am

@ElementalIllusions I am not friends with any of the people it might be. It is because of that I think this is a way of trying to find out what I am doing etc.

OP leave your current social Media accounts running. But set up new ones with very private settings and only add people you absolutely trust and are sure aren’t the troll.

Or you could block the troll and if they are going to turn up at your work then they’re giving you more evidence to have them investigated by the police. Give them enough rope to hang them selves.

I only spoke to police in the last few days. I do not have any unknown persons on social media. I do not accept any further friends or followers. I only communicate with people I know.
I am not loving the drama. I am actually in fear.

For my own safety in many areas I had to deal with things the best way I could. I felt so much better for a while and then this started

So what's this grudge you think is at the root of it?

Who it is, who it could be, why it is happening, what (realistically) they may do to you are all vital considerations in you deciding what to do. Be it police, ignoring, restraining order, blocking, hell, even moving!

Oh. It's not you who had the friend who turned out to be a nutter and accused you of some sort of financial abuse then turned others against you is it?
Apologies if I have you confused with someone else.

@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves I cant be too specific about the root of this. I used to be the underdog then I decided no more. I have done quite a few of your suggestions and still it goes on

Do you think you are or could be in physical danger?

For me, that would be the point at which I considered moving away.

@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves no I was not that poster but it could be a similar situation.

[quote User57327259]@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves I cant be too specific about the root of this. I used to be the underdog then I decided no more. I have done quite a few of your suggestions and still it goes on[/quote]
So I think it's time to get rid of it altogether

OP there is probably enough information in what they have posted for you to narrow it down to a handful of people. Unless your social media following is huge? You’ll probably have a gut instinct about who it might be to if you let your subconscious mind roll it around in your head a bit. Take a pen and paper and write down all the information they have divulged in their posts. Write down any dates you can think of that correspond to any of the information. Have a think about what you were doing on those dates, where you were, who you spoke to, what you said, etc. Then leave the pen and paper in your desk and walk away from it- go about your business. Try not to dwell on it and your brain will do some background work while you get on with normal life.

@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves your post 12.42 Tick

So you had a toxic family member who abused you, you cut them out of your life and you think this social media ‘trolling’ is their way of punishing you for cutting them out of your life.
You don’t want to cut off this form of punishment as although it does get to you it’s ‘only’ online abuse and if you cut their access to this form of punishment you fear they may return to trying to abuse you in real life.

Is that about the gist of it?

See the problem here, for the police is that you want them to do something about a troll.

But the person is someone you know and you are engaging with them. It doesn't appear they have threatened you in away. Or turned up somewhere looking for you.

Just that have been to a place that you go to.

If you are uncomfortable with the communication between the 2 of you, you should end it. Its not nice to have someone messing you that makes you uneasy.

However, that doesn't make it illegal. Especially, if you haven't told them you don't want contact with them.

In that case, it must be terrifying.

I know moving far, far away is a huge undertaking, I know it is. And I know it isn't always possible and it's certainly not easy But is it an option, to be free of this?

@MotionActivatedDog I have it narrowed down to a few people. All of them have reasons that fit. I just wanted to know who it was. I have taken most steps suggested with the exception of a restriction order. To have one of those you have to state what area you want the person not to enter. I don't want any area to be known. I don't know if you can get a restriction order on several people
@cookiesandcreamm do you mean I should get rid of all social media?

Yep, delete it all op.

@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves Tick that one too. This may be why they are trying to find out things but I disclose no information to anyone.

You've already moved?
Bloody hell. They must be obsessed!
I can only advise blocking them and being ready to call the police if they track you down. Are you keeping a record of everything? If you build up a huge stack of evidence that makes it easier to go to the police as you can prove harassment.

It sounda like you are actually replying to them. Them asking about event etc sounds like there are conversations.

Sorry, but it does sound like you are just not protecting yourself, letting this go on and even communicating. Block them fgs, zet your sm on peivate and be done with it

OP have....perhaps when you were a child....there been times when family were barred from seeing you? For your protection? If so it's really important to give family history to the police, your suspicions as to who this is. Don't just say trolls if there is a history of family abuse in which police or social services were involved as the police will respond very differently.

@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves It is scary that they are this interested in a person they claim to not like. I do not know exactly which one it is so I am concerned about that group. They are all in contact with each other so it as far as I know could be being done as a group. I don't know because I shut myself off.
I thought I was collecting evidence so police would help. I deleted nothing from old contact messages even though these are not used now. If any of them show up around me it would hopefully be seen by police as harassment.