Friend and money

[Jennybeans401]

I had lunch recently with my friend. Years ago we were both SAHMs and a few years ago I went back to work due to me and dh separating. I started a business using my qualifications from years ago and it's doing pretty well.

My friend is still a SAHM and has said a few snidey remarks in the past about my job. I've shrugged them off and tried to not let it bother me. Just recently at lunch she asked me how much money I was making every month, I gave an approximate. She then said, 'we'll my dh gives me £800 a month to spend'.

AIBU to think she's being a bit weird here? I'm happy for her that she's enjoyher life but it felt like she was rubbing it in that she doesn't need to work.

This is nothing to with a SAHP/working parent divide.

I'm a SAHP and probably will be for another 5 years. Most of my other Mum friends work in very demanding jobs. Not once have any of us made any snide comments to each other about this.

The problem here is that your "friend" is being a bitch. She either feel a inadequate and is jealous because she's not happy with her own situation, or she's decided that she's better than you because she's a SAHP. Either way, it's her being a bitch. I couldn't be friends with someone like this.

She has really become very materialistic.i feel blindsided because I didn't see how bad this was until now.

I do feel she's very 'one upper' she has to have the best, her family is, etc.

I find it all weird, I don't care whether she has a designer handbag or one from Asda!

@Jennybeans401

Last summer I bought a new car and she made a remark 'oh now you've got your millions you've bought a car'. Bit sarky. I make enough but clearly a long way off having millions!!

which really means she hasnt got nearly the amount of 800 a month shes boasting her husband gives her lol, more like a 50 quid a week if shes lucky id bet . all this talk of how much money her makes and gives her is a cover for how much less it is in reality id bet anything , which is why shes bent out of shape about the fact your now working

When you run your own business you can encounter a lot of jealousy and resentment from others regardless of your time of life. The snidey remarks cover a deep bitter envy that you have so much self determination in your life and earn your own money. Your so called friend has to depend on someone else to keep her. In effect she is a legal concubine whereas you are a business woman.

Honestly drop the people in your life who do nothing to enhance it. All that wasted time pondering over their words and actions in reality is only wasting precious minutes of your life

This is something I definitely need to do, I didn't see how toxic this person was.

Perhaps next time you meet her you could play an internal game of 'financial bingo' and every time she mentions money, give yourself a pat on the back. If you otherwise enjoy her company, then just stop caring about her opinions and one-upmanship. Meet up, smile, drink your coffee or whatever and then wave a cheery goodbye.