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How the hell do you meal plan successfully?!

122 replies

Burnt0utMum · 16/07/2021 19:13

I've tried repeatedly to do meal planning but it just never seems to work out. I do a mix of regular/easy meals with the odd new recipe here and there. First problem is anything that requires fresh ingredients go off before the end of the week so I have to go shopping more than once a week or not have fresh veg in meals near the end of the week. Second problem is people not just eating the specified meals. Kids are fussy and end up refusing most meals (can't even get them to eat basic freezer food so it's not just a case of not liking veg, they barely like anything). DH is also fussy and ends up making his own food with whatever he finds which could include ingredients for planned meals. Third problem is I don't always know where we're going to be and we end up eating out unexpectedly which throws the meal plan upside down too. Anyone actually have a way of doing it that works? Or do I give up?

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Chicchicchicchiclana · 16/07/2021 20:07

Meal planning is not generally a problem if you don't have fussy eaters in the house ... this seems to be your biggest obstacle.

Also, is it a problem to shop for fresh ingredients more than once a week?

How does your DH actually contribute to meal planning?

MsChatterbox · 16/07/2021 20:07

I would go crazy if my oh used ingredients intended for another meal 🤣. I do meal plan successfully but that's because I'm a bossy cow in the kitchen, I cook it and my family eats it. I guess it helps that I only plan meals I know everyone loves... Granted this would be a lot harder if there wasn't a wide choice. I don't have an issue with things not lasting the week though... As a bag of carrots etc will always be OK. Meat is frozen. Usually plan a quick oven meal for the last day (like breaded chicken etc).

Grellbunt · 16/07/2021 20:12

The word "disgusting" applied to food is banned in our house.

A few lectures about how we are extremely fortunate to have access to and be able to afford such a wide range of delicious food have helped, especially backed up by both sets of grandparents explaining how they grew up on very meagre rations of far less good quality and with very little variety.

Dishwashersaurous · 16/07/2021 20:15

How old are the children?

You need to tackle the fussiness of everyone.

Then joint food order with your husband and plan for the week

rubbletrouble · 16/07/2021 20:15

So, I'm not sure if I'm going to explain this clearly.
I will work out how many family meals we are eating at home that week so say 4, then I choose my 4 meals to cook.
List the ingredients on the shopping list

The other days that are just me and DS or added people like grandparents
List those meals write ingredients.

If I know Saturday I'm catering for more people, I ensure the date on that meat lasts past that use by date and put at back of fridge.

Then I basically just work through in date order of use by date on my meat/fish. So the dates determine the meal really. As I cook fresh every night, I can change my mind on meal but it will use the meat/fish that is first in use by date.

Sounds weird when I put it down, ConfusedConfusedbut it works for us Grin

Dishwashersaurous · 16/07/2021 20:16

Vegetables are fine for a week in the fridge

gogohm · 16/07/2021 20:17

It's why I shop daily. Can't deal with browning veg and soggy lettuce

Dishwashersaurous · 16/07/2021 20:18

Actually in your situation given that your husband is fussy too I think that you should go on strike for a month.

Tell him calmly as that he doesn't like what you cook for the next month he is cooking the family dinner every night.

Then leave him to it

TheNoodlesIncident · 16/07/2021 20:21

We also have a blackboard that the dinners get written up on. So handy to check in the morning if something needs to taken out the freezer to defrost. We meal plan, but mostly for DH and I, as DS is a bit fussy and mostly has beige. I don't like trying to work out what we're going to have at dinner time, I'd much rather know and have it sorted, else it's very stressful for me.

So on shopping day, we sit down with cups of tea and plan the week ahead. If either is going to be out one night then that is taken into account. One night we'll get a chicken for roasting, might include fresh veg but might be frozen. Next night is stir fry using some leftover chicken. Then maybe spaghetti bolognese (which DS will have), pizza (between all of us), fajitas, sweet & sour chicken with egg fried rice, cottage pie. So that's seven meals. (I tend to think of an eighth as a contingency.) On one side of the list I write the meals, on the other the items I need to buy for those plus our usual staples and lunch items.

Generally the use by dates dictate the order we have them in, and sometimes something comes up and the meals get shuffled into a different order. Occasionally some vital ingredients aren't available in the shop, I just make a quick substitution for the back up meal. I also expect DH to contribute as I don't see why I should be the only one to think up meals, all the time. That's not fair.

It works out well for us, as we tend to buy only exactly what we need and there's less waste food too. So a win-win.

Snog · 16/07/2021 20:25

We meal plan on Saturday mornings as a family and then order the food for 2 online deliveries, Monday and Thursday. That way everyone has agreement and buy in to the plan and the food doesn't go past it's use by date.

Family members are mindful not to use ingredients required for future meals.

Flexibility for unforeseen circumstances comes from having 2 deliveries a week, if we have too much food we just take a meal away from the next order. We also often schedule a DIY supper where everyone makes their own or eats up
Leftovers.

I think the main key to making it work is that there is buy in from the whole family and then you can work together to find solutions to refine your system.

The upfront planning does take a bit of time each week but it really pays off during the next 7 days when everyone knows exactly who is cooking what and when and all the ingredients are always ready and waiting. I also find it cuts down hugely on food waste.

Rioja81 · 16/07/2021 20:26

I tend to ask the family to pick a meal each, whatever it may be.

Have the same type.of thing on different days, so Saturday is pizza, Sunday is roast/BBQ etc

Other than that just have a list of 7 meals that will be had that week, without allocating them to a day

Snog · 16/07/2021 20:27

We also check our diaries when we do the planning to see who can cook on which day and also plan quick and easy meals for days when we know we will have limited time or will be tired.

burritofan · 16/07/2021 20:28

DH is also fussy and ends up making his own food with whatever he finds which could include ingredients for planned meals.
He’s the main roadblock. If he’s fussy, and can cook, he shouldn’t be (a) using ingredients intended for something else (b) cooking only for himself. Why can’t he do the meal planning and big shop, and cooking be split between the two of you?

I abdicated meal planning and food shopping a while ago because I hated it and was doing the bulk of the load. Now it’s DP’s problem. I just cook what he tells me to on my nights. Less spontaneous cooky joy for me, but also HALLELUJAH. Make DH do all this mental load for a bit.

EssentialHummus · 16/07/2021 20:28

We eat really repetitively (week on week as well as day after day). So I may buy a whole chicken to roast with potatoes, that does four meals for me, DH and the 3yo with tomato and cucumber next to it, then the carcass turns into chicken soup with pasta/noodles (I can't stand it so eat a salad or something that day). Then one ready meal like a cottage pie or similar, 2x meals of sausages with rice and salad, one easy one like an omelette, a takeaway on a Saturday. And some weeks it all goes out the window and we do Gousto instead.

I dunno. I basically buy the same things in Sainsbury's each week and cook repetitively.

speakout · 16/07/2021 20:34

gogohm
It's why I shop daily. Can't deal with browning veg and soggy lettuce

I am with you.
I shop every day. I appreciate not everyone can do that.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/07/2021 20:36

Get a cheap fridge thermostat and aet your fridge right. Only things which went off in mine was aldi and lidl veg but I don't think they are actually meant to last week anyway.
It will make a massive difference to your food waste and planning

SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/07/2021 20:36

No soggy lettuce if you put it in a box with paper towel😁

Hardbackwriter · 16/07/2021 20:48

What do you normally do about the kids' fussiness if you're not meal planning? Do they decide what they will have that night each day? Otherwise I don't really see why meal planning makes it any harder (though admittedly it isn't making it easier either) - if they unpredictably refuse to eat things they've liked before then does it matter if you picked it that morning or a week ago?

FusionChefGeoff · 16/07/2021 20:49

I plan 3 meals then have a leftovers / flexi day then plan another 3. Always look at diaries to make sure it's feasible.

Burnt0utMum · 16/07/2021 20:49

I'd love to go shopping each day for fresh food but time won't allow.

DH gets home far too late to be a part of dinner time when me and the kids eat so I can't really leave it all to him. He also cooks with a lot of oil so I very rarely eat what he makes. He does often make extra and leave it in the fridge for the kids to have the next day. Sometimes they eat it, sometimes they refuse.

I have been shopping in Aldi recently so maybe that's why the veg doesn't last.

OP posts:
rubbletrouble · 16/07/2021 20:51

We use Aldi and the veg lasts better In the fridge than most places we have shopped, it surprised us but made us go back again and again.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 16/07/2021 20:51

@EssentialHummus

We eat really repetitively (week on week as well as day after day). So I may buy a whole chicken to roast with potatoes, that does four meals for me, DH and the 3yo with tomato and cucumber next to it, then the carcass turns into chicken soup with pasta/noodles (I can't stand it so eat a salad or something that day). Then one ready meal like a cottage pie or similar, 2x meals of sausages with rice and salad, one easy one like an omelette, a takeaway on a Saturday. And some weeks it all goes out the window and we do Gousto instead.

I dunno. I basically buy the same things in Sainsbury's each week and cook repetitively.

You bought the MN chicken!
NoGoodAtMakingDecisions · 16/07/2021 21:00

I meal plan for 3 days at a time. We eat out often and if I get 3 days of food planned then there's always a meal in.

I obviously always get the longest possible use by dates on food so it usually lasts 5 days altogether.

BewareTheBeardedDragon · 16/07/2021 21:07

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Get a cheap fridge thermostat and aet your fridge right. Only things which went off in mine was aldi and lidl veg but I don't think they are actually meant to last week anyway. It will make a massive difference to your food waste and planning
I shop at Aldi and loads of stuff lasts over a week. Depending on what it is - obv lettuce is shorter but carrots, courgettes, tomatoes, broccoli, aubergines etc etc last perfectly from my local Aldi.
EssentialHummus · 16/07/2021 21:09

You bought the MN chicken!

Grin I know it sounds like that but it really works for the three of us. I don’t have a third iteration of chicken risotto/chicken pie/chicken sandwiches at least!

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