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Original poster

To ignore the track and trace pp

46 replies

anon198622 · 14/07/2021 16:58

I have just been pinged to say I have to isolate for 10 days. I imagine it was from
Soft play as I had to check in there.

Usually I am a stickler for the rules and wouldn't even contemplate ignoring this however it is my parents 50th wedding anniversary party at the weekend and they have gone to so much effort arranging catering and photographer and entertainment for the family. My mum has asked me not to say anything to my brother and sister and to ignore it. The whole family has been double jabbed and obviously the rules will be changing next week so that if I was a week later I wouldn't even be contacted....

I'm so torn. Going against the rules isn't in my nature but I don't want to disappoint such an important family event and the fact it's ending next week too does make me think perhaps it's okay just this once? I'm planning on doing lateral flow tests every day.

AIBU - just ignore it and go to the party?

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LtDansleg · 14/07/2021 17:06

Personally I wouldn’t hesitate to go. I know what people on here are like for rules though. Why have common sense when you can have rules..

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anon198622 · 14/07/2021 17:08

Thank you. I suppose because I'm keeping it a secret from the family that's what's making me feel so anxious about it.

I'm also meant to be going out for dinner Friday and school runs etc. If I ignore for the anniversary party do I just ignore for all of it and go about life as normal trusting the lateral flow tests Confused

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FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 14/07/2021 17:08

I would go. This 10 day isolation for double jabbed people is ridiculous. I have exhausted my patience for complying - which I did religiously at the beginning when it was made out that COVID would start an apocalypse - but not now

NavigatingAdolescence · 14/07/2021 17:09

Could be anywhere - it’s based on Bluetooth proximity, not where you check in.

Smarshian · 14/07/2021 17:09

I would go and just test with lateral flows daily.

balzamico · 14/07/2021 17:09

Everyone I know has turned off the contact tracing or deleted the app altogether because of this type of scenario.
It's advisory only, if you feel that you weren't sat too close to anyone for 15m then you could ignore- this is the personal responsibility bit that the govt are talking about

Unanananana · 14/07/2021 17:12

Ignore and delete that ridiculous app. Its not fit for purpose.

Enjoy the party!

gamerchick · 14/07/2021 17:12

The rules on isolating are ending in August. Not next week.

It's up to you. Personally I think there are few people isolating because the app tells them to anymore. Test and trace contacting you, fair enough.

Original poster
anon198622 · 14/07/2021 17:12

Would you insist on telling the rest of the family or just stay quiet?

Would you still go about your day with all your other plans too?

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ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 14/07/2021 17:13

I never even downloaded it🤷‍♀️

so no YANBU. delete it

Thehop · 14/07/2021 17:14

The app is advisory, you don’t have to follow it. Delete the app.

PurpleSunrise · 14/07/2021 17:17

Being a contact with positive case is one of the reasons you can get a PCR test, which are very sensitive. Personally I would book a slot at a test site (not home test which takes longer) and hopefully results would come back by weekend. Of course if negative it would only mean it didn’t detect infection at the time you took the test and you could develop over weekend, but still a lot of assurance

Ohshitiveturnedintomymother · 14/07/2021 17:18

I got pinged the other week when I hadn’t left the house other than to drive myself to a self service petrol station where I was only there for a couple of mins outside and paid at pump. No one within 5m let alone 2! I deleted it and ignored the self isolate. No idea how I was in contact and it highlighted how inaccurate the app is. All I can think is that I was in a traffic jam and was technically within 2m of someone then.

LouLou198 · 14/07/2021 17:19

It won't be from the soft play. I only learned this last week but anywhere you check in, they don't trace you, you just get advised to be careful. The ping will have come from the app. Could have been someone you walked past in the supermarket, or your next door neighbour. Delete it, it's not fit for purpose.

SiSiSi · 14/07/2021 17:19

Delete the app.

Cooldryplace · 14/07/2021 17:22

I would plan to go, but I'd test, test and test again in the interim.

I'm not checking in anywhere unless they force me to. No where has so far.

doubleshotespresso · 14/07/2021 17:27

OP i think this is one of those "apply common sense" type of situations surely? A 50th anniversary party will likely have many older/vulnerable guests wouldn't it? How would you feel if you were to pass it on? It's the keeping it a secret from those attending that would sit incredibly badly with me-I'm sorry I would sit this one out, but accept we and lots on this thread tooare all tired of this isolation stuff at this stage.

Squirrelblanket · 14/07/2021 17:29

Ignore it and delete the app.

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anon198622 · 14/07/2021 17:30

@doubleshotespresso

OP i think this is one of those "apply common sense" type of situations surely? A 50th anniversary party will likely have many older/vulnerable guests wouldn't it? How would you feel if you were to pass it on? It's the keeping it a secret from those attending that would sit incredibly badly with me-I'm sorry I would sit this one out, but accept we and lots on this thread tooare all tired of this isolation stuff at this stage.
It's only my immediate family so no vulnerable older people (other than my parents but they want me to still go and ignore). They are healthy and double jabbed...
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Cooldryplace · 14/07/2021 17:33

The celebrant is £228 and provided he does a decent job, I didn't think that was too bad. He visited us to talk about DH, will write the eulogy (which I'm sure is a very standard template, but would have taken me days) he helped with choices for readings and prayers (again easy for him, I imagine) and dealt with the printers re the order of service, plus co ordinaring things on the day. That seems decent value to me, at least compared to £82 for the GP to (electronically) sign off someone else's paperwork!

Mansplainee · 14/07/2021 17:33

I would do a PCR test now and daily lateral flow tests and if all clear up to the party then accept that it’s very low risk that you have CV and therefore no reason why you shouldn’t go to the party. Obviously if you develop symptoms then test again and isolate.

Cooldryplace · 14/07/2021 17:33

Oops sorry, entirely the wrong and inappropriate thread Blush

toocold54 · 14/07/2021 17:56

If the rules weren’t changing then I’d say stick to the rules but it’s pointless if they’re changing now anyway. Definitely go!

toocold54 · 14/07/2021 17:56

I would do a PCR test now and daily lateral flow tests and if all clear up to the party then accept that it’s very low risk that you have CV and therefore no reason why you shouldn’t go to the party. Obviously if you develop symptoms then test again and isolate.

Fantastic idea!

Spidey66 · 14/07/2021 17:59

If it's track and trace, its telling you when your parcel is due.

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