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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To ignore the track and trace pp

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anon198622 · 14/07/2021 16:58

I have just been pinged to say I have to isolate for 10 days. I imagine it was from
Soft play as I had to check in there.

Usually I am a stickler for the rules and wouldn't even contemplate ignoring this however it is my parents 50th wedding anniversary party at the weekend and they have gone to so much effort arranging catering and photographer and entertainment for the family. My mum has asked me not to say anything to my brother and sister and to ignore it. The whole family has been double jabbed and obviously the rules will be changing next week so that if I was a week later I wouldn't even be contacted....

I'm so torn. Going against the rules isn't in my nature but I don't want to disappoint such an important family event and the fact it's ending next week too does make me think perhaps it's okay just this once? I'm planning on doing lateral flow tests every day.

AIBU - just ignore it and go to the party?

OP posts:

NotExactlyHappyToHelp · 14/07/2021 18:07

I’d get a PCR then if that was negative I’d do a lateral flow and check my temperature daily.

I’ve just isolated from my app pinging but it was my sister who’d tested positive so I knew what the cause was and that I had been in close contact with her.

They’re already trialling daily lateral flow tests instead of an isolation period.

flumposie · 14/07/2021 18:08

I'd go. This week 2 of my students tested positive, one sat directly on front of me. Have not been told to isolate or on any other occasion where a pupil in my class tested positive. Today I deleted the app, seems utterly pointless and double standards. I am still doing tests at home though.

Original poster

anon198622 · 14/07/2021 18:11

@Spidey66

If it's track and trace, its telling you when your parcel is due.

Hahaha!!

OP posts:

EleanorOlephantisjustfine · 14/07/2021 18:17

@anon198622

Would you insist on telling the rest of the family or just stay quiet?

Would you still go about your day with all your other plans too?

Imagine how you’re going to feel if you go and it ends up with lots of park goers coming down with Covid.

You’ve no idea whether you have it. You could be symptomatic. Could you at least take a test for the next days leading up to the party.

Personally I wouldn’t take the risk. Not because of rules but because I’m naturally risk averse. After still struggling with my lungs nine months after being very ill with covid, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

Fleek · 14/07/2021 18:22

I'm a real rule follower and I'd ignore it. I'd do a lateral flow before the party but otherwise, enjoy your weekend.

Thisseatisnotavailable · 14/07/2021 18:22

Ignore the stupid, not fit for purpose app. It's only if you get contacted in person from test & trace that you legally have to isolate. As a pp said, if you want to feel better about ignoring it go and get a pcr test to put your mind at rest.

Overthebow · 14/07/2021 18:26

Was it the app that said to isolate or t&t? If t&t then I’d isolate. If it’s the app, check when the contact was and see if it’s likely or not and make a decision from that. Definitely do tests.

UnChatNoir · 14/07/2021 18:41

Ignore and go; the app isn't legally binding anyway.

Oh, and turn off contact tracing too.

quizqueen · 14/07/2021 18:43

Turn the bloody thing off. All these tests etc. are made in China, I wouldn't trust any of them

NavigatingAdolescence · 14/07/2021 18:46

@quizqueen

Turn the bloody thing off. All these tests etc. are made in China, I wouldn't trust any of them

Out of interest, what device did you type that message on?

olivethegreat · 14/07/2021 18:48

I was thinking about this as it seems rife in dd's year and we are going on holiday a week after school ends (including uk flying). If she gets told to isolate I think we will do it for a week and do daily lateral flows and maybe a pcr a day or so before the flight but I wouldn't miss the holiday for an isolation system which is ending soon anyway .

Definitely go OP and do all the tests in the run up

Demelza82 · 14/07/2021 18:54

People like you OP are a significant part of why cases are rising. I have a significant family wedding that I will miss in the next 10 days in which my husband and son play a significantly bigger part than you will at your parents 'party' yet we know what will have to happen and are prepared for that as we aren't ignorant twats.

Imnothereforthedrama · 14/07/2021 18:54

The rules are not changing next week for isolation it’s in august. I’d just keep testing and only isolate if a positive test .
I’m not isolating again now unless I know I’ve been in contact with someone who’s tested positive.

Imnothereforthedrama · 14/07/2021 18:59

@Demelza82

Sorry but people are done with missing important occasions . If tested positive absolutely if you know you’ve been in contact absolutely but if you’ve been pinged because a small chance you’ve been in contact with a random stranger nah . That app is rubbish so no I’d book a pcr test and keep taking lateral flow tests .

a8mint · 14/07/2021 19:06

delete and ignore the stupid app.As for LFTs, you might as well flip a coin

UnChatNoir · 14/07/2021 19:17

@Demelza82

Oh here we go

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 14/07/2021 19:19

@UnChatNoir I know, if people want to stay indoors for no logical reason and Miss out on their fun then fair enough but getting huffy over others not doing the same is just weird

chesirecat99 · 14/07/2021 19:32

@anon198622

Would you insist on telling the rest of the family or just stay quiet?

Would you still go about your day with all your other plans too?

I'd be furious if you had been told to self isolate, went to the party and didn't tell me. Given that your DM has told you not to tell your siblings, I would assume that she thinks that they might not want you to come or won't come if you go. Why tell you to lie if they wouldn't be bothered?

Would you be happy if a guy you were dating had been told his ex had herpes, he didn't tell you and continued having unprotected sex with you?

If you have been told to isolate for 10 days from today, that means you were exposed to the virus yesterday. Therefore, the person must have tested positive yesterday or today, so it's likely they were at their most infectious yesterday if the test was prompted by the onset of symptoms.

LFTs are a waste of time, they are so inaccurate. A PCR test would be better but it is too soon to test if you were only exposed yesterday.

It's all very well to say apply common sense, the risk is low as everyone is double jabbed, but I think you should let everyone decide for themselves if they want to take the risk.

INeedNewShoes · 14/07/2021 19:35

In this situation I know I would find it playing on my conscience the whole time I was there.

Out of interest, why did you download the app?

I'd be more concerned about Covid at a soft play place than many other places because kids won't be distancing or wearing masks and all using the same equipment.

Having enjoyed a couple of months of feeling more relaxed I'm now taking it more seriously again because I know 9 double vaccinated people who have caught Covid in the past 3 weeks and some of them have felt absolutely dire and, at times, a bit unnerved by it.

notapizzaeater · 14/07/2021 19:42

I'm double jabbed and currently counting down the days - I was pinged on the App on Monday - I'm isolating till Friday night. I was at butlins last week so presume someone there tested only when they got home so only 5 days isolation. I've had to cancel and rearrange loads this week but I'm doing it because if everyone ignores the rules what do you think will happen. I had a PCR yesterday which was negative but still need to isolate.

hummasandcondensedmilk · 14/07/2021 19:55

Ignore it and delete the app.
I never even downloaded it.
Covid is not going anywhere, it will develop into new strains and I certainly don't want to live like this for the rest of my life. We are going to have to learn to live with it and I hope sooner rather than later.

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