DD is lovely, kind and curious. As my eldest, and with little experience of other people's children I didn't really pick anything up of what babies do at what age. She was early to crawl and walk, late when she started talking.
It was very difficult to settle her into childcare. Once we had three months of settling in sessions at a nursery before I switched to a childminder. The childminder was lovely but did admit she was the most difficult to settle in her twenty years of experience! My dd always was very attached to me, and even now won't let me go to the car (which is on our drive) without her.
The childminder questioned autism at 3 due to my dd putting her hands on her ears a lot. She is very noise sensitive and repeated things over and over (like a script.) Her understanding was good and she got on well with other kids, however she was very distressed when they got upset, often crying for way longer than they did.
Fastfoward to her being six and I'm still not sure. She's been to preschool and school and neither have raised it. She has a care plan for anxiety, which her preschool introduced, and at the time I felt they weren't telling me everything.
School say they don't formally start looking into things until they are 7 (she's 6) but I only know this because a friend is waiting for SENco support from them for her son. I worry that school won't pick this up, as she's not a management issue at all. She finds it very hard to concentrate and often won't stop moving when asked to do tasks, it's like a compulsion to fidget. We often do maths whilst playing so she has something to do with her hands.
I suppose what I want is an answer one way or another. Her godmother thinks she might have ADHD and autism, as she thinks DD is very similar to her sister who has these diagnosis's.
Just wondered if anyone could help me understand whether I should have known or whether this is sometimes a complete shock (not in a bad way) to the parents too.