To say that their lives have thrived without me?

[LemonSherbetFancies]

I am having a down day and been in tears all evening.
Something made me look back at people I used to know. One, my former best friend who hurt me deeply, another friend who stole from me and who told me that she was not surprised I had been made redundant. Then an old boss who bullied me and would constantly yell at me.
Well, all of them on Facebook and Google searches all have great lives and seem incredibly happy. Aibu to say I must be pretty pointless if I am so easily removed from people's lives who I used to once be very close to over a period of many years?

Bullies choose their victims OP. That's on them not you.

Don't let other people's nasty behaviour dictate your life OP. You are worthy

If you look at my ex husband social media he has a fantastic life wonderful children girlfriend works for himself etc etc reality is this

Multiple arrests for violence against women and children

One child doesn't see him one sees him occasionally for an hour

No fixed address

His car etc is payed for by his girlfriend he fiddles his benefits to survive

No real money earned by his "business"

He has many many business ideas which fail because he doesn't put in the work or he does but he wastes the money on "stuff"

But on social media he is a great dad hard worker lovely bloke just "unlucky"

Would you be happier if these people you used to be really close to were miserable?

Did you expect their lives to have fallen apart because you fell out with them?

Relationships and friendships end all the time. You have to just move on and build new ones. It doesn't mean they didn't value your friendship.

Op, I could put pics and quotes on things that might make my life look pretty amazing. I bet you could too.

My life is pretty normal, with ups and downs. Just like most people’s, most likely yours too.
If people only put the ups on social media, then that’s all they’re showing and it looks fab.
It’s not full reality.

Facebook and Google searches tell you absolutely zero about a persons life. Just what they want you to see. Why do you care so much though? I couldn’t care less about the people in my past and wouldn’t expect them to spend their time thinking about me (just as I don’t think about them). You need to move on with your life.

Someone who bullied me wasin town being screamed at by her child in the 5 minutes it took for me to recognise her speed up past her I heard about his abandonment issues due to her drug abuse and multiple arrests

It didn't make me feel better or happier to know someone who was unpleasant years ago had an unpleasant life weirdly it made me feel sad

Your having a bad time it happens but looking up other people isn't helping you x