[quote jacks11]@DrDresaid
I wasn’t aiming to make OP “feel better“- I am fed up of the hyperbole surrounding a football match, albeit a major tournament. It’s fine to be disappointed about losing, it’s a shame if your team don’t win (though if the English media could contain themselves until they have actually won the tournament it would be appreciated by some of us), but “heartbroken” or “devastated” and. “It’s a tragedy”? Really? I think it is OTT and ridiculous. I think anyone using these terms does need to get a grip.
You know what is a tragedy? Today I had to tell a young man and his wife that he has an incurable, inoperable diagnosis and will not live to see his youngest child’s first birthday or his older child’s first day at school. He and his wife are utterly and completely devastated. Understandably so. This hyperbole over a match is unedifying. Today I also told another patient that they have a progressive degenerative disease which medication can stall, but not cure, and will eventually kill them. But before it does that, it will give them significant symptoms which will have a huge impact on their quality of life. They are essentially living with a death sentence, of unknown duration. That patient is also “devastated”. So, you’ll have to try to forgive me for not having a huge amount of patience with this ridiculous notion of England losing a football match being a complete tragedy which requires national mourning.
I think your team losing a sodding football match is not a tragedy, it’s a disappointment. So, I cannot muster any sympathy for the OP. I feel sorry for the footballers who are being racially abused- that is awful and completely unacceptable. However, I don’t feel sorry for them because they missed a penalty- nobody was seriously harmed and those 3 footballers will still have their jobs to go back to at the end of this (and most likely will still have a place in the national team in the future), they will still be very well paid, and will still be feted as “hero’s” for simply doing their job very well- so whilst I’ve no doubt they’ll be upset and have their regrets, I do think in the grand scheme of things that they are doing ok and will probably be better off in the long run than most.[/quote]
Really? I know medical professionals have had an awful year. But don't you have any empathy apart from people who aren't in the worst situation.
I am Irish and mixed race. I didn't watch the game, I was travelling yesterday for work and had an early night. Fireworks woke me up so I did see the penalties, but can't comment on the whole game.
Read this thread, people aren't just upset about England lost a game. I was sat, I had empathy with with the young men playing. I had real concern for the 3 young back men who took penalties. Not because they lost a game. I didn't even need to say anything. My white, English, dp said 'someone needs to protect those lads. It's shouldn't happen, but it will'. He was disappointed, not devastated. But was he was concerned about what was the awful stuff that was going to happen.
Most people recognise, that those lads were vulnerable to verbal attacks and potentially worse. Its another reminder to us that our skin colour, means we are more vulnerable to abuse. Lots of PoC recognise that not matter how well we do, when we have additional things to worry about.
I was in an abusive relationship. I was so grateful that dp wouldn't abuse me. That made me sad. That somewhere inside I still feel grateful dp isn't an abuser rather than it being the default.
Earlier on Sunday I felt quite upset at the people fighting before the game. The twats that, tried to force their way into Wembley nearly stopping the game, probably ruined future bids for England and clearly don't really care about the game at all. Their arrogance just told them they had a right to be there. And yet again, England fans look like thugs when the majority are not. I knew other countries, would make a big thing about it because its England. Despite their own fans not being much better. Again making thousands of people look like hooligans, when they most aren't.
And after the last year, when people are feeling sad, angry, stressed etc its unlikely to be just about that one things. And surely, a medical professional should know that. Have you never seen your patients get really annoyed or upset of something trivial. Surely you know, it's not about the trivial thing?
I cried on my 37th birthday. The entertainment for my birthday was a dog walk. I didn't see my parents or anyone because it was in lockdown. I rarely celebrate my birthday anyway. Dp was taken aback because I don't really cry, until he realised I cried because
My dad worked in the NHS and I was worried he would catch covid and die. Or he would bring it home to my shielding mum and she would die. But neither of them would be separated. And they wouldn't put their kids at risk by staying with them. Mum was especially upset at thought of being separated from dad.
Because most of the company I worked for was furloughed. The SLT team were working 15 hours a day, trying to ensure we could open the doors again or 2000 people were going to lose their jobs.
The day before I had spent 2 hours on the phone with an employee and friend whose adult niece had died, leaving 3 small children and then her sister in law had also died. I couldn't hug her or comfort her. Just sit on the phone while she talked and cried.
Because Dp got made redundant just before lockdown and if my company didn't stay open, we were in the shit.
I also cried because although I was going through some crap, I had it better than most. That upset me too. Then I got mad because I was upset when so many people did have it worse. And felt like I was pathetic.
Luckily, dp understood and had empathy. Luckily, some posters here did (on a long running thread), my dad understood when I called him.
It really not rocket science to work out that OP, probably, isn't this upset just about the football.
After the last 18 months, the football represented something exciting to people, something (finally) to get excited about. Something distracting. It wasn't really just about the football.