To think I must be giving off pheromones?

[BelleClapper]

I’m the last three days I’ve been propositioned several times. It’s so weird. I work in a pub so it’s not completely unusual to be flirted with but this has been next level stuff, and not just drunk customers. One guy told me he thought the universe had sent me to him. Another asked me seriously to consider packing a bag so he could take me away. A third spent the evening talking to another customer about how wonderful I am.

Last night was the strangest, I was out with DH and we bumped into an old friend of his. He was with another chap and honestly this guy was like a lovesick teenager around me, DH noticed as well. Hanging off my every word, ignoring DH completely. He wanted my number (I obviously didn’t give it to him!) and at the end of the night told me he thought he might be in love with me.

Is this a peri menopausal pheromone rush? Something to do with my last burst of fertility (I’m 41)? It’s weird. I’m not not enjoying it though.

Sadly none of the current offers are remotely tempting , and thankfully DH finds it amusing.

This is lighthearted by the way and I’m not doing a Samantha Brick ‘everybody fancies me’, it’s just been a weird series of it in the last week.

Are you ovulating?

I’ve got a mirena so no idea! That might explain it though. Interesting.

It’ll be interesting to see if this lasts. Either I’ve reached my prime and I am so irresistible that men have to tell me they love me, or it’s a series of coincidences.

It’s honestly just so bizarre to have been approached so blatantly multiple times last in a few days.

Sure Jan 😉

Have you been drinking a lot of Ribena in the last week?

@GoldenLabbie

Sure Jan 😉

OMG your just jellus hun.

Seriously I know this reads terribly. But I’m interested by it. Is there some rush of attractedness that happens in middle age ? Maybe it is ovulation but it’s never happened before. Or maybe I’m just linking baseless coincidence. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@User135644

Have you been drinking a lot of Ribena in the last week?

No, but why?

No, but why?

Sexual magnetism.

Sounds like you just encountered a load of flirty men. Which I’d imagine is par of the course for bar staff. None of them have actually ‘propositioned’’ though you have they?

If I drink ribena will I get propositioned??

But I’m interested by it

Maybe these men have been starved of any female interaction for 18 months and have just started getting out again.

@GoldenLabbie

Sounds like you just encountered a load of flirty men. Which I’d imagine is par of the course for bar staff. None of them have actually ‘propositioned’’ though you have they?

It’s not just at work, and it’s more than the examples I gave. Not all propositions but definitely men making it clear they are very interested in me.

I’ve worked in hospitality forever and this is new.

Good point re lockdown.

If I drink ribena will I get propositioned??

Worth a try (or not depending on whether you want that attention).

Also it’s the boldness of it, I mean the guy last night just did not give a shit that I was there with my husband. Although he might just have been a prick. But I’ve never had men be so blatant about it as they have been recently. Perhaps the pandemic has emboldened them? Life is short etc.

Whatever you've got bottle it up & sell it please

I'm married but could use an ego boost tbh

I have a theory that at about your age you get comfortable in your own skin, which gives you confidence and you relax. Confidence and assuredness are very attractive.

Also, working behind a bar helps.

@MrsTulipTattsyrup

I have a theory that at about your age you get comfortable in your own skin, which gives you confidence and you relax. Confidence and assuredness are very attractive.

Also, working behind a bar helps.

This makes sense.

You must get it all working behind a bar though. I'd imagine that's fairly standard for a Friday night working in a busy pub.

@User135644

You must get it all working behind a bar though. I'd imagine that's fairly standard for a Friday night working in a busy pub.

There’s usually a fair amount of flirting (from both sides, I know how to work a customer for tips), but this has been next level.

I shall just resign myself to my deep level of sex appeal and go with it

Oh and this hasn’t all been customers, also in real life.

@MrsTulipTattsyrup

I have a theory that at about your age you get comfortable in your own skin, which gives you confidence and you relax. Confidence and assuredness are very attractive.

Also, working behind a bar helps.

Yep definitely. but I do believe when our bodies start the slide into the end of our fertile years it gives a couple last ditch attempts to fertilize an egg and whafts off a load of hormones. Then we get our invisibility cloak

It makes sense as during ovulation the same thing happens. We get randy and it gives off that pheremone.

Is this a peri menopausal pheromone rush? Something to do with my last burst of fertility (I’m 41)? It’s weird. I’m not not enjoying it though.

Well if it is it's passed me by🤣 I'm 41 and practically invisible as a woman where most men are concerned 🤷🏼‍♀️

Were you working them for tips?

@HappyMeal654

Were you working them for tips?

No! That’s what’s odd. It wasn’t reciprocal faux flirting. And also, disgustingly, overwhelmingly married men.