To think I must be giving off pheromones?

[BelleClapper]

I’m the last three days I’ve been propositioned several times. It’s so weird. I work in a pub so it’s not completely unusual to be flirted with but this has been next level stuff, and not just drunk customers. One guy told me he thought the universe had sent me to him. Another asked me seriously to consider packing a bag so he could take me away. A third spent the evening talking to another customer about how wonderful I am.

Last night was the strangest, I was out with DH and we bumped into an old friend of his. He was with another chap and honestly this guy was like a lovesick teenager around me, DH noticed as well. Hanging off my every word, ignoring DH completely. He wanted my number (I obviously didn’t give it to him!) and at the end of the night told me he thought he might be in love with me.

Is this a peri menopausal pheromone rush? Something to do with my last burst of fertility (I’m 41)? It’s weird. I’m not not enjoying it though.

Sadly none of the current offers are remotely tempting , and thankfully DH finds it amusing.

This is lighthearted by the way and I’m not doing a Samantha Brick ‘everybody fancies me’, it’s just been a weird series of it in the last week.

And one gay man…

Feel like I should buy some ribena, for science of course

My theory is it's the England match (assuming you're in England) - lots of our men are all testosterone-fuelled and puffed up right now, guessing you'll encounter even more of this if you work in a pub!

I haven't experienced this since the peri started, so that's interesting, but I used to get it around ovulation. My OH also used to work for a large company and he said he could see changes in physical appearance in women, noticed that it was temporary and put it down to this too. Your hormones might well be doing something. Can you see a change yourself?

@User135644

You must get it all working behind a bar though. I'd imagine that's fairly standard for a Friday night working in a busy pub.

That's what I was going to say that it sounds standard enough to me, though it's years since I worked in a pub. Mind you, I wasn't flirting back, I was the bored, hostile ice queen bar worker, but some pervy middle-aged men clearly still found my total lack of interest, and failure to pretend the remotest interest, a turn on.

OP, the guy that you met with your husband (and who was your husband's old friend!) must have either been stupidly drunk, drugged or plain odd. I'm trying to understand the dynamic whereby, despite the fact that he sounds as if he was astoundingly rude to your DH as well as pervy to you, ignoring your DH and propositioning you in front of your husband, you still seem to have spent a fair amount of time with him, if he was telling you he was in love with you by the end of the night?

It’s affected your confidence. And confidence is attractive in itself.

With lockdown they are probably rusty with the old chat up lines and practising before trying out for real.

The guy was a friend of DHs friend, and we were in a group so it wasn’t like him ignoring DH made a difference. And he wasn’t actually pervy, just really really focussed on me. And then towards the end, yes drunk enough to declare his love for me

Are they not just flirty drunk and happy because their football team is doing well?

Anyway, I believe you. I totes believe that I emit DOG-loving pheromones. Wherever I go, doggos far and wide make a beeline for me.

Definitely I think I got the better deal. Sorry, OP. 🐶

They're all over excited because of the football

I’m 52 and I remember this happening to me about five years ago - it was absolutely bonkers!!

47 and still waiting for the remotest shred of interest! 😉

Seriously though maybe a combo of better weather, easing of restrictions, football and watching Love Island??!!

This happened to me just before I got married. Not sure my hormones knew my wedding date, but then, who knows, maybe our life choices are more driven by biology than we realise.

@Butchyrestingface

Are they not just flirty drunk and happy because their football team is doing well?

Anyway, I believe you. I totes believe that I emit DOG-loving pheromones. Wherever I go, doggos far and wide make a beeline for me.

Definitely I think I got the better deal. Sorry, OP. 🐶

My indoor rabbit was all over a tradesman once. It was really weird. Wouldn’t leave him alone, but totally ignored people normally.

I'm just here to ask about the Ribena!