If you hate being pregnant, how many children do you have?

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Currently pregnant with number 2 and once again hating every minute of it. Husband has even offered to have a vasectomy!
Thing is, we would both really like to have another after this but not sure if I can go through this again. We have a 6 year old already, so I think the gap was long enough that I had forgotten how shit it was. However, we wouldn’t want to have that long a gap again as I’m 27 and he is 35.

Anyone who feels the same, did you just power through to have another? Did it effect your parenting of the one you had because of how crap you felt. I’m worried that I wouldn’t enjoy this baby that much if carrying another.

Aibu or am I worrying over nothing?

I hated pregnancy,and had complications in both mine,my son is 1 in a few weeks and I'm done,no more,I can't do it,2 premature births, multiple hospital stays, stress,extra appointments,I know a 3rd would be the same. I told my GP I wanted my tubes tied and he didn't agree although I'm in my 30's and know for definite I'm done,I can't take hormonal contraception either so I'm waiting to be seen for the coil(Ireland public system is slow but it's free so I can wait) luckily it's the consultant who saw me through both my pregnancies who's clinic I'll be attending but no I will not be powering through,the physical, emotional strain is not worth it to me

Did you want a third? And if you did, did it take a while to be at peace with not having one?

I hate everything about being pregnant. I’m on my 3rd pregnancy now, and won’t have any more. I had a big gap between no 2 and this one, because I knew I wanted a 3rd but couldn’t face being pregnant again! Older two are at school now, and I wish I didn’t have such a big gap, but I would have been a shocking mum to them if they were at home more (like I was to my oldest when I was pregnant with no 2).

I had 2 about 3 years apart.Later on I would've liked another but considered myself a bit too old by then. My second was a very difficult baby for first six months.
2 was enough and my desire didn't outway my loathing of pregnancy and giving birth.

I have one.that was enough for me, disliked being pregnant, and had horrible birth complications, but never ever wanted more than one. She’s the love of my life and we are incredibly close, and she literally fulfilled all my maternal needs whilst still allowing me a normal life.

I disliked pregnancy with DS1 and hated it with DS2 (6m of hyperemesis).

I'm on the fence about having DC3, I always wanted 3 but not sure I can face hyperemesis again. I'm only 33 so there's no immediate rush - I given myself until 35 to decide.

Exactly the same here. Definitely wanted two but probably three... I have one!
Pregnancy was awful and I just couldn't do it again. (DH had vasectomy when he was one. I think that actually helped as I couldn't subsequently change my mind- we both agreed with him doing it at the time I hasten to add.)
DS now twenty and I'm actually glad it worked out that way. Uni, driving lessons etc etc are really expensive and we can help him so much more. Occasionally I get a pang of regret but overall it's all good

I have 4. I absolutely loathe pregnancy, I get hyperemesis and SPD. No more though. It gets worse each time so I'm well and truly done!

Hated every bit of pregnancy and ended up having 4. I think my plan of not letting DD1 stay an only child like I was, overtook the feelings I had about being pregnant. Disgraceful how the docs won't let u make decisions about your own body...mine also refused to let me get sterilised, as "I still had a lot of years left in me".....even tho I knew damn well I was completely done after 4

I’ts such a hard decision. We’ve always wanted 3.

The birth doesn’t bother me, in fact with DD that was the only part that went right! But I just hate the pregnancy. Spd, severe sickness, extreme fatigue. I even hate the feeling of the baby moving. I can’t take my meds. I cry all day every day. Such a nightmare!

2, you couldn't pay me a million pounds to get pregnant again.

I hated being pregnant. It was like nine months of flu each time with HG on top. I've got three DC.

I'm on my second pregnancy and I'll
Confess to not enjoying this pregnancy at all. The first one a breeze. Luckily I'm pregnant with twins so this is definitely my last pregnancy. DH is planning a vasectomy

I have 2. I disliked being pregnant the first time but it wasn't too bad as I could rest when I needed it.

I hated pregnancy the 2nd time, so much so that I started to resent the baby and developed depression after the birth. It took over a year to bond properly.

We decided not to risk having a third.

I’m pregnant with number 3 and I can hand on heart say that I will never be doing this again!
I don’t think I’ve had a week so far without being in pain of some kind. It was constant sickness, then sickness with headaches most days/weekly migraines. Now I have horrendous trapped wind in my back and neck that’s just not shifting. I’m only 12 weeks but I’ve had an absolute gutsful! The only thing that I find helps with pain is ibuprofen and I can’t take it.

I always wanted three and my previous two pregnancies were quite a bit easier than this. I really don’t know if I would have gone through with it if I’d known it was going to be quite this bad.

I HATE pregnancy. LOVE being a mum. So I have 2 kids. If there was an accidental third pregnancy I'm not sure I could go through with it. So I'm very careful.
Considering maybe fostering/adoption but it's a really long and complex process.

I’m so jealous of the women who love it and float about and glow!

I have 2 its plenty!! I admire mums as not easy keeping going in pregnancy with other kids to juggle. My friend has 3 but good gaps 6 yrs between each

I've got 4, I only disliked my last pregnancy because my pelvic floor was knackered from all my other pregnancies and I had my biggest baby. I felt like I was having a panic attack sometimes because he was so big and I felt compressed. If my first had been like that I probably would have had one more and that's it.

A friend of mine hated being pregnant and had morning sickness throughout all pregnancies. The births weren't great either with two emergency caesareans and one planned. They wanted four but stopped at three.

I really don't like pregnancy at all, I just feel generally weird / sick the whole time. I have 2, with a 13 month gap (combination of being almost-40 when I had the first, and a wanting to get it all over with!).

I had my last two close together. My baby was 5 months old when i fell pregnant again. Apart from feeeling washed out EBF my 5 month old whilst pregnant, I barely remember the pregnancy as I was so busy with the baby and my older son. But like you I hated most of my pregnancies.

I have 4. Did not enjoy pregnancy due to worry and stress each time. In case something went wrong. There won't be any more babies. Completely done. A dog completed our family.

It’s horrific. I don’t remember it being this bad with DD. I am almost 36 weeks with my twins. Just trying to get through to my section which is in a week or so. It’s next level bad, I can barely move and I’m basically housebound. No nesting this time around just a whole lot of guilt about missing out on time with my little girl.

I can’t wait to get them out to get my body back. Even though I know how hard it’s going to be! I’m getting sterilised during my elective section.

Hated pregnancy, have 3 dc.

The main thing that got me through my labour with dc3 was repeating to myself during contractions 'you will never have to do this again, you will never have to do this again'.

The feeling of absolute elation I had after dc3 was born I'll remember for ever!