If you hate being pregnant, how many children do you have?

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Currently pregnant with number 2 and once again hating every minute of it. Husband has even offered to have a vasectomy!
Thing is, we would both really like to have another after this but not sure if I can go through this again. We have a 6 year old already, so I think the gap was long enough that I had forgotten how shit it was. However, we wouldn’t want to have that long a gap again as I’m 27 and he is 35.

Anyone who feels the same, did you just power through to have another? Did it effect your parenting of the one you had because of how crap you felt. I’m worried that I wouldn’t enjoy this baby that much if carrying another.

Aibu or am I worrying over nothing?

Yeah the not being able to move is horrific and I’m only 22 weeks. The guilt is making everything so much worse. My awesome husband leaves for work at 5am, work all day as a chef, comes home after 10 hours then cooks and cleans and does everything at home because I can just about load the dishwasher and that’s it he’s incredible and he hasn’t complained nor even once! I just feel like a useless fat fuck and not sure I can put him through this again!

@SheABitSpicyToday

Did you want a third? And if you did, did it take a while to be at peace with not having one?

To be honest getting pregnant with my second was a surprise but before I ever got pregnant I would have loved 4 but after my 1st we said we'd talk about 1 more,but whilst pregnant with my second I said no that's it,we spoke extensively about it and decided that 2 was our number,I told my partner I couldn't do it again and he agreed,I'm firm on it and can't be swayed,even the midwives said it to me because my birth was so serene and "easy" that I was made to give birth I'd be back in a few years and I was like no way,shop closed,once my second son was born and was healthy I had my peace made ❤️

I have 3 DC. Each pregnancy was worse than the proceeding one. With DS3 my MH and physical health got so bad my doctor agreed to an earlier induction. I couldn't take another moment of being pregnant. I find being pregnant horrible, but my last pregnancy was horrific.

Stopped at 2, then fostered. No way I'd do pregnancy again! Second was worse than the first, not giving a third a go!

I have 4 and absolutely hated being pregnant. I suffered with very bad water retention, spd, sickness and itchy skin. I certainly did not glow and had 4 sections in 7 years. I also got big, very big, heaviest baby was 11.6lbs when he was delivered at 38 weeks. The only reason I put up with pregnancy was because I love babies.

1. Im not doing it again.

I have 4 and hated being pregnant. The 4th pregnancy was hell. Worth it in the end.

DS is 1. I'd love another. But I'd need to do ICSI again... If that hurdle wasn't enough, i hated pregnancy. Carpal tunnel since 16 weeks, wearing splints in the night from 18 weeks and 24/7 from 30 weeks and still in so much pain. Ugh I hated it. The birth was fine, even though I was induced early for high blood pressure. He was out in 4 hours!
But I really want a second. I guess I'm not yet sure which feeling will win... The want of a second or utter dread of doing ICSI and pregnancy again

two. I hated being pregnant. Wouldnt ahve had more children even if I hadn't hated pregnancy but I'm very small, I think that makes it worse.

I had dc1 at 39 weeks and dc2 at 37 weeks, i think my body just couldn't take any more pregnancy.

1. I wanted three but I just couldn't do pregnancy again

One.

Hated being pregnant. Massive weight gain. Serious deterioration in my health (didn't fully recover, developed new complications after I gave birth). Horrendous birth. Zero family support. I'm on medication that is incompatible with pregnancy, if I stop taking it I get even more seriously ill. It took us over 2 years to get pregnant.

DD is wonderful & we love her dearly.

oh the hip pain at night! i'd forgotten about that. And the headaches. Awful. Surprised I have two children! although second pregnancy was worse than the first.

This thread has just made me so grateful to never being pregnant again

I hated being pregnant but have three children! To be honest I just powered through and thought of the end goal rather than the pregnancy itself. I had all my children within 5 years so I felt like I was constantly pregnant and by the third I was really fed up with it, but now I look back and am quite nostalgic for the whole thing.

If I'd have had serious pregnancy complications or HG or something I couldn't have done it again and again though, I was pretty well but just hated it.

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2, you couldn't pay me a million pounds to get pregnant again.

I'm the same.

We had already pretty much decided on having two before having our second. My first pregnancy was OK, the birth was horrific and first three months of his life were crap too.

With my second, the pregnancy was horrible from 28 weeks. I had complications and was in hospital every bloody week practically. I had decided before I even had him I couldn't ever do it again. It's definitely harder when you already have children too, because it impacts on your family as well as yourself if your ill, you need to go to hospital or God forbid something serious goes wrong.

DH would only consider having another DC if we were guaranteed a daughter (we have two DS). I would only consider it if I had complete amnesia and forgot the last decade of my life.

I feel exactly the same. I want a third and I'm already 30 so leaving it a bit late (have a 5 year old and 8 week old). My pregnancys were awful and I really don't think I could do it again ni matter how much I want to

I have 2 but have been pregnant 5 times and I hated each pregnancy. From the start I'm suffering with debilitating nausea, fatigue and heart burn and horrific miscarriages. Then in later pregnancy it's severe anaemia, so I constantly pass out and then I've had severe pre eclampsia. Honestly I'm lucky to be alive.
Both of my children were born prematurely, my eldest some how survived 5 weeks with a failing placenta and my second stopped growing and needed life saving surgery at a few weeks old.
After 2 c sections, and a total of 9 weeks in the nicu for the babies and 5 weeks in hospital for me - I'm done. My body, heart and mind can't take any more