Celebrating the latter doesn't negate worrying about the former.
Exactly!
Yes some from disadvantaged backgrounds are able to succeed, but not that many - why? Because it's damn hard! That's why. Because advantage literally starts from the cradle.
@FTEngineerM I'm well aware there are a few single resident dads, my brother was one (albeit after his ex passed away) I know a few others too where the non resident parents were women and didn't pay maintenance and didn't have decent contact with their kids - they behaved just as badly as the non resident dads. But they are very much in the minority.
The system and the reality is still sexist and discriminatory.
The vast majority of non resident parents are men, and the vast majority of resident parents are women.
So if you cut off the minority with more than 2 children, not only are quite deliberately putting children into absolute poverty, you are denying some families a wwilling, working parent which is what you actually want.
Well said
@Belleoverandover
I suppose another thought would be is if you meet a man that already has two children and you have a child together are you penalised as that's his third child but your first?
Nope - what actually happens is this new couple are eligible for tax credits as the child is classed as a 1st child (even though it isn't for him) and in addition he gets to reduce how much maintenance he pays for the first 2 kids
is the day we turn in to a money-grabbing sexist hard-hearted excuse for a country....oh wait...
Well quite!
@LusciousLondoner do I sense a wry smile?
Personally I think it's a disgusting rule. Screams eugenics to me, however they want to frame it.
Agreed
@pam290358 we may not be there yet but we're edging ever closer!