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AIBU?

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Was I being unreasonable to stand up for myself?

47 replies

eattherich · 07/07/2021 22:34

At the pub watching the football and a group of absolute knobs start banging into our table when England scored. Like you and shouting and dancing and smashing into other people. Now I don't really care about them, but I got up to go to the loo at the same time England scored and they smashed into my chair, and knocked me into the table and I knocked over a few beers.

My husband said 'oy be careful' and they called him a specky 4 eyed cunt and said I was a fat knob head. I got my keys and walked out to go home. Waited on a bench outside to calm down and thought no why should I go home from a pub we go to multiple times a week because of drunken knob heads.

So I went back in and ordered a beer, spoke to the landlord and asked if they were coming on Sunday because if they were We aren't and we as a group of friends come in quite a lot. He reassured me that if they tried to book they wouldn't be allowed because that's not on.

He told them this and they shouted mi'll fucking r*pe you. So that's nice.

But aibu to be really proud I didn't cry, I didn't go home and I stood up for myself?

Ps I know one of the people at the table who went mental as he's a barman at the other pub in the village!

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Cavalierqueen · 07/07/2021 22:36

Good for you!

eattherich · 07/07/2021 22:38

@Cavalierqueen thanks! I know it's not a lot but actually it means a lot! I also told the barman of the other pub 'xx your friends are dickheads' so I know he knows that I think he's a twat. It's a small village and I can't believe he acted like that when he knows us.

Drunk is no excuse!

Now to caveat this with I like football and have no issue with celebrating but no you don't get to say that

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eattherich · 07/07/2021 22:39

I still feel a bit shaken and will probably make sure they leave before us

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imscaredpleasehelp · 07/07/2021 22:41

threatening to rape you? cunts
well done! you're braver than I am!

eattherich · 07/07/2021 22:42

@imscaredpleasehelp yes! I was so shocked it's genuinely shaken me up. You don't get to act like that and get away with it. He got kicked out when the landlord heard. But seriously what is wrong with people!!

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Talkwhilstyouwalk · 07/07/2021 22:43

Can't stand rowdy football crowds. There's always one group of idiots. I'd be inclined to watch the final from home.

eattherich · 07/07/2021 22:46

@Talkwhilstyouwalk I think you might be right there

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imscaredpleasehelp · 07/07/2021 22:47

glad he got kicked out I hope he is embarrassed tomorrow

Funnylittlefloozie · 07/07/2021 22:48

Glad he got kicked out. Well done to you for not going and tipping a pint over his pathetic head (and his prawn dick). It is horrible when morons say things like that to you, you realise how vulnerable you can be.

My DP would actually hurt someone who said something like that to me.

pigsDOfly · 07/07/2021 22:49

Well done OP for standing up for yourself. You should be proud of yourself.

They sounds absolutely vile.

goddessofmischief · 07/07/2021 22:51

Always stand up for yourself. Absolute arseholes! They are scum. Feel proud of yourself and let no reckless drunken bunch of idiots make you feel small Thanks

Cavalierqueen · 07/07/2021 22:53

Nobody should feel intimidated or threatened. It's so glhard not to run away from this. X I have been streaming in a plane and have buffered a lot but judging by the few others in the cabin, they may have been Danish. And to be fair to Qatar Airways, the in flight internet was free and amazing.

Sometimeswinning · 07/07/2021 22:53

My DP would actually hurt someone who said something like that to me.

The op stood up for herself and didnt need her dh to hurt anyone.

EKGEMS · 07/07/2021 22:56

I hope they have the worst migraine tomorrow and there are serious repercussions to follow! I'm so sorry you had to experience this criminal nonsense!

Alonelonelylonersbadidea · 07/07/2021 22:59

I'm bloody proud of you OP!

That took a lot and it is so hard.

You are awesome!

eattherich · 07/07/2021 23:00

Im actually really proud of myself for not just going home. 6 months ago this would have been a really upsetting moment and set me back months

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TheLovelinessOfDemons · 07/07/2021 23:05

Well done! YANBU at all. I would have gone completely nuts and hit the one who threatened to rape me. I'm autistic.

WeatherwaxOn · 07/07/2021 23:10

Well done! I think I would also have reported him to the police for threatening you with rape. What a vile specimen of a human.

HaveringWavering · 07/07/2021 23:16

Wow. How on earth do you go from joy and elation at your team winning to threatening a woman with rape? This should be an evening of love and happiness. Sad.

Well done OP.

Melitza · 07/07/2021 23:22

I would report to the police just so their wives and girlfriends find out what vile men they are.

xprincessxjanetx · 07/07/2021 23:26

They sound like absolute knobheads and give fans a bad name. I would also be shaken in your situation but you shouldn't feel discouraged from going again. You did nothing wrong and have every right to be there, they don't if they will act like that.

Rainbowsew · 07/07/2021 23:29

Good for you! He was disgusting Angry

PixieKitten · 07/07/2021 23:29

As usual England playing football brings out the half breeds

What is it with football? I can't remember the last time I saw somebody at a golf tournament take of their shirt and start waving it round their head

Or snooker, or tennis, or badminton...

Funnylittlefloozie · 07/07/2021 23:42

Thinking about it, I would have called the police on the twat. Not that I can't deal with prawn-dicks like that myself, but my DD would be distressed to be threatened like that, so I would be pre-empting any upset coming to her.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 08/07/2021 00:00

Well done OP.

Absolutely vile that this has become an almost common place threat though.I’d also speak to the police.

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