So, this happened a few years ago, but it recently came up in a conversation with friends (some agreed with me, some didn’t) so I’m curious to know what others think.
I used to work with a man.
We were discussing me attending my friends wedding (male friend marrying another man) and how the couple were planning to adopt a child.
This man from work said it was terrible and he didn’t agree with gay marriage. He says marriage was a religious ceremony, and while he is not religious himself he believes marriage should only be between a man and a woman.
I told him that I was married and we are not religious/had a non-religious ceremony but he said that was different as I am straight.
He then said that a gay couple adopting a child should be considered abusive. That the child will end up badly bullied.
I brought up single parent families etc. He said that’s fine, but adoption should only be between a man and a woman.
He was talking about the USA and LOVED Donald trump-he’s just what the country needed, the Uk needs someone like him and he believes in real family values.
I told him I completely disagree with everything he said. I have a few gay friends and I know a lot of them are married/planning on marriage etc. He spoke over me and kept telling me he has more information on the matter than me.
Now-the reason why he said that (and the reason my friend thought i was wrong to question him)....is because he is openly gay himself and has a long term partner. He says gay rights are important (no discrimination at work etc), but that does not include marriage families.
He said he was bullied as a child when he first came out, and believes any child in a gay household would be bullied.
IANBU-I was right to call him out, the same as I would if a straight person said gay people should not be allowed to be married
IABU-a gay person knows more about this than a straight person.