Worried that my baby has forgotten me.

[Babycarrottt]

Hi, I've had a really awful few weeks. I was diagnosed with pancreatitis and gallstones nearly threw weeks ago. Was operated on two weeks ago, left on the Friday but readmitted on the Sunday. I'm hopefully going home tomorrow. I have a beautiful nine (nearly ten) week old and I've only seen him twice during this time due to restrictions/logistics.

I'm really worried that he has forgotten me and I'm worried about how I'll fit back into being a Mum. The last time I saw him was last week for a couple of hours, he was fast asleep and I just held him.

Anyone else been in this situation? Any advice? Am I being unreasonable in thinking he's forgotten me? I'm just worried that he'll be scared/wary of me.

Your baby will know your smell and especially your voice. Talk to him lots when you are reunited. Mil is not being helpful. Ignore her comments.

Thanks everyone. It's been a but tough being home as I need to remind myself that I'm still recovering. My stitches start to hurt if I hold him for too long. However, today, he was just on the bed and I was just watching him and talking to him. All my doubts just left and I was just in awe of him. I'm just so in love with him. One positive to come out of it is the way my partner is with him. My partner was adamant that he wouldn't be one to change nappies etc. I think it was more nerves than anything as he's never been around babies. Now, he does everything and we're very much sharing the load. I do think it's brought us together and we feel so much more like a unit now. I'm just so thankful. I managed to battle a horrific illness, I'm still here and I have my amazing partner and my beautiful baby. The rest, whilst difficult, is in my past and I just want to look forward now. Thank you so much for all of the wonderful comments, you've really helped me. Xx

Thanks for the lovely positive update. Get well.

That's great OP. Rest up and enjoy your lovely family. Try not to put pressure on yourself either.

Firstly I am sorry you have had such a dreadful time of it .Keep looking forward now .You will be feeling tired and emotional .Baby will absolutely not have forgotten you! MIL may have enjoyed herself a little too much maybe with DS! No worries .He will soon know Mummy again!

You will be reunited and I can promise you, your baby won't have forgotten his mummy

He knows your heartbeat and smell, the sound of your voice. He knows you better than anyone else in the world.

When you get home, take time to rest and snuggle your beautiful baby. MIL is insensitive and silly but since she is so concerned that your baby will be confused,perhaps she can come and do cooking and cleaning so that you can be with baby

I think your m'n'law is worried he won't want her anymore.

I had surgery when DD was 4.5 months old and was in hospital for 3.5 days. I saw her for a few hours total during that time. Not quite the same but trust me she did not forget me.

@PumpkinPie2016

You will be reunited and I can promise you, your baby won't have forgotten his mummy

He knows your heartbeat and smell, the sound of your voice. He knows you better than anyone else in the world.

When you get home, take time to rest and snuggle your beautiful baby. MIL is insensitive and silly but since she is so concerned that your baby will be confused,perhaps she can come and do cooking and cleaning so that you can be with baby

OP has been. Read the thread!

I'm so glad you're reunited. Enjoy those cuddles 💗