Would you find this abit rude ?

[Shouldibebothered]

Is it rude for mil to text Dh and ask how dd is and then say and how are you d-son?
Fwiw it's just me dh and our little girl, I often feel like it's just dd and dh, or am I being abit silly? I wouldn't text fil and ask how he is and how bil is ( who lives with them ) but not ask how mil is

why do you keep asking questions if you don't want answers?

I'm Peter Pan, I can't grow up

Anytime someone says "grow up" it just reminds me of the inbetweeners!

"Grow up"

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba your comments are getting really boring now. I hope in life you never struggle to know your worth and you never feel insecure. Not replying to you anymore because although yes it is silly to think it's rude maybe some people feel a little like they are worthless in life and pick up on " silly " things !

Oh, Jesus... I'm not rude, you're rude. It's not me, it's you. Grow up
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You posted the ridiculous thread in the first place, op. Then call people twats for posting on it. And instruct them to grow up 😂😂😂

@Cheeeeislifenow I've got their voice in my head now 😂😂😂

You're only engaging with people you feel attacked by instead of those of us who tried to offer constructive advice. It's not helpful for you. I hope you get things sorted and things aren't as stressful at some point.

@youvegottenminuteslynn Thank you, I hope so too, I struggle with things a lot sometimes xx

if you find my comments boring you could take your own advice and go to bed maybe.

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba you really go on and on don't you! Haven't you got anything better to do?

I thought you weren't gonna reply anymore...😉

no immediate plans, thanks for asking. I might do my Spanish lesson though, given it's after midnight.
sleep well

This wouldn't bother me at all.

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba funny one aren't you " lol "

Honestly, I don’t think MIL (whom I quite like) ever gives me a thought when I’m not actually in front of her, and even when I am there, I’m very much a faint background noise to DH and DS. It’s not something I get that exercised about.

I wouldn't find it rude. My parents adore my husband and treat him like a son but in a private text they might just ask how I am. And it works the other way with my MIL. You're over thinking it but if you don't have a good relationship with your MIL then that's probably why it stings and I suppose thats understandable.

I would find that a bit hurtful if that’s how she is all the time. My late mother and father would both have asked how my husband was as well as me and dc. I would have found it strange if they didn’t ask about him, like he didn’t exist.

Most people on this thread seem to think it’s normal for your mil to only ask about your dh and dd, but personally if I had a DIL I would think of her as part of my family and ask after her too.

Sorry shouldibebothered, I thought I was replying to zingdrama. FWIW, I agree with you.

Sometimes my mum will text along the lines of ‘How are you all’ but usually it’s just ‘how are you and the kids?’and she absolutely loves my DH. Are there other issues? If not you may be over thinking this.