Would you find this abit rude ?

[Shouldibebothered]

Is it rude for mil to text Dh and ask how dd is and then say and how are you d-son?
Fwiw it's just me dh and our little girl, I often feel like it's just dd and dh, or am I being abit silly? I wouldn't text fil and ask how he is and how bil is ( who lives with them ) but not ask how mil is

Well, if she acts weirdly around you in person, it is rude, she may have something there.
Texting her son about his DD and himself, not rude. If it is out of characyer for her, and that is why he finds it weird, we do not know.
But, so far (let's way for more posts!) she has not done anything bad to you. So chill, relax, sleep, and it will all be light and breezy in the morning?

@Shouldibebothered

No I did not check his phone nor did I ask he told me because he thought it was weird and rude x

So why are you checking on here when you both think it's weird and rude? 😂 (It isn't, IMO)

@GreyhoundG1rl isn't It a forum that you can ask other people's opinions whilst having your own opinion?

Crikey I'm very sorry to be the one to say this, but if you get upset over this sort of (non) thing it's not surprising your MIL finds it difficult/awkward to engage with you face to face.

[quote Shouldibebothered]@GreyhoundG1rl isn't It a forum that you can ask other people's opinions whilst having your own opinion?[/quote]
it is

but are you willing to accept the answers of they don't go your way?

because if not then why bother asking?

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba how have I not accepted what people have said ?

*if they

I'm talking about manners and being polite. Clearly not something that you bother about.

@Shouldibebothered

Personally i think it's really rude if it was the other way round I would defo be being funny

@Shouldibebothered

^^ that's how.

you insisted it was rude after being told by several people it wasn't

What do you mean @Bookworm65 ?

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba but that's my opinion ? I accept some say it's rude some say it isn't does it really matter to you?

Maybe try and relax a little. Don’t look for unintended insults.

you are going around in a loop now so I'm bored now

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba go to bed then lol no ones asking you to keep commenting

You do sound a little high maintenance OP but I appreciate it may be that MIL has made you feel dismissed and undervalued over time and that's why her message has particularly annoyed you and DH.

I like my mil and I think she likes me but I don't think she asks about me when on the phone to dh. I don't care, I've never thought about it til this thread tbh.

Honestly, op! What on earth do you want from this thread?
My husband and I think this (complete ridiculous thing). Does Mumsnet at large agree with us? 😁😁😁

OP, if you start a thread, you don't really get to choose who comments on it, whether you agree with them or not. I don't see where anyone has made you 'lol' though?

[quote Shouldibebothered]@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba go to bed then lol no ones asking you to keep commenting [/quote]
you did.

honestly I'm with your MIL now.
she sounds quite sensible ignoring you because you are the rude one.

@Shouldibebothered

Jeez some people on here can be right judgemental twats! Only asked for opinions didn't need to be made to feel stupid !

All you got were opinions, exactly as requested. They just weren't the same as your opinions 😂

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba how the hell did I ask you to keep commenting ?

@GreyhoundG1rl doesn't matter if they weren't the same as mine, I asked for opinions not asked to be agreed with 🙄

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba not sure how I'm rude either I thought you seemed quite rude

@GreyhoundG1rl

Honestly, op! What on earth do you want from this thread? My husband and I think this (complete ridiculous thing). Does Mumsnet at large agree with us? 😁😁😁

quite 🤣🤣

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba why keep commenting just grow up

well, you called people twats
that's rude.