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Feeling quite upset about backlash to Covid test

102 replies

catsatonmymat · 04/07/2021 14:05

I have a really bad pain coming from my breast bone on the right hand side going round to my lungs. It is making me a bit breathless when i walk or move about - ie up the stairs. I was up all night and eventually after an hour got through to 111. They asked if i had any Covid symptoms and i told them that i had a bit of a scratchy throat and lung pain. The Dr. said i could see my GP tomorrow but I might as well get a Covid test because the GP would probably advise me to get it anyway. Everyone is shouting at me saying I don't need a test. My son and his girlfriend were going out for lunch with her family and aren't going any more. I have been told I shouldn't have told them. My boss will go mental. My DH is also going crazy at me. I don't see what I've done wrong but apparently I have.

OP posts:
caughtinanet · 04/07/2021 14:30

I don't understand what the issue is, why are things being cancelled and bosses getting cross? You haven't even taken a test

I can see they might be annoyed if you were positive but why now?

EwwSprouts · 04/07/2021 14:33

Get the test. If it's positive you got it from someone else and it could be one of them who has been asymptomatic! They don't sound very compassionate.

gamerchick · 04/07/2021 14:34

With the attitude of the people around you, I'd be going quick for a test. They're obviously irresponsible arses.

I'm glad you went. Good luck.

Frazzled2207 · 04/07/2021 14:36

They’re being ridiculous.
You need to rule out having covid.
They don’t need to do anything

Redcrayons · 04/07/2021 14:37

What a bunch of unsupportive drama llamas.
You’re having chest pains, of course you should see the doctor. Ignore them all.

Treehaus · 04/07/2021 14:38

Must be great to live in a house with people that are clearly more medically qualified than the people that are employed by 111.

Seen as though there are very few clinical advisors on 111 and most have zero medical qualifications most people probably do!

That aside, they are being arses, hope you get your test and feel better soon OP.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 04/07/2021 14:38

I'm glad at least one of your sons was kind and took you for the test and i hope you are OK.
The rest of your family sound like a bunch of selfish horrors. It sounds like you've been through a hard time anyway with undiagnosed back fractures?

HideousKinky · 04/07/2021 14:39

Your family sound awful

Abraxan · 04/07/2021 14:40

Not really. This isn't the case unless you have one of the main three listed symptoms.

There are other reasons for needing a pcr, One is being advised to get one from an authorising body.

So, for example, close contacts are now advised to test with pcr and medical staff can advise it.

In these situations other members of the household do not need to isolate unless a positive result is returned.

IrishCharm · 04/07/2021 14:48

@dementedmummy

Covid19 presents in different forms. Go get a covid19 test done and you will probably have the results this evening - job done. Negative result - one illness ruled out and your doctor can focus on getting to the route of the problem. Postive - well at least you know why you are ill. Your family are being ridiculous as is your boss. Its ok to be ill. Its ok to have covid19. How selfish do people need to be to not be concerned about how ill their mum/wife is? Look after yourself because it appears no one else is going to do it. Virtual hugs because you appear to be surrounded by nutty people!
Everything this poster said and more! Hope you feel better soon op 💐
Dixiechickonhols · 04/07/2021 14:51

minipie depends where you are. Lancashire everyone is encouraged to get a pcr test symptoms or not.
Your family sound ridiculous OP. You are poorly they should be sympathetic. People I know who have tested positive recently have had bits of nothing symptoms like a scratchy throat or no symptoms. Better to test surely?

WhereYouLeftIt · 04/07/2021 14:55

@catsatonmymat

My understanding is that they go about their daily business unless I test position. One of my sons was kind and took me to the test centre. I just don't get the way they are being with me.
I'm going to presume that they are being like this with you because they are a bunch of selfish bastards who are prioritising themselves, and their plans, and their wants, before you and your health NEEDS.

Right now your health is THE priority. I can totally understand being tested, because let's face it, a lot of medical diagnosis comes down to being able to rule things out and narrowing down what might be causing your current problems. Plus, it will reassure any medical staff you deal with that covid will be ruled out (assuming your test proves negative).

So - fuck your son and his girlfriend, fuck your husband, fuck your boss and the horse he rode in on. They can all just go and sulk in the corner like the childish selfish arseholes they are. The son who took you to the test centre, I hope he continues to be kind. Tell the rest of them to fuck off. Push back, and don't take their shit. (Although I suspect this may be a long-running attitude of theirs towards youSad.)

BungleandGeorge · 04/07/2021 14:56

Sounds like you did need to test, the results come back really quickly now as well

RaindropsOnRosie · 04/07/2021 14:57

The test will rule covid out and allow you to get help for this problem. Your family sound crackers and so unsympathetic!

Hope you're feeling better soon.

BungleandGeorge · 04/07/2021 15:00

I’m actually a bit surprised that they haven’t sent you to A&e if you have chest pain and breathlessness. It’s well known that women with heart problems often present at hospital later because they just cope with the pain or have atypical symptoms. How long have you had the pain?

Maggiesfarm · 04/07/2021 15:02

That's quite scary and people are going mental at you, op. How is that fair on you?

Do get a test for reassurance, you can do it by post and receive results very quickly by text.

You may be having residual pain from previous broken ribs but it could be anything. It's you who is having the pain, not your near and dear who don't know your experience. Hopefully it is nothing serious or maybe a mild chest infection but you do need to be checked out. Good luck.

CheeseCrackersAndChutney · 04/07/2021 15:11
Flowers Hope they see how unreasonable they’re all being soon OP
Opalfeet · 04/07/2021 15:27

No actually if you live with someone and go for a test they have to isolate until receive neg test so they will have had to cancel plans if they love in same house and isolate.

maggiso · 04/07/2021 15:34

It sounds like you don’t have the 3 main qualifying symptoms for a PCR test but have been advised to have one any way by 111. I presume other members of your household are concerned they may have to self isolate. I do not know what the rules are the household members if 111 advise a test for different symptoms, but if the Zoe App I use advise a test (because of non qualifying symptoms) SI for the household is not mandatory. Im sorry your family and boss are so unsympathetic. Perhaps they are worried or trying to work out how to manage staff etc if you are self isolating - and came over annoyed rather than worried?
I have an upper back issue ( old injury) and when I get trapped nerves this can cause me chest pain - affect rib movement and pain worse with breathing - usually with arm pain also. Obviously chest pain and breathing difficulties need a doctors advice. I do hope you feel better soon.

Justarandompersonontheinternet · 04/07/2021 15:41

This is awful and I feel so bad for you. I had a stabbing pain in my chest that I thought was heartburn the day before I tested positive. The coughing started later that afternoon. I hope you are ok. It is this attitude and the reluctance to test for fear of having to isolate and cancel plans (I don’t mean you) that is keeping this whole thing going.

Alternista · 04/07/2021 15:41

How long ago were your spinal fractures, how did you get them and at what level were they? Id want you reviewed if they were recent (ex medic).

Abraxan · 04/07/2021 15:43

@Opalfeet

No actually if you live with someone and go for a test they have to isolate until receive neg test so they will have had to cancel plans if they love in same house and isolate.
Only if you have the three listed symptoms.

If taking a pcr for other reasons they don't have to isolate. They only isolate if a positive test is returned in that situation.

FinallyHere · 04/07/2021 15:49

Could it be they don't want you to test because as contacts it might be inconvenient for them.

Glad you have one son who is prepared to help you.

IllForTooLong · 04/07/2021 15:50

@catsatonmymat

Thank you so much for our support - I'm in tears here - I think they are fed up with me because i had misdiagnosed back fractures which are still causing me problems6 months down the line - they all told me not to go to A and E and every doctor said it was soft tissue and it turned out to be two fractures - I'm still in a lot of pain but this is different - this is at my lungs. I think they think i am acting it.
So basically none of them asre believing you even though experience shoud have showed them that when you say you are in pain, there is a REALLY good reason for it.

How on earth can they 'still be annoyed' at the fact you have a back fracture? Confused
And are now thinking you are making a fuss out of nothing? Angry

Tbh if their issue is that they might have to self isolate and prefer to make YOU the culprit as if it was your fault, it say a hell of a lot about them. And not in a good way :(
I'd ignore them and carry on what you think is the best to do FOR YOURSELF.
I would also have think about the people you are surrounding yoursself with tbh.

Canigooutyet · 04/07/2021 15:52

What the hell is wrong with your family that they don't like you getting medical attention?

Are you one of those that does everything for them?

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