To think that DH should put DS1's first parent-teacher interview before going out drinking tonight with his workmates?

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Please tell me I am over-reacting and that IABU.

DS1 (3.5) has his first P-T interview this afternoon from 5.15-5.30. I thought DH was going to come with me. He has just rung me to ask if it's acceptable for him to go drinking with his workmates instead of coming to the interview.

I think he should come with me, and then go out drinking, but his office is moving this afternoon so they finished at 3.30 and they are already at the pub?

AIBU? Is it actually a minor thing this P-T interview that only one of us should go to?

It's a minor thing, it's fine that just one of you goes along to it.

I can understand it's quite a big thing to you but if I were in dh's position I'd be tempted to go for the drink too.

oh right, he's come home

Look at the broader picture.... is DH usually a hands-on and devoted dad who takes pride and interest in his kids? If so, I'd let this one pass as a on-off, although I'd let him know I was disappointed. If you would like future parent-teacher interviews to be something you both do, then get it agreed (in principle) now. TBH, he probably won't be missing much this time. And the teacher won't mark your child down as neglected! I reckon only about half of my class have both parents show up - the rest are kust the one, usually because the other parent is either working or babysitting.

Good on your DH. A pat on the back for him - altho' I don't agree that you "owe him a favour" for it.