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To think it is rude to not acknowledge this?

76 replies

BlossomOnTrees · 01/07/2021 18:13

Was taking granddaughter and her friend to school. The friend forgot her water bottle on the way to school so I went to the shop and bought her one for school. No acknowledgement at all from mum. Aibu to find this rude?

OP posts:
dalrympy · 01/07/2021 22:36

I cleaned dog poo off DDs friends trainer this evening so they could go to an activity.

I doubt she's even told her mum. But even if she did I don't think I expect a thank you.

Florrieboo · 01/07/2021 22:56

If the child said thank you that is enough, they are the one who forgot their drink.

Winniewonka · 01/07/2021 23:01

I'm wasn't questioning WHY she bought her a Water Bottle instead of a Bottle of Water, I was using it as another example of people not reading the original post properly, forming their own narrative and then others using it as a reason for sarky answers.

Nohomemadecandles · 01/07/2021 23:02

@Winniewonka

This is what infuriates me on Mumsnet. Someone doesn't RTT properly mistaking Water Bottle for Bottle of Water and everyone else jumps on the bandwagon to berate the OP for expecting thanks for a 50p bottle of water!!!
She hasn't actually qualified my original question if it was a water bottle (in which case why would you?) Or a bottle of water (in which case, so what?)
Moanranger · 01/07/2021 23:13

Ah, yes, yet another post re the British obsession with rudeness (in others, always) Can you not give something gracefully, and worry less about whether another demonstrates sufficient gratitude to Your Good Self?
Enough already!

DamsonJam · 01/07/2021 23:13

If I was going to be infuriated by anything about this post, it would be the casual sexism more than anything else! Why no expectations of the Dad?

HerMammy · 01/07/2021 23:17

Maybe it was encrusted with diamanté letters spelling her full name 😆

saraclara · 01/07/2021 23:19

The kid probably didn't tell her mum, because she'd be in trouble for forgetting hers in the first place.

Halo1234 · 01/07/2021 23:19

I think it deserves a thankyou. Presumably it involved the effort of going to a shop or back to your car. You looked out for her child and that was kind.
Having said that.....she probably doesn't know. Or if she does she doesnt know how to contact u. Or maybe forgot to say thankyou as she had a lot on, but felt thankful.
And good point made in earlier post why is it down to her mum to thankyou and not her dad.

cittigirl · 01/07/2021 23:21

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

Dear me, do you want a thank you card? It was a water bottle fgs not a kidney! You did a nice thing, I bet the child was grateful probably didn't tell her mum, leave it at that.
This 😂
Nohomemadecandles · 01/07/2021 23:24

If you'd bought mine an actual water bottle I'd be a bit Hmm to be honest. They need to learn to take it with them. I wouldn't reward them with a new one.
Parents might not be overjoyed. They might be a bit pissed off with you! You've over stepped.

HopeValley · 01/07/2021 23:25

Maybe she thought it wasn't necessary. Children in my class just help themselves to a cup if they've forgotten their water bottle, it's not an issue at all.

TopBlogger · 01/07/2021 23:27

Is it rude to start a thread and 5 hours later not respond to any posts? Yes

And if the usual excuse comes out when an OP sets up a thread and doesnt reply of "we do have lives to lead you know" then maybe the child's parent has too

Youdiditanyway · 01/07/2021 23:28

Guessing she didn’t tell her Mum. Nice of you to do this but unnecessary, they will be offered a drink if they forget theirs.

AppropriateAdult · 01/07/2021 23:37

You posted at 6:13pm, OP - presuming this happened today, mum mightn’t even be home from work yet. It’s very likely she’s unaware of the new bottle’s existence. I would expect her to thank you the next time she sees you, though.

Hankunamatata · 01/07/2021 23:39

My dc tell me absolutely zero about school, so water bottle thing wouldn't have been mentioned. child also may be worried they get scolded for forgetting bottle and they left the evidence in school

saraclara · 01/07/2021 23:48

@AppropriateAdult

You posted at 6:13pm, OP - presuming this happened today, mum mightn’t even be home from work yet. It’s very likely she’s unaware of the new bottle’s existence. I would expect her to thank you the next time she sees you, though.
Ha! Missed that. Yep, at least give the woman chance, FFS.

But I still think she's unlikely to ever know, assuming it was a bottle of water that the kid's already forgotten about.

Hont1986 · 01/07/2021 23:55

Looking forward to seeing OP at the Pride of Britain awards.

starfishmummy · 02/07/2021 00:01

My DS was aways coming home with cheap leaky promo water bottles theyd been given at school for some reason. If he cane back with an extra bottle it would barely register and Id just assume that it was another freebie. However he is a polite soul and would almost certainly have thanked the donor if it had been bought by a parent or grandparent.

WorraLiberty · 02/07/2021 00:03

Good old Mumsnet, where not a single good deed goes unannounced 😂

WorraLiberty · 02/07/2021 00:04

@Hont1986

Looking forward to seeing OP at the Pride of Britain awards.
😂😂😂😂
Glitterblue · 02/07/2021 00:52

I'd definitely have dropped someone a text to say thank you IF I knew about the bottle, but the parents may not have seen it yet. I often don't see my daughter's until she produces it from her bag at bedtime to get washed. And the parents may not have been back from work etc. Yesterday for example I saw DD for all of 5 minutes after school, driving her to my parents' house and I didn't see her until after 6, by which time we were deep into dinner, homework, music practice and showers.

Stichintime · 02/07/2021 00:55

Kids do tend to come back from school with all sorts of stuff, including water bottles. Probably lost in translation. Here I'd get a whole seemingly unrelated story 2 days later, before it was revealed that the said water bottle was actually bought by so and so's mum. I would then be horrified and hunt them down to thank themGrin

PyongyangKipperbang · 02/07/2021 00:56

Well clearly going against the grain but I would thank the OP if she had bought my DD a bottle of water, and offered to reimburse her for it. If it had been a water bottle, which we know are more expensive, then I would have insisted on reimbursing.

But I am not a dick who takes other people for granted...in the minority it seems....

Keepitonthedownlow · 02/07/2021 09:26

Maybe you should ask for it back