To think it is rude to not acknowledge this?

[BlossomOnTrees]

Was taking granddaughter and her friend to school. The friend forgot her water bottle on the way to school so I went to the shop and bought her one for school. No acknowledgement at all from mum. Aibu to find this rude?

It’s just a bottle of water

Presumably she doesn’t know. Or forgot. Either way it’s a bottle of water - nice but hardly a life saving kidney. Honestly if you’re going to be helpful then let of come from a genuine place and not because you’re seeking praise and thanks for later on.

Did you do it just to get a thank you, the only important thing is she had a water bottle for school that say. Yabu.

day not say

OP must be off being a martyr somewhere else atm.

Seriously?

Like a 50p bottle of water?

It’s a bottle of water , I would have forgotten I’d actually bought it by end of school not be worrying about whether I had been thanked . Did the child say thank you as that should be sufficient.

@Chikapu

She's probably busy organising your parade.

Love it!

If she knew, it was impolite. But very likely she didn't. Either the child may not have wanted to tell her mum that she'd forgotten it, or she may have just forgotten by the end of the day.

What about the Dad, any acknowledgment from him? Or does that not matter?

You hardly supplied her with a packed lunch. I would assume mum doesn’t know.

@Jumpingintosummer - a water bottle could cost more than a packed lunch.

@ThursdayWeld

OP must be off being a martyr somewhere else atm.

That gave me a right old chuckle, cheers!

A statue and a damehood for OP please

A bottle of water? I wouldn't give it a second thought - unless it was a reusable water bottle, and even then the mum might not have seen it/know where it came from.

@TheMotherlode

What about the Dad, any acknowledgment from him? Or does that not matter?

He's too busy berating the mum for failing in her maternal duties of being all knowing all seeing...

If she knew and has seen you since it could be seen as rude but she might have forgotten in that moment. It’s not something you would go out of your way to thank someone like calling them up to say thanks.

This is what infuriates me on Mumsnet. Someone doesn't RTT properly mistaking Water Bottle for Bottle of Water and everyone else jumps on the bandwagon to berate the OP for expecting thanks for a 50p bottle of water!!!

The Mum wouldn't have known about it.
I'm assuming you mean a bottle of water and not an actual reusable bottle to fill with water.
I wouldn't say it was deliberately rude. Just a case of the child forgetting to mention it or the Mum having a busy day and forgetting to mention it. None of us are perfect.

@Winniewonka

This is what infuriates me on Mumsnet. Someone doesn't RTT properly mistaking Water Bottle for Bottle of Water and everyone else jumps on the bandwagon to berate the OP for expecting thanks for a 50p bottle of water!!!

Why would anybody buy a reusable bottle when the kid had only forgotten her water bottle, not lost it?

Hope it wasn’t one of these OP. £240 Directions: fill your bottle with water, leave it for approximately ten minutes and then enjoy your refreshing gemstone charged drinking water.

Also agree surely you would just buy the child a bottle of water if she’d forgotten it for the day

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Someone doesn't RTT properly mistaking Water Bottle for Bottle of Water and everyone else jumps on the bandwagon to berate the OP for expecting thanks for a 50p bottle of water!!!

Why would you buy a new water bottle?? It wasn’t lost, she’d just forgotten it. You could have just bought a ‘bottle of water’ for the day or I’m sure school could have lent her a cup for the day if need be. There’s kindness and then there’s just being OTT and expecting special praise for it, when actually this is just awkward and unnecessary.
Maybe the mum didn’t say anything because she thought it was a bit strange or because she thought you would expect her to compensate her for the bottle even though they have a perfectly good one at home.

It's a bottle of water, get over yourself. It's not like you bought her a car

So what if it was a 50p bottle of water? It's the kind gesture that deserves thanks - the money is immaterial.