To take my children out of school from tomorrow?

[Keepingitreal14]

My DD is due to have significant surgery on the 13th July, we are only required to isolate for 3 days before the surgery with a Covid test at the beginning of the three days.

My DS is at secondary school that has had loads of cases recently, he has only escaped isolating himself as he spent a few days in the school iso unit. Today we have just had a non close contact letter for DD school and one year group bubble has burst, they have been really lucky so far.

I'm really concerned if either child becomes a close contact we are likely to have to cancel the surgery.

So to avoid that risk next would would you send your kids in or keep them home? DD wont go back after her Op until September and DS is going to a new education place in Sept.

AIBU - Yes, leave them in school, No, keep them home next week

I might have mis-read but would your DS return to his school after his DSis' operation to say goodbye or would he miss his leaving activities? Not to say the surgery might not be a priority but you might need to handle the impacts on your DS.

Good luck.

@Zilla1

I might have mis-read but would your DS return to his school after his DSis' operation to say goodbye or would he miss his leaving activities? Not to say the surgery might not be a priority but you might need to handle the impacts on your DS.

Good luck.

I haven't decided, tbh he doesn't want to return at all whether I take him out due to the op or not. He has had a really hard time at school and is looking forward to a fresh start in September elsewhere. He was begging me not to make him go back if he got a new place even before we knew about the surgery, so that's another totally separate question.

I would keep them home if you're able. Maybe do a little bit of education with them but mainly have some lovely family time and make it fun.

@Neptunesgiraffe

Yes keep them off. My surgery was postponed when my child had to have a covid test. It was negative but we didn't know that on the day of the surgery so it ended up being postponed. Its also very stressful for the person having their surgery rearranged - I had to prepare myself mentally (because I was very nervous) before each appointment.

This is what I want to avoid, its major surgery and both my DD & I are having to mentally prepare for it. I'm not sure I could handle being in limbo for too much longer.

Absolutely keep them off. My friend was due to have surgery this week that she has been waiting for over 2 years now. Not ‘vital’ but the difference to her quality of life would be massive once done. Her Dd got sent home as a close contact on Monday and despite negative tests all round, was told not to attend the hospital. She is beside herself at how long this could go on for now. I wouldn’t even question it, just keep them home. Especially as they will be moving schools anyway come September, and don’t much care for the current place. Good luck to you all x

No brainer. Keep them at home.

Absolutely keep them both home,especially as you said it’s major surgery in your last post.
I hope all goes well and DD has a speedy recovery.

If she’s in constant pain then it’s really important that surgery isn’t cancelled

IIWY I wouldn’t hesitate to keep them both off. It’s not ideal but it’s necessary so as to prevent unnecessary suffering

Definitely keep them home.

Of course keep them home. I wouldn't even contemplate sending them.

I would keep them both at home in your shoes. Hope the surgery goes well.

OP, it sounds like your DS' preferences wont be an issue then. Hope the surgery goes well.

I really hope it all goes well for you.

Our Village school had 2 close contact cases last week, despite only having had 2 cases in total throughout the totality of the previous 15 months. In your situation I would do exactly what you've suggested. Your dd's surgery sounds really important. You must all protect her. Good luck op.

keep them home

YADNBU

Keep them off, 100%

Yes, numbers are crazy right now and you don't want to jeopardise the op, and its not disadvantaging anyone else.

For me it depends how vital the surgery is, only you can make that decision and it sounds like something that you don't really want to delay.

If something that you don't want to postpone then yes absolutely I would.

Keep them home.

We’ve had SEVEN lots of isolation in our house since Covid began. It’s not worth the risk.

Bubble isolation rules are due to change at some point though so if it’s brought in quickly you may not need to (I’m not sure what the intended date is).

100% keep them both home. Schools are crazy at the moment, and there's no mandated testing or masks wearing, and there's certainly no social distancing. Cases are skyrocketing and there's a decent chance you will end up cancelling surgery because one of them brings it home.

For this reason, absolutely keep them off!

No question. Your son is old enough to understand.

Half the country seem to be keeping them off to facilitate holidays at the moment!

Thanks everyone for the well wishes. It’s going to be a long few weeks.

DD is having her last day today and DS isn’t going back. I’m going to deregister him and start a fresh in September.

Soooo she went in for her last day Friday, and this morning we’ve had notification of the class bubble collapse this morning and her being a close contact!
I think this will mean we are just ok for the surgery and isolation will end the day before the surgery 🤞🤞

Phew that's lucky timing-wise!

@SquashMinusIsShit maybe not as we’ve now realised we need to go for our PCR test three days before.

The pre-op is over the phone so we’re fine for that.

Would you risk a drive thru PCR centre?! Thinking it’s no different to going to the test centre with symptoms? We need the test three days before the surgery.