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Was this cashier rude?

32 replies

InTheNightGarter · 29/06/2021 21:23

In a supermarket earlier today I was queuing to pay. There was one woman in front of me in the queue already loading her items onto the checkout and I was waiting behind the marked line on the floor behind her.

The cashier shouted across to me "madam can you get behind that line please!" In a very officious tone and I said "I am behind the line". She then looked exasperated and said "you need to get behind the next line you're blocking the walkway!" It was early this morning and no one was trying to get past but I moved to the next line. The way the lines are on the floor is that they are in a "corridor" type space before the aisles start if you know what I mean? But I mean it begs the question of why they have lines on the floor if they don't want people to stand there. Anyway I didn't say anything else I just moved back to the next line but I was riled by her headmistress type tone.

As the customer in front was packing she gestured for me to move forwards and I put a divider on the conveyer belt as some of the previous customers items were still on there and I started loading on my shopping. The cashier then said "just load your shopping madam!" I was confused because that's exactly what I was doing, and thought she wanted me to stop so I asked "what? Carry on loading?" And she said "just load your shopping!" She then grabbed the divider from the checkout, slammed it down on the side and said "load your shopping without the divider, that's what I'm trying to tell you!" She was quite angry. At this point I snapped back "how am I supposed to know you don't want me to use a divider, if that's what you're trying to say you need to say don't use a divider!" She then harumphed and was silent.

I hate any kind of confrontation and the whole thing left me confused. I wanted to complain but then I was worried she would spin a different tale so I decided to leave it but it shook me TBH. Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Should I complain?

OP posts:
Orchidflower1 · 29/06/2021 21:25

She was very rude. If they didn’t want you to use dividers, they should take them away.

Fullofglee · 29/06/2021 21:27

Sounds like she had a hard day retail is hard more.so.in the last 18 months.

Xmassprout · 29/06/2021 21:28

YANBU

They have lines they don't want you to use, and dividers they don't want you to use. If they don't want people to use them, they shouldn't put them there!

AppleKatie · 29/06/2021 21:31

Yanbu it doesn’t actually matter how hard her job is there are no excuses for unprovoked rudeness to customers.

Scarydinosaurs · 29/06/2021 21:32

How weird! It sounds like she was having a bad day and was spoiling for an argument. No wonder you’re annoyed.

SprinklesMcDoodles · 29/06/2021 21:35

She was being rude. Yes, retail is a difficult environment but you didn’t do anything wrong. If she didn’t want you to use a divider she should have told you that or taken them away completely.

Justmuddlingalong · 29/06/2021 21:39

Take a mental note of name tag, abandon shopping and leave. Email customer services. No confrontation involved.

Greenbks · 29/06/2021 21:45

YANBU she was a total arse and out of line

Bootskates · 29/06/2021 21:47

Yanbu!

I have copped it for the line in the walkway one too. Some are just really badly laid out. The divider thing wasn't your fault either. I wonder why you weren't allowed to use them?

BashfulClam · 29/06/2021 21:57

I have complained on 2 occasions and have always been impressed by the treatment from customer services. I used to work in retail so I know what is and isn’t acceptable service.

Theunamedcat · 29/06/2021 21:58

I appreciate that they have had a hard time but some are just picking at people now one demanded I let her "busy colleague" be served before me as she had to "get home"(didn't we all but I let it slide) the following week I let someone go first as they had very little and I had lots she made it very clear she was upset throwing food snapping about payment she was telling the lady behind that she hated queue jumpers sadly (for her) we live in an area where people are blunt and the lady behind said perhaps she should get another job as customer service clearly wasn't her thing....

InTheNightGarter · 29/06/2021 22:05

I think I will complain about her. I did get her name from the name tag so next time I'm in I'm going to tell customer services what happened. I would hate to think she would try and bully older or vulnerable people this way.

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Ihavehadenoughalready · 29/06/2021 22:09

Oh my goodness, you did nothing wrong, and she was very rude.

I'd let it go once, thinking she was having a really bad day, but if it happens again with the same clerk, I'd definitely complain.

It wasn't an ALDI, was it? They are under such stress to go fast.

Famousinlove · 29/06/2021 22:12

Of course you should complain. An assistant was really rude to my dad once in Morrisons, i wasn't going to complain but i was still fuming when i got home so i did an online complaint and received a response apologising and i haven't seen them there since.

Heyyeahyouwiththesadface · 29/06/2021 22:20

@InTheNightGarter

I think I will complain about her. I did get her name from the name tag so next time I'm in I'm going to tell customer services what happened. I would hate to think she would try and bully older or vulnerable people this way.
Email. Customer service staff are her colleagues ateotd.
Nyala · 29/06/2021 22:27

@Justmuddlingalong

Take a mental note of name tag, abandon shopping and leave. Email customer services. No confrontation involved.
That's a bizarre suggestion if I ever heard one.

Abandoning the shopping? I bloody hate shopping, so I definitely wouldn't want to abandon it and then have to do it all over again at a different place/time!

ThePontiacBandit · 29/06/2021 22:48

I think it’s worth complaining. Her superiors need to know she’s speaking to customers like that. I mean, you’ll think twice before shopping there now won’t you? Also I would make it clear that her “requests” (demands) didn’t correlate to the information you were receiving as a customer. I would say that their signage is ambiguous and if they don’t want customers using the dividers they should be removed. If she’s (and maybe other staff are) struggling to express that, flagging up that it’s an issue from a customer perspective it might prompt change.

Yummymummy2020 · 29/06/2021 22:51

No excuse for rudeness. I don’t work in retail now but did for nearly twenty years. Had more shitty days than I care to add up but I can tell you if I took them out on customers I would have been shown the door!!!

FindingMeno · 29/06/2021 22:54

I wouldn't have been impressed, but I wouldn't complain either.

MaMelon · 29/06/2021 22:55

I’d complain in a ‘I would like to give you some feedback’ type way, giving some suggestions for things they could do that would help other customers avoid getting it ‘wrong’.

I know that it’s been stressful for retail staff but you weren’t being rude or confrontational - she just sounds like she was plain rude.

HopeValley · 29/06/2021 22:59

@BashfulClam

I have complained on 2 occasions and have always been impressed by the treatment from customer services. I used to work in retail so I know what is and isn’t acceptable service.
You don't need to have worked in retail to know what is and isn't acceptable service. If you go home upset about it, chances are it wasn't acceptable. (Yes I have worked in retail and yes I know the customer isn't always right, before someone points that out.)
CupOfTPlease · 29/06/2021 23:06

How rude of her.

Why would you not divide your shopping? What is she Mystic fucking Meg who can guess who's shopping is who's.

vegas888 · 29/06/2021 23:08

Wasn’t Waitrose by any chance? Had the same thing happen to me a few weeks ago.

Seesawmummadaw · 29/06/2021 23:11

She sounds like an idiot. We’ve all had a hard time, it’s no excuse!

SallyCinnabon · 29/06/2021 23:12

I would have abandoned my shopping and walked out. Left her with the problem of putting it away. I realise retail is hard but no need to be rude to others and take it out on them for no reason.