Massages between friends, when one is in a relationship

[Etherel]

... and used to date the other person...

Flirting, sexual or simply a thing between friends? Especially when this person has back issues and need massages quite frequently, usually gets them from their partner?

We're talking shirts off, but bra on the girl on, and obviously trousers on.

I'm so confused!

If was just friends, hmmmm maybe.

and used to date the other person...

This though is a hell no and definitely !

Glad I’m not the only one confused. It literally makes no sense.

Your partner and his ex see each other rarely. Only every few months. Are you saying during these encounters they give each other a massage? She takes her top off and he massages her and then she does him? Becayse that’s fucking weird.

However you say the massages are only between you and your partner. Which makes no sense at all.

Can’t be bothered with ABC posts, sorry.
Any massaging of ex’s with or without clothes is inappropriate in my book.

DEF

Inappropriate.
What sort of massage is it? One with a happy ending?

If a partner of mine was getting massages from an ex every time they met up, he'd be an ex-partner.

1 no
2 hell no
3 fuck no

If he only sees he every few months, I can’t see why during their meeting he would need a massage. Surely most people can go a few hours without. Mind you, as his partner, I’d find having to give daily massages tedious. Even if he does need one half way through a meeting, why is he then massaging her??

B sounds like a wanker, even if no sex involved they get a sexual thrill/power/ego boost from the situation. If B really wanted their back sorted they would go to a profesh.

What are you on about?

@Lalliella

What are you on about?

Actually, don’t bother explaining, I don’t care!

Wait. You’re being made to give a daily massage.
Do you want to? ??

Are you glad you get a break sometimes!

Honestly this is all types of fucked up ASD is no excuse for being a cunt

C is a bloke, B is a woman getting massages from A, her ex

Nope "she's been single since her and dp broke up" "part of his asd is brutal honesty"

It's almost impossible to properly massage someone without using something like a very light oil. Otherwise it drags the skin too much.

Have you ever tried massaging a woman who is wearing a bra? It would stain and trying to massage neck to shoulders to the top of forearms and back again with bra straps in the way isn't feasible.

Where are they, they being your partner and his ex, meeting to do these massages and how are they getting cleaned up afterwards? Body wipes? Shower?

I wouldn't tolerate it, but I'm not very tolerant or cool. Your reaction is up to you OP, but you're obviously doubting it's okay because you posted here to ask.

If someone has back pain they should get a professional to do it. Tbh it sounds an excuse for a precursor to sex.

It is inappropriate. The fact he is telling you it is not would be a sea breaker for me.

Weird and inappropriate.

B is a nob.
C is a fool.

Is this a wind-up?
Why would anyone get a massage from a non professional?
Also I LOVE all of these posts where people with ASD have ' brutal honesty' but enough social savvy to be manipulative. Why can;t you be brutally honest and say it's weird. If they really have ASD they will take advise on social situations from someone else and not go on doing something that is clearly a breach of boundaries.

What if D and E find out? Nightmare....

Hang on, you’re C. B has a bad back…. Why the fuck did A have her top off as well?! Definitely sexual. To me that’s basically cheating, no?!

Oh fuck I got confused with sexes. Nevermind. What does H, make of it, whats what I want to know. That and the wee donkey.

Awful for you, don’t fall for this crap. No one giving a massage would be stripping down to their bra (is she giving a Turkish massage, heard they work up a sweat and fling people around physically?). You deserve much much better.