To be upset that dh got me a bloody iron

[Ohdear7777]

For my birthday?! Yes we already have one and no I didn’t get anything else!! Wth

My DH thinks its funny to wrap needed household appliances for birthdays and Christmas.
He gets me a proper present as well...

DH got me a paper shredder for my birthday if that helps? He was right in that I did need one, but still...

I think we have the same kind of DH.
Mine calls it 'practical' romance.
Practical romance gifts have included 2nd hand rockery stone and bricks that I had to unload from the boot up a hill, a strimmer (so i could "get on with the garden"), a fucking pastry brush (why???), and the best one for my 40th... a stapler 'wrapped' in a thin white plastic bag. I wouldn't have been surprised to see someone else's name written on the bottom in tippex.
Anyway, after years of crap gifting he is getting slightly better (well, I buy my present and give it to him to wrap)

I'm finding this thread quite comforting cos I'm clearly not alone!

Have you told him exactly how upset you are and why? Have you gone into great detail and made him understand the damage this lazy and insulting shit does to a relationship, and your relationship in particular?

I would be devastated. Apparently he sees you as the weilder of domestic appliances. Not sexy.

Why not tell him it's a shit gift? Why accept that? 'This is not an acceptable birthday gift. Take it back or it goes to charity shop.' He doesn't and he gets FA for his birthday.

I'd buy him an ironing board for his birthday.

I'd hit him with an ironing board on his birthday

One year I received an electric screwdriver for Xmas from oh, I was a mix of really annoyed and quite hurt (actually came in very handy but don't tell my oh that 😉)
An iron as a bday present crosses a line that can't be uncrossed 💐

Really honestly, a sane adult needs to be told an iron is not a birthday present?

Anyone here ever gifted an iron to someone, without being prompted?

I don't iron except once in a blue moon wedding dress etc. Things come out of washing machine and go onto plastic coat hangers.

Creases drop out. Lycra is a wonderful thing.

It's quite interesting isn't it.. I am genuinely wondering if there's a part of men's brains which hears the word present and automatically think what do they need rather than what do they want?

As said upthread household items should never be gifts unless they have been specifically asked for. My DHs low point was a sewing box and a gallon of car shampoo one christmas. His parents came over for the day , their dogs pissed everywhere all bloody day I kid you not. By the time they left I was in such a rage I locked him out of the house in the pouring rain. It's not happened since, he asks me what I'd like now.

A friend of mine received a set of kitchen knives for her ( special ) birthday . Apparently it was to help her chop things better ! He was lucky she didn’t chop off his dick .

Nice knives are a great gift!

Get him some zoflora and sponges for his birthday.

I'd be fucking fuming.

This can't be true. Surely it's been common knowledge for decades that household appliances are not appropriate gifts for wives?

Oven gloves here, OP. It was the one and only time I’d ever actually asked for something for my birthday (a particular necklace I’d fallen in love with) and I got … oven gloves.

I thought they were a joke present and he’d whip out the necklace, but no. When I asked about it he looked completely bewildered - literally hadn’t been listening at all on the couple of occasions I’d shown him the bloody thing and said how much I’d like it for my birthday.

He was even a bit hurt at my reaction and kept pointing out that the oven gloves were ‘really good ones’

I wouldn’t bother buying your DH a household item for his birthday as it sounds like it may go straight over his head. Just go into the nearest Clinton’s Cards type place, close your eyes and grab whatever random shite you touch - sparkly fridge magnet, sentimental clown ornament, hen night savings jar, plus a card for a great aunt or nan, and wrap it all up for him. Tell him that’s what you thought was happening on birthdays now - grabbing something thoughtless at the last minute. See if he does any better next year. Happy birthday, btw!

Currently laying a patio op. How big does the hole need to be??

Oldbutstillgotit
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DH bought me four mugs one Christmas. We already had enough. BF asked what I had got. She said “ I would bloody well mug him!” Her husband bought her a small stacking CD player for the bedroom and some CDs.
She told DH and told him mugs were not an acceptable present. He said later,” Do you not like the mugs?” They were quite nice blue, Chinese designs but I told him I would have preferred something else. I got a hot air balloon flight the next year😳

I love the idea of getting him an ironing board!

What was your response to it?

The obvious being clonking him over the head with it…

I'm just here to find out what your reaction was!

It would be me, with the iron, in the kitchen.

It's a man thing. I was once given a carpet washer and DH couldn't understand why I was upset.

I think lots of DHs would quite like a practical present for their own birthdays. My DP would certainly prefer a new socket set to socks! However, the difference is I know this about him and so do not buy him the 'male' version of presents I would like.

Men just don't get it, do they?

I've known quite a few men who request tools for gifts, and I think they see household appliances as the female equivalent. Which just goes to show that they see domestic work as women's work, the fuckers.

Anyway, OP, how far up his arse do you think you can shove the iron? And definitely get a hoover or a carpet cleaner for his birthday.