AIBU to be raging??

[Turquoiseraindrops]

Food order coming tomorrow morning. WiFi down so took ages with 4G to do it all. AGES. It went through and I had email Confirmation.

P is away till tomorrow. He Logged in from his phone and I think somehow managed to delete the order. He swears blind he didn’t but I’ve logged in again and it’s completely gone. Although no cancellation email. Is this a glitch with the site or had it gone?

We had scheduled our weekend plans around that delivery and the food etc as can’t just pop into a supermarket.

AIBU to be absolutely raging? Im so upset.
I always do all the shopping, meal plan etc. I have a system. He doesn’t want any part of it (just expects the meals) and the one time he logs in to add to the list, it’s all gone.

Argghhh.

There is a huge background story if this has left you raging. Either he cocked it up, the WiFi dropped or you didn't check out properly. These things happen. Having your whole weekend ruined is a bit dramatic. Can't you do a click and collect and get a taxi to the supermarket? (Assuming you don't drive)

@Mandalay246

Or.....as seems to be more common on here.....he refuses to do anything towards shopping, cooking and I would guess anything else domestic but expects The Wifemaid to magically present a beautifully cooked meal in an immaculate house with delightful children whilst also paying her half of the bills.

You know nothing at all about the OP's husband, and what he does or doesn't do and yet you automatically jump to this conclusion. Thank goodness I don't live in your bitter world.

OP says in her final paragraph of her first post

“ I always do all the shopping, meal plan etc. I have a system. He doesn’t want any part of it (just expects the meals) ”

I agree everyone always jumps on the OP to justify a man behaving inexcusably. Especially on AIBU.

OP set up the initial order correctly she said she had the email confirmation.

Things went tits up when her P went into the order to add his things and make changes he wanted.

@strawberrydonuts

Oh great, another thread where a husband does something wrong and posters bend over backwards to make it the wife’s fault 🙄

Really? I feel like mumsnet is one of the most anti-male websites I've ever been on!

I Agree. Every complaint is usually met with "he is a controlling bastard and will do it again". Generally then followed up with "leave him and get his pension". I often think something must be wrong with me as I have never had an argument with my DH and he is a delightful man.

No idea what happened but the shopping arrived! I have apologized to dp, but am changing the password so if it happens again, the blame will be entirely my own.

Wouldn't you get an email confirming the order had been cancelled?

Oh right, massive overreaction .
Some idiot even accused him of doing it on purpose!

I feel sorry for your partner if this is how you react when you imagine they've done something wrong. I wouldn't want to live with that.

@Turquoiseraindrops

No idea what happened but the shopping arrived! I have apologized to dp, but am changing the password so if it happens again, the blame will be entirely my own.

great news 🌸

Was it Sainbury's? That happened to me a couple of weeks ago. I rang up & the lady said it was a glitch. She said look again in an hour, it reappeared!

Was it Tesco?

My booked order randomly disappeared from both the app and the browser site last week. I emailed them asking wtf. It reappeared a few hours later, and the order came.

"AIBU to be absolutely raging?"

If there's even a small chance you could be blaming him when he didn't do anything, yabu for blaming him without knowing for sure.

If he did delete it, yanbu to be pissed off at him.

"I'm so upset. I always do all the shopping, meal plan etc. I have a system".

"He doesn’t want any part of it (just expects the meals)".

^I don't think yabu to be upset in general, that you have to do all the meal planning.

I just noticed your update op, I'm glad the stuff arrived, and that you apologised.

but am changing the password so if it happens again, the blame will be entirely my own

There never was any blame even if your P had some how deleted it would have been an accident, you sound quite unhinged

I promise I’m not. This was just one of many things (that was not relevant to the thread but could be a whole thread in itself). He’s all about blame, everything is about fault. You spend long enough with someone, it’s hard not to get caught up in that way of thinking sometimes.

There never was any blame even if your P had some how deleted it would have been an accident, you sound quite unhinged

isn't HINDSIGHT great 🙄

Why are you with him then? You don’t seem to like him very much

@PumpkinKlNG

Why are you with him then? You don’t seem to like him very much

do you live with OP 🤔

that's a massive insight you have there 👀

@QueenBee52 Indeed it is! How ironic

Have you read the thread?! She clearly has a lot of issues with the relationship!

Hence her taking it out on him which she’s admitted 🙄

@PumpkinKlNG

Have you read the thread?! She clearly has a lot of issues with the relationship!

and you living with her too... bonus 🤣