AIBU to be annoyed about child on school run

[LegoVsFoot]

My two youngest DCs go to the local nursery and we often walk with another mum and child on the school run.

We normally chat and get on but her child can be a bit bossy/rude and she never says anything. Stuff that I would always give a warning about - teasing with toys/snacks, shouting, saying 'you're not my friend' etc. Even to the point the nursery workers heard and said 'that's not nice'.

AIBU to say something next time? I tend not to say anything to other peoples' children but mine are well behaved (and if not I tell them off!) and I don't want them to think it's ok, especially when the mum doesn't say anything.

Personally I'd say something to the child along the lines of "that's not very nice is it?" Why should the little shit get away with it? I've done this in the past when something mean has been said to my child in front of me.

as Youdoyoutoday said - and if that makes no difference and she still chooses to ignore the little shit, be honest, say you'd prefer not to walk with her because her child is rude and a bully.

Just don't walk with the other mum.

@Youdoyoutoday @ThinWomansBrain is it ever ok to refer to a child as a 'little shit'?

'Little shits' don't fall far from the tree. If a child that young is behaving badly with no obvious boundaries being set then it's not really the child's fault.

Don't tell the child off but I would respond with something like 'that's not very kind'

@Youdoyoutoday @ThinWomansBrain is it ever ok to refer to a child as a 'little shit'?

I certainly wouldn’t call a nursery child a little shit. It’s a bit harsh because they’re so little and still learning.

A 10 year old NT child being horrid I would definitely call them a little shit.

@ThinWomansBrain

as Youdoyoutoday said - and if that makes no difference and she still chooses to ignore the little shit, be honest, say you'd prefer not to walk with her because her child is rude and a bully.

That's a horrible way to describe such a toddler, especially as poor behaviour at such a very young age is nearly always a result of poor parenting.

OP, I'd either say something on the lines of "That's not very kind behaviour" so that your dc know that it's unacceptable or just stop walking to nursery with them.

@Youdoyoutoday

Personally I'd say something to the child along the lines of "that's not very nice is it?" Why should the little shit get away with it? I've done this in the past when something mean has been said to my child in front of me.

Horrible way to talk about a very young child.

When similar issues have arisen I have just left a few minutes earlier or later to avoid them.

Don't say anything. She is not your child. Don't walk with them.

I would always say something along the lines of "now I dont think that sounds like a kind thing to say, does it?" Hard for the mum to accuse you of telling off their child but sends the message to your own DC (and the child) acknowledging that what they have said is not appropriate.

Obviously I would never say that to a child but in an adult talk forum referring to a child as a little shit is OK in my eyes because the child is behaving like one and needs pulling up on it!!

I'd be saying to the child, 'I'm pretty certain that x at nursery would pull you up if she heard you talking like that/behaving like that, wouldn't she'?

is it ever ok to refer to a child as a 'little shit'?

Yes. Any other questions you need help with?

@Lotsolove

is it ever ok to refer to a child as a 'little shit'?

Yes. Any other questions you need help with?

🤣

I recall your name op
Bit baffled
Last month you’re saying your pregnant with your second child

@LegoVsFoot how old are your kids and the other one?

Least said, soonest mended.
Not your child, not your problem

You shit stirring again, op?

The child is very young and probably wants to walk with her mother and have her attention so is misbehaving.

I wouldn't walk with them to be honest. Can't you walk with the mum on the way back, without the kids, and chat then?

@Scaredycatmoo

I recall your name op Bit baffled Last month you’re saying your pregnant with your second child

If you’re going to advance search someone at least own it.

@Lotsolove

is it ever ok to refer to a child as a 'little shit'?

Yes. Any other questions you need help with?

Of course it’s OK to refer to a random, unarmed child on an anonymous forum as a ‘little shit’. Honestly.

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