To think teachers should not fuss staff members children publicly

[Bluebellsinthesnow]

I've got a teaching assistant on my Facebook because we go years back. She started in September at the local school my child attends and is definitely brilliant with the children. We had sports day Monday. She has most of the teachers on her Facebook now, So alot of local mums from the school can see her stuff and the teachers interacting with her. Ofcourse they are people outside of work and are allowed to have social media.

But what I thought was a shame was many of us were proud of our kids and that they got some stickers for coming in the top four places. My child got a second place. Many others got various ones for top places.
The ta shared her child came third and fourth. Again she's allowed to share and be proud. But Five teachers wrote comments on her status to tell her daughter how wonderful she is. What a star she was. Lots of kisses and hearts. One of them said she couldn't wait to hear her story about it today when she sees her.

Fair enough. But what about all the other kiddies who didn't get extra praise and now she has had that massive confidence boost and extra fuss all because her mum's working there. She will probably tell some of the other kids what the teachers told her mummy to say and the other kids will wonder why they were not praised.

I don't like it. I just think a part of being a proffesional is to treat everyone equally. I don't think extra messages with kisses is fair or appropriate.

Or am I just being petty. Can't stand to see children favoured because of who their mum is.

They are her friends. They are commenting on how well their friends child has done.

Your post just makes you sound jealous

You sound 1000x pettier than I imagine any of those children being

I’m surprised that her school “allows” her to be friends with parents.
I had to unfriend my cousin because she’s admin at my DD’s school.

This is why most schools have the sense to insist no parents as friends on Facebook. If those boundaries are meaningless there will be other home/ school boundaries not being well maintained by the school as well.

Yes you are being petty.

I think it can lead to false allegations of favouritism, so YANBU.

You are being too sensitive. As a teacher I have lots of friends at work. I see their kids often. Should I ignore their children?

@FluffMagnet

As the daughter of a teacher who has been taught by many of my mum's friends, including my sister's godmother (my poor sister had the misfortune of being taught by my mum for the whole of Yr 2, which was very difficult for both), I can assure you that it was the opposite of favouritism, as people tripped over themselves to ensure we were not being shown advantage. In fact we were often disadvantaged just to be safe. Even as primary aged children, we were well versed in the differentiation between school and private lives, including use of different names, why we couldn't ask for "favours" and why it wouldn't be seemly to get plum roles in the Christmas play etc. I guess we were fortunate in that most of the teachers were a similar age, so there were a small group of us all in the same boat, and so it was easier to see the precedent. Obviously this predated social media, but I presume the reality in school is similar these days.

This is the reality, teachers' children usually get the short straw because everyone bends over backwards to be perceived to be fair, they never get the best roles, win the art comps etc etc. It can be hard being a teacher's child, you can hide little! I recall when we and another couple all taught in our children's school and all saw them at break sitting in the naughty mat, hands of heads, looking very hard done to, we walked by and only when we were though the door collapsed in a laughing heap. The golden rule was unless other parents were being informed about a problem, we didn't want to know either.

@newnortherner111

I think it can lead to false allegations of favouritism, so YANBU.

Not in the minds of people with sense!

Bit stalky

Perhaps remove yourself from her facebook so it doesn't annoy you. I know at my children's school the teacher's are very strict about ensuring their facebook is closed/locked down and they are advised not to be "friends" with parents on facebook.

This is the reality, teachers' children usually get the short straw because everyone bends over backwards to be perceived to be fair, they never get the best roles, win the art comps etc etc.

This is not the case in my kid’s school. The teacher’s kids are chosen for everything.

It was annoying to parents when the kids were little but it’s now upsetting for the children old enough to see the blatant favouritism.

You are being ridiculous.

The TA should have her account on private so only the people she is friends with can see her posts.
She also shouldn’t have parents as friends (unless like yourself, you go way back iyswim)

IF she has come that, it really won’t matter. And no other parent will have seen it. I would hope her dc won’t have seen it either tbh.

You sound like you are the one still at primary school.

Wow. All I can think whilst I'm reading this is utter jealously..

My work friends are positive about my dc's achievements of Facebook. This is the same situation.

It's really not worth being jealous about it.

My sons and his mates used to always stalk their teachers fbs 😆 YABU op don't be jealous

They are just sharing in a friend's child's success.

Are you for real?

It's the mums Facebook though. I doubt the child will care.

Having said that in secondary school for the first year play all the teachers kids got proper speaking parts first before the rest were handed out!!

Well, you sound petty.

Unless the DC are on fb I wouldn't worry.

You sound very petty I agree

Your child wont see these posts.
Teachers are allowed to have friends.
Friends are allowed to have children.