To think he shouldn't be giving away my stuff to his ex?

[Yeez]

Came home the other day to find out DH has given away a blender I bought myself a while ago to his ex because she mentioned wanting one and I "don't use it anyway". It's not just a crappy £10 job either, it was quite expensive and came with different attachments etc...

I haven't used it in a while admittedly but I was actually planning to again during the summer for smoothies and so on.

He thinks I'm being OTT and how was he supposed to know because it's been sat in a cupboard for ages. I think regardless he should have checked with me?! To clarify it was 100% mine, I bought it and I was the only one who ever uses it.

Hasn’t he got some golf clubs you can give away !

Nup! Give him the choice between getting it back unused or buying a new one, same model or an upgrade, within the week.

Actions have consequences. If need be, remind him that he endowed you with all his worldly goods, not the other way around.

Outrageous on several levels simultaneously.

Reminds me of a previous relationship where they had seperated. His ex offered to swop his £10k raptor quad for a £3k horse box for her horse without consultation.....

My DH is one of those. Thing is - it's not only my stuff... It's everything. He'll buy a shirt and if someone comments on how nice it is, he gives it to them. My BIL's wardrobe is literally all DH's stuff. He gave my new Dyson to his DD. I bought a rain jacket and when I got back from a work trip, it'd gone. He gave it to his SIL as he didn't think I wore it anymore - I hadn't wore it at all, it was brand new. Tools, camping gear, clothes, etc, all at his friend's houses - he loans them but never bothers to ask for them back. He's always first to the bar; the till; the bakers. So many of his "friends" take advantage of him. Money is like water in his hands. He tells me he often doesn't even want to, he just feels he ought to, that it would be rude not to. It's bizarre - I guess he just a people pleaser.

We have reached a point where I have no problem in calling out on it and he is now happy to allow me to be "rude" on his behalf. A few weeks back his nephew complimented a (expensive) hobby possession and asked for recommendations as he was looking for one himself, DH offered to sell it to him at a ridiculous low price to which I quickly interjected "you'll bloody well not sell that one, you're still using it!" DH later told me that he had no idea why he even offered to sell it, he didn't want to but he felt it was nice to help out DN. DN earns more than DH!

@CuriousaboutSamphire I think my mother is your dad's twin. Endless lectures about not ruining my toys, keeping them in their box and then taken and given away because I was not using them, how could I use them I was punished and berated for using them. As an adult I find myself so possessive about my things, but you know what they are mine, they are important to me and nobody else gets to determine what I have and enjoy.