To think a lie in doesn't count as my "me time"

[Kinsters]

I had a lie in this morning while DH got up with our daughter (7:30am so not unreasonably early and he was awake anyway). Later in the day I entertained her for an hour or so while DH played video games.

AIBU to think that these two are not equal? For context I do all the night wake ups for our daughter (blessedly a lot less now but I still find myself waking often) I am also tired because I'm pregnant hence the lie in.

We are not tit for tat about these things so it doesn't really matter, I'm just curious what others think.

[quote Unknown1989]@Kinsters

Can you ask for a bit of time to yourself while he puts her to bed?

‘Me time’ at 7am is not the same as me time at 5-6pm. You won’t go for a drink at 7am but you will later on. And to top it off you are pregnant! You need all the ‘me time’.

Sorry, for all the posts that seem so bitter, I don’t understand mumsnetters sometimes.[/quote]
Yes, if I want time to myself I can have it.

Interesting someone mentioned iron levels. I think I will get them checked as I've been getting dizzy spells which I thought was low blood pressure due to pregnancy but could be iron levels. I am finding myself needing more sleep than I feel like I should need. DD is sleeping better than ever with normally only one wake up and I'm almost out of the first trimester but the exhaustion just isn't lifting.

YANBU a lie in is to catch up on the sleep you missed tending to the kids in the night.

Same issue over here OP.
DS 18 mos is up every 2 hours or so at night so it's not a 'lie in' when DH takes him from 6am to 8am, it's my actual sleep.
Sadly, it's the only 'me time' I get too :(

@LadyCatStark good for you hen. Glad you’re so superior you don’t need any time to yourself. I imagine you may have been one of those lucky folk who got enough time to yourself that you didn’t notice it was “me” time

If you're doing night wakings the a lie in is compensation for that. Me time is entirely seperate.

@LadyCatStark

Why does everyone need so much “me time” nowadays? DS is only 12 but when he was little you just got on with life and did what needed to be done!

Because sometimes my kids are annoying and I'd like time away from them.

[quote Lemonwoe]@LadyCatStark good for you hen. Glad you’re so superior you don’t need any time to yourself. I imagine you may have been one of those lucky folk who got enough time to yourself that you didn’t notice it was “me” time[/quote]
Hahaha if only! No with working, doing a degree and raising a child and a step child, “me time” was thin on the ground…

I just don’t get the whole tit for tat “you had an hour lie in so now you owe me an hour.” “No a lie in isn’t me time, so you owe me an hour.”

@LadyCatStark aye well... so long as you weren’t a SAHM or very part time one who’s parents had the kids all the time... I’m not jealous and bitter at all at my lack of me time over the last year.... not a fucking tall

I just don’t get the whole tit for tat “you had an hour lie in so now you owe me an hour.” “No a lie in isn’t me time, so you owe me an hour.”

I don't think the tit for tat usually plays out that way around, though, it's more likely to be "what are you complaining about, you had a lie in so you DON'T need an hour to yourself", which is where the hypothetical debate comes in.

They are not, you need the rest to function properly, video gaming is not essential

Don’t do all of the night parenting for DC2: v bad for your health!

Yabu you had your time