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To want covid vaccine even though bf says I cant

318 replies

Trumanshow · 18/06/2021 22:47

So my bf lives with his mum who is pretty old. Apparently her dr has said she shouldn't have the covid vaccine as it's not safe and no one who has had it can come into contact with her for 10 days. So my bf says Im not allowed to have it done. As far as I know the vaccine can't shed and if his mum is old (80s but otherwise healthy) she will be fine having the jab herself! She believes crystals heal....

I'm pretty well educated and they are starting to make me doubt myself, Im booked to have first dose tomorrow (my hometown has had a massive surge in cases) but I'm scared of the fallout if I do. AIBU just to go have it done even though he says I cant?

OP posts:
Alcemeg · 19/06/2021 08:58

No way did her GP say no one who has had it can come into contact with her for 10 days.

Oh dear, they are nuts.

FunMcCool · 19/06/2021 08:59

He cheats
He gets upset if you put your daughter first
He doesn’t understand how vaccines work.

Why on earth are you with him? You say you’re well educated! Really? Why are you taking this shit?

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 19/06/2021 09:03

I'm pretty sure that if he and his mother both wear one if his tin foil hats everything will be OK.

An added bonus is that any Aliens / Lizards won't be able to read their minds.

Win-win in my book.

scubadive · 19/06/2021 09:07

You know he needs to go don’t you.

AnnunciataZ · 19/06/2021 09:08

@FunMcCool

He cheats He gets upset if you put your daughter first He doesn’t understand how vaccines work.

Why on earth are you with him? You say you’re well educated! Really? Why are you taking this shit?

And to top it off, this prince is 7 stone overweight, his room is a tip and OP does his laundry.

Seriously OP, what's in it for you?

QuimKardashian · 19/06/2021 09:10

I would avoid him permanently. Sounds like your way out of this odd relationship

BeastforLease · 19/06/2021 09:10

@FunMcCool abuse is not linked to a women's intelligence or education levels. Leave your victim blaming bullshit at the thread entrance hey?

Franacropan1 · 19/06/2021 09:12

I hope that by the time you read this you have had your vaccine and dumped the numpty boyfriend.

Confusedandshaken · 19/06/2021 09:13

While you are queuing for the vaccine, download some dating apps and dump this loser.

I've been married 37 years. It's a long, long time and we are very happy together. At no point in that time has my husband ever told me what to do or 'forbidden' me from doing anything (and vice versa). We certainly have opinions, discussions and disagreements but ultimately we make our own decisions. If he ever tried to order me around I'd give him the hard Paddington stare. If he continued I'd ditch him. He would no longer be the man I wanted in my life.

SamMil · 19/06/2021 09:19

I would definitely have the vaccination.

And dump the bf, as he is clearly an idiot and controlling too.

AnyFucker · 19/06/2021 09:22

abuse is not linked to a women's intelligence or education levels

Absolutely true. But let’s not infantilise this (or any) woman. She has free will and agency (I assume). They don’t even live together. She could end this farce at any time. She has posted before and got overwhelming consensus that this guy is no good and yet she stays.

At some point personal responsibility, as a grown adult with full faculties, comes into play.

drinkingwineoutofamug · 19/06/2021 09:22

OP are you my cousin. Her gobshite of a partner won't let her (a nurse) have the vaccine either.
He's wittered on the same shite about shedding viral load 🙄
He's a controlling, coercive, lazy shite.
Considering we live in a covid hot spot...

aiwblam · 19/06/2021 09:27

Get your jab
Don’t see him for 10 days
Use those 10 days as the start of your new life without him.

The vaccination contains genetic information which tells your body to make the spikes on the outside of the coronavirus. So, your body assembles these spikes when you receive the vaccine. It learns that the spikes are foreign and therefore kills them. It remembers the spikes and how to kill them. So if you then do come into contact with Covid, your body recognises the spikes on the outer casing and kills the whole thing.

It is important to realise that the actual genetic viral material, ie the virus itself, which is inside the spiked case of the real coronavirus, is not involved in the vaccination process at all.

As a consequence, you may feel ill whilst your body makes and kills the spikes, but this cannot possibly be coronavirus, because the actual virus wasn’t injected. Not the virus, not a weakened form of it. Just the instructions to produce the spikes from its case. You would pose zero risk to his mum. He is a halfwit and you need to free yourself from such a foolish mummy’s boy.

newnortherner111 · 19/06/2021 09:36

This morning you should do two things. Book your vaccine and end the relationship with a man who deserves to be single.

Alcemeg · 19/06/2021 09:36

Don't just dump him, kill him OP. We don't need that sort in the gene pool 🤣

RedToothBrush · 19/06/2021 09:38

You bf is trying to control you. Worst still he's trying to control you with nonsense and lies.

Go get your jab. Don't tell him. And preferably kick him into touch where he belongs.

NO ONE but you should make decisions about your health.

LadyDanburysCane · 19/06/2021 09:42
  1. Get the vaccine
  2. Don’t see BF for 10 days
  3. Go to 2 - ad infinitum…………..
ofwarren · 19/06/2021 09:45

He's lying
My son can't have live vaccines or be near my other son when he has the flu spray as it sheds. His consultant has said it's fine to be near people who've had the covid vaccine because Pfizer doesn't contain any virus and AZ is not live virus and isn't covid anyway, it's adenovirus.

ddl1 · 19/06/2021 09:53

You have a right to protect your own health. It's not your bf's decision.

Either his mum's doctor is a quack, or your bf has completely misunderstood what they said. It's possible that his mum does have a condition that makes her unable to be vaccinated - which would make it even more important that those around her should be vaccinated. But it wouldn't mean that she can't be near a vaccinated person for 10 days - that's the isolation period for Covid exposure, not for vaccination. It is NOT a live vaccine, and canNOT give you Covid.

You could have the vaccination and stay away from your bf's mum for 10 days, if she insists on that. If your bf won't even accept that, then unfortunately he may not be the one for you.

mellicauli · 19/06/2021 09:53

Don't forget to get your jab today.
You are your own person and you can make your own decision.

110APiccadilly · 19/06/2021 09:59

Just don't see her or him for 10 days.

I don't believe your bf is correct in what he's told you, but unless you want to have a massive fight about that, the easy option is just to tell them when you're having it and explain you understand they don't want to see you for the next 10 days and you'll respect that.

Hoppinggreen · 19/06/2021 10:03

It’s total bull.
I actually know some Medics who are really unsure about the vaccine (I know a shit load more who aren’t though) and even they wouldn’t tell a patient it’s not safe by association

Hoppinggreen · 19/06/2021 10:04

@Alcemeg

Don't just dump him, kill him OP. We don't need that sort in the gene pool 🤣
Slightly drastic but I can see your point
Hoppinggreen · 19/06/2021 10:05

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

I'm pretty sure that if he and his mother both wear one if his tin foil hats everything will be OK.

An added bonus is that any Aliens / Lizards won't be able to read their minds.

Win-win in my book.

I think the Alien Lizards would get bored pretty quickly as there won’t be much content
mrstrickland · 19/06/2021 10:06

Absolute BS, but you already know that. I'm a vaccinator and there are very very few people who wouldn't be able to have the vaccination at a clinic. But even those identified as potentially problematic, would be sent to a hospital to be vaccinated under observation.
The 10 days thing, wtf? absolute nonsense.
Why are you with this moron?