For not sending DS (6y) to a film party

[Halfling]

Hi, please can you help me with a dilemma. DS 6 yo was invited to a birthday party along with a handful of other children to a classmate's party in his garden. Now with the ongoing rainy weather, the plan has been changed and the birthday child's mum has messaged saying they'll be taking the children to watch a film at the local multiplex to celebrate. However, I am not sure if this is a good idea - halls without windows, crowds, delta variant affecting children etc. DH feels I am catastrophising and preventing my son from enjoying a party after a very long down. Please help me make a sensible decision. Would you send your primary school aged DC to an indoors party at a venue with no windows?

Yes I would. They’re all at school together anyway.

YABU
They are not socially distancing at school and there is so little fun at then moment that I think it’s a bit mean to stop a small child from going to a party

Yes I would. They’re all at school together anyway.

Exactly. You've got to let him start living. All this paranoia is going to drive people insane.

The moment* not then!

I would let him go. They are all at school together anyway.

Yes, I would let my children go. When it’s raining at playtime the school put films on the for the kids in the classrooms. I don’t think this is any different. There aren’t currently any plans to vaccinate under 12’s and they can’t stay locked up forever.

I would let him go. They've all missed out on so much.

Yes, without a doubt

Thank you very much for all the replies. DS is very excited as it the the first party he can go to after so many months. It would crush me to disappoint him. And I agree about them being together at school. It is other members of the public sharing an indoors venue without any windows that is making me nervous. It is reassuring to hear so many of you say you'll send your DC though

Its a cinema. Its fine. What do you actually think is going to happen?

Let him go

Poor boy. They all mix at school anyway, the cinemas are very distanced, have excellent air con and it would be nice to do something normal.

I can see your point and at least at school the windows/doors are open but I'd still let him go.
It's been hard for kids, they need some fun.

@Dishwashersaurous

Its a cinema. Its fine. What do you actually think is going to happen?

I am scared of him getting infected. Sorry if I sound paranoid but I have lost family members because of Covid and not sure if I am making a good judgement here at all. DH is of the view that even if he gets infected, he'll have a mild infection and we can't hide away forever. I am less confident

Sounds fine.

Yes I would send my 6 year old DS. I actually have one too!

Yes I would send him, he mixes all day with kids anyway and if he is going to get it anywhere it will most likely be at school. They need to start living life again.

We have been to the cinema and they did ensure empty seats between different parties/ sufficient spacing out - it was fine- kids loved it and hardly anyone there in any event!

I would let mine go, but if you're not happy to Op, you're not unreasonable to say no.

Sounds lovely. I’d let him go

You need to listen to your DH on this one. Your personal losses are affecting your ability to judge risk. Let your son go and have fun.

Honestly the amount of people- teachers, kids a d parents he has contact with now I wouldnt hesitate- a few extra people in a ventilated area won't add to his risk.

I'm with your DH on this one. Keeping him ignoring 6yo socialising will have a long term impact on his mental health and resilience.

My DS is 5 and I wouldn’t hesitate to send him.

Yes I would