To be over having to give up EVERYTHING due to perimenopause

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• Can’t tolerate alcohol anymore- even a couple of drinks give me a massive hangover
• Bread makes me massively bloated and I have to really watch what I eat as I get piled really easily 🙄
• Chocolate gives me a headache
• Tea gives me a massive headache
• have to watch everything I eat as the slightest deviation and I put on half a stone by barely looking
• the slightest deviation to my routine and I don’t sleep 😴

I feel like I barely recognise my own body!

Sigh- it’s SO dull!
Aibu to be really really really over perimenopause! Waiting for HRT from the doc and ready hope it helps!

Fucking hell, you poor bloody women. Why the hell do women get shat on so much, from society and biologically?!

Seriously, this is just shit. I'm a few years away from commenting from experience, but holy crap on a cracker. I've been watching my drink and diet and I'm now thinking fuck it, drink/eat it while you can!

@CharlieChickenson

Fucking hell, you poor bloody women. Why the hell do women get shat on so much, from society and biologically?!

Seriously, this is just shit. I'm a few years away from commenting from experience, but holy crap on a cracker. I've been watching my drink and diet and I'm now thinking fuck it, drink/eat it while you can!

well at least we don't have prostate glands

🌷🌻 for you...

HRT, definitely magnesium (sorted my headaches) and Vit D3, lots of Pilates and dog walks. I developed an intolerance to wine but can drink organic - lots of people are affected by the sulfites in it which give you that instant hangover feeling. Good luck with the HRT - it should really help!

After two nasty tears in childbirth I'm rather accustomed to random fingers up the bum and I'd take a finger up the bum any day compared to a smear!

I'm now hoping this quote function actually works as I've never used it before

Bloody didn't work, previous post was aimed at @godmum56

Am I unusual I am turning 53 and not started peri menopause yet - have periods still?

It is utterly, UTTERY shite.

It's the drenching night sweats for me The laundry alone is going to break me

The misogynistic undertones to the lack of research, education and, quite frankly, human compassion on the issue induces the most spectacular rage in me!

I'm horrified to hear from those of you who can't tolerate alcohol & therefore raise a in your name in the hope I forget that such an injustice may await me, maybe ignorance is bliss sometimes . . .

So don't! I'm off to party next week. I'm not my former self, she's in the past. She was beautiful. I much enjoyed her beauty, too, I never once sat around feeling fat or any such and got rid of bad men who tried to make me think otherwise. This one is beautiful, too, in a different way, she's wise. I find workrounds to it all. I still have regular, light periods in my 50s so I don't bother diddling with HRT. I embrace it. But if something else works for you, go for it! Anything goes!

@CharlieChickenson

After two nasty tears in childbirth I'm rather accustomed to random fingers up the bum and I'd take a finger up the bum any day compared to a smear!

I'm now hoping this quote function actually works as I've never used it before

the day i aged out of smears, I opened champagne. Gonna do it again when i age out of mammograms.

and its not the prostate testing, its the symptoms and the treatment!

For those that get the horrible twitchy restless crawly legs at night, I've found compression socks really help. Not particularly attractive and not great if you're also getting night sweats, but they do help settle my legs.

@Diversion sorry, you have totally made my day !!!

I'm right there with you all.

@VeritableBeast

This is all very familiar.

I’m mid forties. My periods got horrendously heavy about 5 years ago and my cycle has been getting shorter and shorter - down from 30 days 5 years ago to 23 days now. Or so I thought. It’s randomly really late this month, but I can feel it brewing and have had about 2 weeks of bloating, aches and PMT rage/tears…and counting. Just hurry the fuck up and come!

I’m also spotty, after 40 + years of clear skin. My hair is thinning. My skin is dry and crepey. The rain fog at work is awful around this time of the month.

It’s just non stop glamour and laughs!

The thunder is a nightmare too!!

Bloating had it for years, my experience and fact, estrogen upsets the bile and therefore upsets the digestion.
My solution add 1 teasp minced ginger add to mug of boiling water, drink as hot as you can, also aid this by pressing on tummy button in a clockwork motion.
The gas has to come out at one end or the other!
Never had brain fog, just very bad hot flushes.
Now hormonal depression ( started at 56, now 59) after menopause

I started HRT at 50 after about 5 years of drenching night sweats, aching joints, increasingly terrible pmt that lasted about 10 days. The relief within a few days was incredible. I had a year off it last year and the hot flushes were insane so I’m back on it. I hope the HRT is as effective for you. If the first one doesn’t suit you I’d recommend trying a different one as I think there’s trial and error sometimes to find one that really suits you. A few caused regular bleeding and brought back pmt symptoms way after my periods had called it a day.

I've had this since I was 29, I'm 38 now. It started after I had to have a termination due to tokophobia. I think it's a punishment from my body because I didn't procreate? Very bad soaking freezing night sweats, have to wake up to pee often (I think the sweats are like autonomic dysreflexia) boobs swell randomly & painful, hair on sides of legs gone/bald outer legs, but ugly dark hair on nipples started to grow. Memory awful, could be from the chronic sleep deprivation. Just a month ago I started taking Trazodone which I discovered by myself on YouTube out of all places. This makes me sleep finally, I don't know how I survived. Ovestin cream helps with the bladder pain, apparently good bacteria in the vagina & bladder are dependant on the presence of estrogen, this is why women with low estrogen get many UTIs.

By the way, I had to lie to get Ovestin because the NHS has a rule about not giving HRT to under 45s. But Ovestin vaginal cream is not even HRT, it's such a weak estriol that only acts locally so it's not systemic. I've had vile experiences where I was reduced to begging for Ovestin with doctors online & GPs. It was a nurse finally that prescribed it to me, but now I just buy it without a prescription from illegal pharma sites, because I can't deal with begging GPs anymore.

@romany4

I had to stop drinking alcohol completely. Gives me an instant migraine. Even with just a few sips..

It’s awful but it’s been like that with me since my 20th birthday. It’s so horrible not being able to have a drink with friends

Toe socks are really great for clammy & sweaty & sensitive feet. It's very odd but my feet which are always clammy don't sweat with Toe Socks, and my toes don't rub against each other causing pain.

I've been suicidal & ended up in hospital, no help though, waste of money for the NHS, it's complete false economy that they fob everyone off, so stupid. All those managers & still can't help women with basic sufferings.

@Ottolenghilover so true, the lack of research & basic human compassion or just fulfilling their duty of care, I've had to cry & beg, literally I begged for Ovestin as it was the only thing that helped me but because I was in my early-mid 30s doctors would just refuse to prescribe. One doctor said to me that I have to be 45 to get it & that if he prescribed it to me, he could lose his license & ruin his life. Literally he said this to me, as I was crying with desperation & begging for the vaginal cream. That was a website & webcam appointment, the doctor let it to on & on, they charged me £75 for ~ 15 mns, he could have stopped it since he wasn't going to prescribe but he let me beg & humiliate myself so they could charge more.

@eleflump

expressomartiniftw that's the combination my doctor recommended- please can I ask which symptoms it helped you with?

Brain fog and sweats were the worst ones. I don't have periods anymore due to mirena. I'm also less bad tempered

It's interesting about the food intolerances.
I think I'm becoming lactose intolerant but it's only been a few months which coincides with the peri menopause

No probs @ArabellaScott, I send you love and support, and the same to all of us, stretched and exhausted and spent with a lifetime of love and caring. Bless you and sleep well. X

I'm through the other side but can remember wanting to punch a woman on the train as she put her arm on the arm rest I wanted. I feel much calmer these days.

Solidarity to you all as I'm 41 and exactly the same. The horrendous anxiety that sort of comes in hot waves is the absolute worst and the fact that I really can't cope with any sort of late night or alcohol now as it makes my poor sleep even worse... It's all so boring. I'd also love to go on an absolute bender, but there's absolutely no way I'd be able to cope with how horrendous I'd feel afterwards. I'm barely managing after my evenings of pepppermint tea and bedtime yoga!
But, I am having regular periods still, so could this still be the start of perimenopause?