To ask for your best present as a new parent?

[poorfanjo]

My sil had a baby recently and I've been invited to go and meet them. DH is away working but it his sibling. He's not contactable at the moment so I can't ask him his opinion. I've recently had a second trimester miscarriage so I'm not particularly feeling great about thinking what new parents might want, plus we don't actually have a baby.

So aibu to ask you help a woman out here and tell me your best new born baby presents so I don't have to think and won't look like I don't give a shit? Bonus points if I can send it directly to them incase they or I change our minds about meeting up

I had considered some muslins or cook! Vouchers but I don't know

Tuppence and Crumble Star Wrap. Not ideal for this season but was fantastic for the winter so you could maybe get a medium one so it will fit come October/November time.

That's great thank you 😊

My mum made a shepherds pie for us to reheat. Miles better than the blankets, cardigans and teddies we were inundated with!

Sorry to hear about your loss. That must be really difficult.

Honestly? As a new mum my best presents were practical stuff. Almost everyone seemed to want to buy cute ouffits in newborn sizes which of course are lovely but the things I appreciated more at the time were nappies, wipes and pre-made food!

Takeaway voucher

Or a big box of chocolates

Basically anything for mum

Definitely not jellycat soft toys or any 0-3 month clothes are they’re done to death. The best gifts I received, thing that’s got daily use and I didn’t already have, were a dangly pram toy and a Sophie La Girrafe teething ring. I also loved receiving books- I read 4YO DD a story last night that was received as a newborn gift. The people who sent me booze were also greatly appreciated!

Clothes age 3-6 months. We were given loads of 0-3 and they grow so fast she didn’t even wear some of it.
A massive slab of galaxy chocolate
Offering to do the washing up*

*this was the best “present” I had when DD was a few months old, our dishwasher broke, I had severe post natal depression and my in laws came round, cleaned and tidied the whole kitchen and took DD out for a walk.

Food! And some lavender or camomile oil for the bath if she’s had stitches.

Postal order brownies for mum, baby will have tons of stuff already! Sorry for your loss.

I've had a second trimester miscarriage. It's absolutely bollocks OP, I'm sorry to read that.

Did they know about your little one?

If so, then give them vouchers to jojomamnbebe or similar.
I think your well forgiven for not going further than that.

Also I'm really not sure this thread will help you much OP.
(With regards to your own feelings I mean).

my brother came to visit- can't remember his actual present- but he hoovered the house, mopped, got laundry up to date, cleaned surfaces, and cooked dinner and more dinners for the freezer. This is 14 years ago now and it was hands down the best present ever. House went from a disaster to sparkling.

Fruit. I’m not even much of a fruit eater but I was so dehydrated and starved of nutrition after the birth.

Lavender for the bath

Insulated mug

Nappies

General food - anything easy to eat such as muffins or lasagne

My neighbour left a lasagna on the doorstep, I love her!

Meals and snacks.

Also baby supplies.

If you have a bit of a budget then a nappy cake.

I agree with everyone saying food!! We lived in takeaways in the first few weeks after our baby was born and it was not as great as it sounds. Some friends of ours with kids brought round a homemade lasagne and honestly I loved them so much for it! Your idea of cook vouchers is a good one I think.

So very sorry for your loss.

-Sainsburys large Muslins
-Babygros with zips in different sizes (lifesavers, poppers are the devil’s work)
-Gower cottage brownies
-Tasteful photo album, nobody prints out photos anymore but it’s so nice to have one album of baby’s first months

Having a prawn mayonnaise sandwich delivered to me when I returned home with my first baby was amazing!

I'd probably not get anything for baby - I'm sure they'll have lots of stuff already. Just a congratulations card will be fine.

Send a delivery of food - fruit, chocolate and some magazines to read during all the feeds.

And so sorry for your loss OP - so kind to be thinking of what to send them - hope you are ok x

Honestly, the gifts I remember are meals: quiches, lasagne etc. One girlfriend dropped around homemade bol sauce, a packet of pasta, Parmesan cheese and a cake. We were so grateful.
So sorry for your loss op.

A takeaway voucher. Or cook or something similar.

Look on Etsy or not on the high street or similar. You can get some really nice nursery pictures with the name on it. Or bunting in the babies name. You can get it sent straight to them.

The best gift I got and used a lot was a humidifier. It really helped when my DDs had stuffy noses and couldn't sleep at night. It was the best gift ever, and every time I pulled it out to use it I would say a quiet thank you to the kind person who got it for me because I never would have thought to get one for myself.

So sorry for your loss.

I would say not muslins, we were given loads and never needed them. Whilst we appreciated home cooked food, my husband appreciated these more as the baby had allergies and I had to avoid certain foods so it was actually quite depressing watching him eat all the lovely home cooked stuff!
I’d second a tuppence and crumble star wrap for the winter or a nice winter hat/mittens set. We were given loads of clothes but loads went unworn as they didn’t fit at the right time for the weather. Otherwise cult toys like tomys egg set, ‘that’s not my’ books or Sophie le giraffe for when they’re a bit older are likely to be appreciated.