To ask for your best present as a new parent?

[poorfanjo]

My sil had a baby recently and I've been invited to go and meet them. DH is away working but it his sibling. He's not contactable at the moment so I can't ask him his opinion. I've recently had a second trimester miscarriage so I'm not particularly feeling great about thinking what new parents might want, plus we don't actually have a baby.

So aibu to ask you help a woman out here and tell me your best new born baby presents so I don't have to think and won't look like I don't give a shit? Bonus points if I can send it directly to them incase they or I change our minds about meeting up

I had considered some muslins or cook! Vouchers but I don't know

Bonds wondersuits are gorgeous and also pram fans - I have quite a few around the house and they are brilliant in this hot weather

I was actually going to say that muslins and a food delivery from M+S were the best things I got, so you are definitely on the right lines.

I got a 4 pack of Aden and Anais big muslins. They are huge, about a meter square, and they wash really well and are nice and soft. I have used them most days since DS was born and he's 18 months now. You can get lots of lovely designs so can choose ones to their taste/baby's gender if that is your thing and they feel like a luxurious gift.

Agree with others that food is always welcome too.

My MIL gave me a pot of expensive hand cream, which was a luxurious but practical treat for me.

The best thing I received were ready made meals. My MIL made us a meal and left it on the doorstep every night for about a month after having a baby.

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I would suggest some ready made M&S meals and then a couple of outfits for the baby but in a 9-12 months or something

Sorry for your loss. Does SIL know? I'd probably take a nice box of biscuits for SIL and her OH with a card and tell them you'll get a baby gift with DH is back because you want to pick something together. Then leave to him to sort.

I fucking loved anyone who brought me food or booze.

A large bottle of wine and a promise of a night babysitting

A hamper with pate, all the stinkiest cheeses and chutneys I had been fantasising about for months, with two large French sticks bought in still warm from the bakers.

And my friend cuddled the baby while I ate. I genuinely still feel a bit tearful about it thinking about it now. It was amazing.

And I'm so very sorry for your loss.

We got a delivery of Cook meals and it was the best gift ever. They kept me going when my husband went back to work and I had to feed myself during the day

Sorry for your loss OP.
The most useful present we got was probably a folding travel changing mat (folds to look like a bag with pockets for nappies, wipes etc). Very practical, have used it throughout the nappy years. Of course if they already have one it'll be less useful!

so sorry for your loss.

do they know about it? if yes you could just tell them that it's a difficult time for you to think about gifts for a newborn and ask if they want anything in particular or would prefer a voucher or money towards something bigger.
that's what I would do.

I don't know what the best present is because it depends on what everyone's needs/likes are.
but the worst presents were always things we didn't need or had already and wished we could've just spent the money on nappies and wipes and formula!

So sorry for your loss. If I was you, I would send a hamper from yumbles (or somewhere) to them in the post. This was the best present I received! Then if you feel up for a visit, you could take something small for baby like a Lamaze pram toy or a book- e.g. Peter rabbit, (you can order online then take with you). Don't overthink it (as you can see from the posts everyone likes something different) and don't feel obliged to go unless you are ready. My lovely SiL was in a similar position when I had DC2 and she battled through a visit at her own insistence, when on reflection we agreed it would have been better for her to come at a later time.

Swaddle
Travel black out blind
Nice hand cream with a pump
Nice soft drinks
Takeaway or meal voucher
Sock ons

Baby:
Soft books with patterns/bold pictures in.
Lightweight cardigans (not hoodies).
Sleeping bags.
Teething toys, especially ones with loops or clips to attach to pram etc.
Snufflebabe saline and/or room vapour.

Parents:
Vouchers for takeaway, food delivery or cleaning service.
Dry shampoo, hairbands, hand cream, 'kind' soap or hand sanitiser.
Box sets.
Ear plugs/eye mask for the 'off duty' parent.

Zippered pyjamas from h&m in 2-4m size for baby

Freezer food from m&s or homemade for mum

Really sorry for your loss .

Please do something that doesn't require much time or effort from you -
Tuppence and Crumble star wrap
COOK vouchers
John Lewis vouchers
Takeaway voucher

Sorry for your loss 💔💔💔
Definitely something for mum. A friend got me some bath bits which I totally loved x