AIBU DC keeps being sent home from nursery because he’s hot?

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DC is a hot boy he never feels cool to touch except in the dead of the night (I have another thread about this as dressing him for it is a nightmare).
He goes to nursery three days a week but because he’s teething he keeps getting very red cheeks (very fair) and that combined with him feeling warm means they take his temperature. It keeps being 37.7 sometimes 37.8 and so I have to go and collect him.
We’ve done Covid tests each time - always negative - and I’ve had him at the doctors, all fine they say teething combined with him being a warm child.

But how on earth am I going to be able to keep this up with work/nursery etc if he keeps being sent home? I appreciate it from their side, they can’t take any chances, but it’s costing a fortune and he’s at home more than he’s there at the moment.

Doctor really not concerned he’s a perfectly well child and whenever he’s actually unwell he goes above 38. Doctor also said not all thermometers are accurate and you can easily get different readings but nursery have to abide by their Covid rules. Every time he’s been sent home, within a day or two he’s had a new tooth cut through it fully appear through but nursery say teething don’t cause fevers.

I don’t know what the answer is. I don’t think they are being unreasonable really, I’m just frustrated that even after I’ve spoken to the GP repeatedly and explained it still keeps happening

take his temperature daily, maybe two or three times.. morning, lunch and bedtime.

Note it down/keep a diary, and work out what his average 'normal' body temperature is.

Show it to nursery, and tell them unless it goes up well over his 'average' that they shouldn't call you.

Thank you, I know this sounds silly but how do I work out the average if the temps are different? He gets hotter after food/when he’s tired for example, I can tell that from feeling him. So would I go with the coolest and the hottest and take a mid point?

yeah, if you do it over a couple of weeks, you'll likely start to notice a pattern or a rough idea of whats 'normal' for him :)

my dd is a hot child, her normal is a about 36.8 - 37.2, it rarely goes above or below those figures, but fluctuates between them over the day, depending on what she's doing.

We had a similar problem with 8 year old ds. He has reflux and vomits 2-3 times a day. His teacher kept sending him home from school. He has a letter from his consultant on his school file now.

Can you ask them to clean his face with a cool flannel after food?
Dress him in very light clothing?

I'm not in the UK but run something like a child minders. I have one child that comes and every morning their temperature is consistently higher than everyone else's. That is just their normal and I monitored it over a few weeks to check it. They would hardly be here if I sent them away every time. I know there are policies but surely a bit of common sense can come into play too? Especially if you can get a note from the doctors. Have you spoken to the manager about it to see of there is any flexibility?

Average temperature would be- add together all the temperatures that you've taken throughout the day, then divide that number by the number of times you took the temperature.

Doctors letter?

@Bellasblankexpression do you mean the maths involved?

To get the average add up the temperatures and divide how how many of them there are.

E.g. morning = 37
Lunch = 38
Dinner = 39

37+38+39 = 114
114 /3 = 38 (average temperature)

I also had this with the nursery back in the 1st lockdown. They then complained when I sent DD in without a vest etc (in summer) after previously moaning she was too hot. Once I was called because she'd come out in a rash... It was October and I'd dressed her in light layers of a top, thin fleece and thin jacket. They'd taken the jacket off but let her run around in the top and fleece indoors, then wondered why she was sweaty thankfully they changed management to someone with common sense.

Thank you I wasn’t sure if temperature average would be worked out like a standard Average or whether you would go with the temp that’s most common.

I don’t really know what his baseline is but I think it’s probably around 37.5

DH thinks we should take him back to the doctor but he’s as right as rain and just warm. The only time he feels cool is when it’s literally snowing outside or it’s the dead of the night and he’s been sound asleep for a few hours!

Our nursery just seems stricter my friend has a little girl who always gets to 38 in the afternoon and then comes back down and they’ve just accepted that’s her normal otherwise she would be sent home every day!

@Clydie89 was your DC a similar temp when they got sent home? Nursery keep commenting on how it not “usual” for this to be normal for him

DD gets up to 37.8 at least once a month. Her normal temperature sits around 37.3 and all it takes is her getting hot or eating one of the foods she's allergic to (she's doing the milk ladder so we're constantly exposing her intentionally to increasing amounts of her allergen) and she'll get to 37.8 easily without being unwell.

We're fortunate that her nursery are using one of those crappy forehead thermometers that seem to read at least a degree too low.

(Before I get flamed for being irresponsible WRT Covid, the minute DD goes above 37.8 which is top of her normal range, I get her a Covid test or if she has any other coldy symptoms along with 37.8).

Show it to nursery, and tell them unless it goes up well over his 'average' that they shouldn't call you

You can't do this. They have policies to follow, a parent can't just "tell" them what to do.

That’s interesting about allergies. I’ve always just assumed DS ran hot but he has eczema and we had a few issues with reflux and introducing whole milk and dairy initially. He now eats a fair bit of dairy and it is around mealtimes or just after that it seems to go up. I had no idea allergies could do that.

I will start taking his temperature, he could be 37.7 more than I realise as I just go by feel and what feels normal to him

In the meantime I guess I’m just going to have to suck it up. The doctor won’t write a note for it and nursery are abiding by their procedure so I think it’s a bit of a stalemate really. A frustrating one!

“ take his temperature daily, maybe two or three times.. morning, lunch and bedtime.”

This, and get a thermometer that has been correctly calibrated.

We have 4 thermometers in our house, because I’m paranoid, long story. The forehead thermometer consistently reads at leat 1 degree higher than in ear or under tongue.

Braun thermoscan offer free recalibration I believe.

@LibrariesGiveUsPower45321 I didn’t realise they needed to be calibrated. We’ve got a braun thermoscan I just presumed it was good to go out of the box?
We used to have a forehead one too but it was a bit crap we realised at the height of the pandemic it was a degree lower.

They are fine out of the box, but like any other mechanical Item the calibration can drop

www.service.braun.com/line/PD/D6026/D6026_4_PL.pdf

Conversely my DDs are very cool and have only had an 'official' temperature once or twice in their lives. Yet have certainly been poorly. I did what a pp suggested and measured them regularly when I knew they were well and discovered they are usually a whole degree less than 'average'. So now I know what a 'temperature' means for them.

Oh I see. Our thermometer is quite new so I don’t think it would need calibrating yet

Absolutely the GP would not write a letter saying ignore it if this boy gets a temperature!!!!!!

@Feetupteashot yes I completely understand that. Just tricky when he’s always warm

You can't do this. They have policies to follow, a parent can't just "tell" them what to do.

This with bells on 🙄