AIBU to be irrationally angry....

[Itsjustamoment]

at my 'D'H for going somewhere he knew I'd really enjoy?
Today my DH has finished work early, picked up his parents who live round the corner from us, and gone somewhere I'd have loved. Think antique store etc etc.
I knew nothing of these plans until he phoned me saying 'you'd love it here, you'd be in your element, that's why you're not here'
I'm beyond furious. It just seems so mean!
Am I being absolutely ridiculous?

Well he's home and doesn't think he's done anything wrong.
I have no words.

I hope he has no dinner.

@mbosnz

I hope he has no dinner.

What? Becayse the woman always cooks for thr man?

No, but depressingly often.

To be fair I was cooking tonight and I did cook him dinner. I'm just not into tit for tat.
As I was serving dinner in the kitchen he disappeared upstairs and ignored me when I called up to him.
Seems he's doubling down on the dickish behaviour today.

God, he really is fucking clueless isn't he?

Actually no, I think he knows full well what he's done. He as good as admitted that when he said "You'd love it, that's why you're not here."

He's supposed to love you ffs.

Charming man you've got there.

Arrange your own trip there with a friend and have your own fun. He is trying to wind you up and he is getting something out of irritating you, so don't react.

I don't see the problem,he's kind enough to take his parents out,perhaps was sounding it out thinking you could go another time.He was joking.lighten up,you can go yourself!

If he'd been more specific and for example said "I think you'd have wanted to spend a while there looking at the antiques and I didn't want you to feel rushed around by me and my parents" it wouldn't have been so bad.

I can't understand these replies.

He went to a public place which the OP is free to go to at anytime. It's not like he got an invitation to Buckingham Palace and didn't bring you along.

It was an afternoon out with his parents. You (and him if you're still together) can go some other time.

Hope his dinner is in the dog

Blimey, OP. I'd bin his dinner, tbh, and go out on my own next time I'm off.

Do you think something has prompted this?

@topwings

I can't understand these replies.

He went to a public place which the OP is free to go to at anytime. It's not like he got an invitation to Buckingham Palace and didn't bring you along.

It was an afternoon out with his parents. You (and him if you're still together) can go some other time.

It's the whole "I wouldn't take YOU because you'd like it" bit which sounds spiteful and nasty. If he'd messaged to say they've gone there and we're having a lovely time, fine. But why the needful put in that he wouldn't take op as that would make her happy?

He rang you up to rub your nose in it?

Revenge.

@AnneLovesGilbert

'you'd love it here, you'd be in your element, that's why you're not here'

What does this mean?

this is the mean bit

Do you normally prefer him to go out with his parents without you? If so I can understand him not asking you, and taking them somewhere he thought his parents (mum?) would enjoy. Maybe the comment was just a jokey nod to the fact that having gotten there he’d realised you would really like it. If you normally love going out with him and his parents then he is being U, and you have every right to be annoyed.