AIBU? Feeling very unsupported by partner

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Hi everyone,

Feeling a little bit upset over this actually and wondered if I'm just being a bit over-emotional and unreasonable.

The street where we live is very narrow and there's always a lot of cars parked either side of the road. Today whilst coming home with my partner and baby in the back the Amazon delivery van was blocking up the whole road. I drove down to where I saw a gap to try and pull in but it was a lot tighter than I thought so when the van moved forward to drive off he couldn't get past.
I asked my partner for help (he doesn't drive but I thought perhaps he could ask the driver to go back) as I didn't feel confident reversing back up the hill to let him out.
So my partner asked but the driver (for whatever reason) said he couldn't so it was all on me. I was starting to feel quite flustered at this point and tried tucking my car in but to no avail. This continued for a while and I was conscious there were other cars waiting behind me at the top of the hill.

The Amazon driver then got out of the van and was stood at my driver's window saying I needed to go all the way back and as I was reversing was walking alongside my car barking orders at me all whilst my partner just stood there like an absolute lemon. It was really embarrassing and I felt completely unsupported. If my partner would have maybe had my back and explained I've got a 7 month old in the back of the car or something or simply been a bit more helpful I would have felt much better.

I should add that I had gone out in the car to collect him from work too!

Anyway we are currently not speaking as I feel incredibly upset and embarrassed and he hasn't come to say anything about it to me. AIBU?

Baffled at what you expected your non driving partner to do 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't drive.

What the fuck do you think I know about manoeuvring a too large for the road car into a space that you, a qualified driver, don't? I don't know if you've got enough space to make it, wouldn't have a clue whether you needed left hand or right hand down/full lock or whatever.

The most I could do would be get out of the passenger seat and keep out of your line of sight to the pavement.

Your shortcomings in slow speed manoeuvring, whilst significantly lesser than mine (as I can't do them) are still not my problem or responsibility - and I certainly wouldn't appreciate being bollocked for them because you felt embarrassed about them.

I feel for you OP and hope you're feeling over your embarrassment now. But what annoys me about stuff like this is the difference between men and women. A man wouldn't have felt flustered or embarrassed in this situation and so would have been able to reverse with a clear head. Where does it come from that women feel so uncomfortable and guilty for holding people up or taking time with a manuver?!
I say this as someone who used to feel this regularly but am working on being more 'man' and thinking fuck them they can wait!

I'm sorry but I must of missed the memo where the possession of a penis (assuming your partner is male) makes a non driver somehow magically expert in negotiating with in coming traffic and reversing up a hill.. sounds a bit 'damsel in distress ' (or weedy woman in my mind).

I have been driving for 40 years and have never required someone else's input to drive my car. All manoeuvres are your call as the driver it is your responsibility. If you don't feel confident driving in EVERY eventuality.. then you need more lessons . The AA do confidence building for nervous drivers. Do yourself , your child and your passengers a favour and get yourself on a course.

@mamamalt
A man wouldn't have felt flustered or embarrassed in this situation because he can’t then excuse it as daft flappy woman could he?
Either you’re a driver or you’re not, don’t blame everyone else for your failings.

Sorry OP, sounds stressful. Not worth not speaking to your partner over that one small incident though, communication is key and I always find the silent treatment so petty in adult relationships.