My friend who I love is getting married abroad in summer 2022. She has invited me along with my dh and 2 kids who will be 4 and 6 by then. Of course I want to see her get married but...
The wedding is the day after dd's 6th birthday and is in another country. It will cost probably £300-400 to go, maybe more, once you factor in flights, hotel, taxis etc. We can afford this but the money could be spent on many other things we are trying to save for.
I didn't want to take dc because I think they will be bored. The wedding is at 4pm and there isn't much else around there during the day. Also a 2.5 hour flight each way... It would be fine but not loving the idea. However, I am not willing to not be with dd on her birthday. We could fly out early on the day of the wedding possibly, providing that leaves enough time to get to the ceremony by 4pm. Then fly back early the next day. My parents will have dc for us but think 2 nights might be pushing it as they are 75 years old.
Or we could just take the dc and stay 2 nights. But then that means travelling on dd's birthday and doubles the cost.
On balance, I just think its too difficult to go, as much as it pains me to miss out on the day. But then how do I tell her...? She will be really upset with me if I don't go....