To not finish a meal somebody has bought me?

[Gingersundays]

This afternoon I went out for tea with a friend, today was on them as I paid last time.

We each had a starter and a main.

I got half way through my main and hit a wall, couldn't possibly stomach any more. If I forced it down I would have undoubtedly been sick. I'm pregnant and a bit queasy as it is.

Friend was really shocked I only ate half of the main, made a few light hearted comments like I should take it home and have it in a sandwich later as she she never let's food go to waste.

Was I rude not to finish the meal even if I physically couldn't?

Yes, whenever I am pregnant I always prefer being sick at the table than to stop eating.

Did you say to your friend 'I am pregnant and full' - I hope not, that would be terribly rude when you could simply vomit the message across the table to her/him

YANBU, unless you ordered the most expensive thing on the menu

Your friend is an arsehole.

They should've eaten it if they were that bothered.

She was rude to comment on it at all.

Does she know you are pregnant?

if this isn't the first time it's happened to you, YANBU.

If this has happened before, why didn't you just order two starters and no main meal? or why did you have a starter? and then YABU

@TinySaltLick

Yes, whenever I am pregnant I always prefer being sick at the table than to stop eating.

Did you say to your friend 'I am pregnant and full' - I hope not, that would be terribly rude when you could simply vomit the message across the table to her/him

I did yes, I said I couldn't possibly eat anything else otherwise I'd be sick.

That's when the light hearted comments came, and continued.

She never let's food go to waste
I should take it home cold for a sandwich
She'll eat my portion of cake she was going to give me from her baking.

I'm now wondering if she does think I've been rude

She's very frugal generally (though not short of money) which probably plays it's part.

Yanbu. I'm sure your friend wouldn't want you to be uncomfortable and definitely not in pain. I have a rule never to eat out of politeness. If I don't want it I don't eat it. I don't even have the excuse of being pregnant!

Did you not ask to take the leftovers home? I hate waste so probably would've done this! Wouldn't have commented on someone else's though, bit rude of your friend.

But why have a starter if you knew being pregnant that you would not eat your usually amount?

@espressoontap

Your friend is an arsehole.

They should've eaten it if they were that bothered.

Your friend is not an arsehole!

All she said was you should take the leftovers home? And I can't see she said anything that suggests it was to do with her paying?

Talk about blowing something out of proportion! From what you said she said there is no suggestion she was doing anything other than make a few lighthearted comments. Clearly you feel bad about it and are projecting

YANBU not to eat but why did you waste the food and not ask to take it home? I would have been upset too if I were your friend.

Why did you order a starter and a main if you can’t eat much?

On a few occasions when pregnant I was full but could barely eat.

As for taking home... Not everything is suitable to reheat... Chips for example.

That should say Hungry but could barely eat.

When she said you could take the leftovers home I think my response would have been "that's a good idea I'll do that" then everyone is happy. Even if you just chuck the leftovers away when you get in. She wouldn't know.

I would have found that quite rude. As an adult I would expect you to be able to judge roughly how hungry you are (unless the portions were surprisingly huge). If it had happened to me I would be very apologetic to the person who was paying for my meal.

Why not take it home?

The fact you have repeatedly said it was lighthearted is all you need to know. Your friend like many people just doesn't like to see food wasted and suggested you take it home for later. She was being kind so people need to stop being hysterical and called her rude and calling her names. At least op can blame her hormones for her overthinking. Op your friend dowsmt think you are rude just let it go. Hope it was a nice meal.

If you apologised and said you hadn't realised the portions would be so large when you ordered then YANBU. Or if it came on suddenly and you weren't expecting it.

She was being unreasonable for banging on about it though. It's like when people tell you to clear your plate as a child.

YANBU, it would never occur to me to be pissed off at someone for not finishing a meal whether I'd paid for it or not. You're an adult capable of making your own decisions - if she has a problem with you not wanting to eat until you're sick, she isn't a friend!

Not quite the same, but when at primary school, we couldn't leave the table until we have finished our 'dinner'.
I often have to put some in my pocket (or someone else's pocket) to get rid of the wretched stuff.

If only I'd had a handbag...

I think it's a bit rude to order a starter and a main if you know you are unlikely to finish them, I would always say something like 'this is delicious but I am so full I will ask the restaurant to pack it up so I can take it home' even if you bin it at home. I have a relative who always orders a lot of food (& doesn't pay her fair share) but then announces she is 'too full' to eat it all .

I would just say that I cant manage to finish the meal,and ask the waiter or waitress, to get me a doggy bag if the food was not too mushy.. I have done this before, and in some posh restaurants as well..
Nobody minds this, as its a sin to throw away good food, that you are paying for.

Not everything is suitable to reheat... Chips for example.

Chips are even better reheated! Just put them in a dry non-stick frying pan and move them now and again until piping hot.